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Why Wait until January for the Post-Holiday Blues?!

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Real Estate Agent with Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 228209

Why Wait until January for the Post-Holiday Blues?!

 

Dear DiaryWhile I don't use my website as a personal 'diary' (if you will), I do enjoy sharing tidbits of my personal life here, as I have so many relationships with fellow ActiveRain members! This is just a SUCH great place to share!

 

As many of you know (especially those of you who follow me on my personal Facebook page), my oldest son (Matthew), who is a native Charlottean, was recently transferred to Orlando.  

 

Shortly after he and his girlfriend were married, I began dreaming of grandchildren - I have none and personally, don't think I'm old enough to be a granny (LOL) but, I simply cannot wait!  I even dreamed of all of the babysitting I would be able to do when they have their first child!  I truly cannot wait! 

Matt & Mili 2014

 

Then, he received word of a big job promotion and while in my heart, I was sad to see him move away, I put on my happy face and congratulated him.  Of COURSE I am happy for him and so very proud of him but, it was simply going to be very difficult to see him go!

 

When he left, his wife had to remain here in Charlotte until her job ended (last week) so, we invited her to stay with us when Matt had made the move in September.  She is a pure ray of sunshine in our lives - we all ADORE her and have loved having her in our home for the past few months.  

 

Matt flew in for Christmas on Friday and today, as I stood in the door, watching he and his new bride leave, I was overcome with incredible sadness!  I know it's a quick flight to Orlando; I know, others have children on the East coast while they live on the West coast. Heck, there are many who have children serving overseas in the military or permanently living abroad - so, I have nothing to complain about, right?! Then why am I this BLUE?!!

 

Those who know me know that I am positive as near to 100% of the time as anyone on the planet -- well, that streak came to a screeching halt today!  LOL  Seriously, I'll be over it tomorrow but, now I completely understand the post-holiday blues!!  

 

The photo above (of Matt & Mili) was taken in our home, Christmas of 2014.  The photo below was taken yesterday when both boys were here for Christmas - truly the best gift of all for me was having them both here for the weekend!  

 

*Matt is on the left and Ryan on the right in the photo below.

Matt & Ryan

 

Happy Monday everyone!  Thanks for reading and for letting me 'poor-me' for a minute!  ;-)

 

© Debe Maxwell | The Maxwell House Group | CharlotteBroker@icloud.com | Why Wait until January for the Post-Holiday Blues?!

Comments(24)

Lisa Hernandez
Opes Real Estate Group - Kendall, FL
Realtor serving Kendall, South Miami & Pinecrest

I totally get it. I have had a roller coaster the last 6 years personally and the blues hit me on holidays more than I'd like... glad to know I am not alone. Kisses and hugs...

Dec 26, 2016 05:01 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

The nesting reflex takes over and then when the nest is empty again the soulful feelings return.  There will be another day

Dec 26, 2016 05:48 PM
JoAnn Moore
The Mortgage Market of Delaware - Georgetown, DE
Home Loans in Delaware

I can understand Debe. Our daughter has lived in Florida on and off for the last 13 years. It is hard to have her so far away but we talk at least 3 times a day on the phone. She flies home 3-4 times a year and we go down to visit and play in the parks usually once a year. 

You do look very young to become a grandmother but I guess that means you'llbe able to get down on the floor and play. 

Dec 26, 2016 06:15 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Gabe Sanders - Thanks for putting a smile on my face!  Great way to look at it!

Dec 26, 2016 06:22 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Myrl Jeffcoat - I guess I'll have to be a long-distance granny but, that's okay, I suppose!  ;-)

Dec 26, 2016 06:23 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

I know - I'm being a weiny, aren't I, Kathleen Daniels!?!  When they both came back to Charlotte with jobs after college, I thought my life was set, having them both in the same city!  Now, I'm empty-nesting again!

Dec 26, 2016 06:58 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

William Feela - you're so right - FaceTime is as though you were there!  I am just too sentimental!

Dec 26, 2016 06:59 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Kisses and hugs back to you, Lisa Hernandez!  I hope that this year was so much better for you!

Dec 26, 2016 07:01 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Ed Silva - that's exactly what it is - that empty nest syndrome...AGAIN!  I thought I was done with all of that!  LOL  And, you're right, there will be another day...

Dec 26, 2016 07:02 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

JoAnn Moore - that has got to be tough but, seeing her 5 times a year is also probably more quality time that we would get living in the same city!  Having 'guests' in the home, you tend to work a lot less and tend to your guests a lot more!  

Dec 26, 2016 07:03 PM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Debe

As our families grown and mature they leave the cocoon.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Dec 26, 2016 07:32 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

I know, Lou Ludwig - My heart just aches right now - this too shall pass!  Have a great evening!

Dec 26, 2016 07:37 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Good morning Debe.  Think of it as a chance to make a road trip for a visit. 

Dec 27, 2016 03:33 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Debe. It's OK to feel how you feel and you will be better when you feel better.

Dec 27, 2016 06:17 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Good morning, James Dray - There IS a silver lining in every single cloud, isn't there?!  I love the way you think!

Dec 27, 2016 06:17 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you Sheila Anderson, time heals all broken hearts, doesn't it?!  Seriously, I'm not nearly as blue today as I was yesterday - I just dove into work first thing this morning and that did the trick!  ;-)

Dec 27, 2016 06:19 AM
Brian Rugg
Rugg Realty LLC Sun City Texas 512-818-6700 - Georgetown, TX
Sun City TX Real Estate - Georgetown, TX Real Est

Debe Maxwell:

Absence make the heart grow fonder? Florida is a hop, skip, & jump away. You may even discover there is some kind of (yet unrealized) benefit to the new circumstances. One can always hope.

Dec 27, 2016 01:42 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Very true, Brian Rugg - life if full of surprises!  This is definitely a potential silver lining, for sure!

Dec 27, 2016 02:14 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

You and your boys are beautiful! How wonderful that you got to spend time with both of them. Now get your calendar out and make a bunch of appointments to visit Orlando.

Dec 29, 2016 07:47 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Debe- I cried every day for two weeks when we first moved to Florida about 30 years ago.  Everyone has the PPM's (Poor Pitiful Me's) and it really does help to share them with your friends ...real or virtual.  Orlando is easy to get to and you can drive it (in a pinch) so I have a feeling you'll be seeing more of Florida!!!

Dec 31, 2016 12:49 PM