When you think of your Dream Home, what do you think of? If money was not a problem, would that change your desires? What elements are your “must haves”? Do you want a wide front porch with rocking chairs? Would you like to have an outdoor kitchen and patio overlooking a pool? Enough room for all of your children and grandchildren to come over and be comfortable? Large master bath and a Jacuzzi tub? Lots of storage space, large closets, big kitchens, and low maintenance landscaping are other things that also top most lists.
Maybe you want a House on the lake? A log cabin in the woods? A modern mansion on the golf course? A quaint little cottage with a white picket fence?
So you know what YOU want. But what about your spouse? Do you and your wife disagree when it comes to buying your Dream Home? Does your husband think your log cabin is equivalent to living like Laura Ingalls? According to DailyMail.com, men and women have different ideas of what makes up a Dream Home. Women prefer to have more bedrooms and worry about school districts, while men are more concerned with the distance of the commute to work. I can definitely agree that my wife and I have different ideas of what we want…..in every arena. I like to spend money. She doesn’t. (In fact, large purchases make her physically ill!) I want 100 acres and horses. She doesn’t. She likes the yard to look like it belongs to a Stepford Wife. I don’t care. I could go on…..but I don’t want to sleep on the couch tonight!
My family and I love to camp, and we were recently on the search for a new RV. Of course, I wanted a huge, expensive motor home, and she wanted to just upgrade our 5th wheel. (You already know who won , but I’ll tell you the story anyway!) We both knew what features we each wanted (these ideas were similar), and we both knew what we wanted to spend (we had a VERY different ideas about this!). When we went shopping, there was a lot of frustration at first because of this huge dissimilarity.
When you get to a place in your life when you’re thinking of purchasing your Dream Home, there are some things you must do. First, make a list, and I mean an extensive one. Put down everything you want, kinda want or might want at some point. Have your significant other do the same. While you’re making your list of “gotta haves”, go ahead and think about neighborhood and area. Some other things to consider are amount of land included, and style of the home. Don’t try to do this quickly, because you will think of more things as time goes along. Once you’re done with your list, compare yours to your spouse’s, and combine them into a master list. Be sure to compromise!! Next, talk finances! (This is one time in your life when it is not bad manners to talk about how much money you make!) Decide on a budget that you can comfortably afford, and STICK TO IT. Finally, it’s time to start shopping!!
Everyone’s idea of a “dream home” is different. Yours doesn’t have to cost millions of dollars (now we all know mine probably would!). Whatever you choose, I promise it’s out there. It can be found. So start on those lists, and when you’re done, make it happen.