How To Handle Conflicts In Real Estate and In Life

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How To Handle Conflicts In Real Estate and In Life

 

A collegue of mine shared this fantastic conflict resolution tool. Unfortunately I am not sure who the original author was, but it sure makes a lot of sense to me!   Can you see how this can be useful in dealing with co-workers, clients, contractors, colleagues and even family members?   

 

AAA Failsafe Feedback Framework


1. “I want to talk to you about (issue).

My positive intention for this conversation is….”

 

2. “I noticed / saw / heard….”
This is where you objectively state facts without emotion

 

3. “I was thinking….”
My opinions, fears, concerns, conclusions I drew, meaning I made, the story I told myself  (without blame, judgment or criticism)


4. “I felt….”
Feelings triggered in me (mad, sad, glad, scared) (without implying the other person
caused them)


5. “I intend / want….”
Positive intentions and outcomes I want for you, me, us, and the situation


6. “I request ….”
Specific Do Differently behaviors and actions

 

7. “I’m doing / owning / contributing….”
What I’m doing, the commitment I’m making, the part I’m playing in the solution


8. “I’m listening….”   

 I genuinely want to hear you and find a solution that works for both of us

 

Allow the other party to respond completely.  Do not allow yourself to get sucked into the blame game.

 

Do you think this will really work?  I sure do and now I am really looking forward to the next conflict!  I love having an action plan!!

 

How To Handle Conflicts In Real Estate and In Life

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Bridget McGee  Maryland Mortgage Mama  NMLS# 196068  SWBC Mortgage.   410-960-2061 EHO   bridget.mcgee@swbc.com or www.marylandmortgagemama.com

 

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Rainmaker
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
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With any conversation we need to be able to step back and watch, rather than getting sucked in and allowing our emotions/feelings to take control.When wecan learn to do that consistently and remain open life improves. I think these steps go a ways towards helping with that.

Jan 24, 2017 07:57 AM #1
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Belinda Spillman
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I really like number 8.  Great list of responses to keep in mind.

Jan 24, 2017 08:14 AM #2
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Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, GRI, WLS
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B ridget that's similiar to a technique I learned way back in college in an Effective Listening Course.  A little 'staged' in the wording but if folks make it their own lanquage it works out better. My 2 cents!

Jan 24, 2017 08:26 AM #3
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Carol Williams
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Good morning, Bridget. Excellent subject.  Conflict, on various levels, is all around us... every day.   Resolving conflict is about making the other person feel heard and respected.... and tactfully explaining your position and how you came to those conclusions.  And, being open to discussion.  

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