Buttons - RIP

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pet friendly homes for sale in boca ratonOn Monday morning, we put Buttons to sleep.  She became critically ill and went downhill very fast.


Buttons came to us at 5 months old.  She just celebrated her 14th birthday on January 1st.



We took her to our vet who asked to do an X-ray and some blood work before we made any decisions.  She had acute pancreatitis, fever of 105, was breathing on one lung and some other issue with her stomach, that we feel was cancer. She was in terrible pain.


Vet told us even if she was able to stabilize her from the pancreatitis and bring her fever down, we would then have to deal with her lung issue, which could be fluid or cancer, as well as her stomach issue, which could be the same.  She went on to say that given her age, mortality was high.


We really had no choice.  Buttons hated being poked, prodded or even groomed. Through the years, she had her share of health issues.  We did not want to see her suffer in pain any longer.  


It has taken me 4 days to write this post.  We are heartbroken.  Gracie is grieving her friend terribly.  This is the worst thing we have to do as pet parents.  It never gets easier, but the joy Buttons brought us for 14 years was well worth it.  She even helped me to win a contest here on Active Rain!


RIP my baby Buttons.  You were so loved.  Fly free with the other butterflies.  


Buttons Berman


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Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

We just ( Right after Christmas) lost a nearly 17 year old Pug. It's so difficult, it's hard to describe the pain. It's really like losing a family member - because they really our a part of our family. So sorry. 

Feb 09, 2017 03:01 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

Debb,  I'm so sorry to hear about your Pug.  He had a good, long life.  I know the pain you're referring to.  They are family members.  It's so hard to let go, even though we know it's the right thing to do.  Thank you.

Feb 09, 2017 05:51 PM
Diana White-Pettis
Bennett Realty Solutions - Upper Marlboro, MD
GRI, CDPE, CNE, WHC Upper Marlboro Homes for Sale


I'm so sorry for your loss.  Buttons was beautiful and I know she is missed dearly.  The great thing is that you have so many memories to cherish.  Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Feb 09, 2017 05:43 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

Diana White-Pettis Thank you.  She is greatly missed by all, but will always remain in our hearts.

Feb 18, 2017 06:02 PM
Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV
Cornerstone Business Group Inc - Winchester, VA
Your Neighborhood Real Estate Sales Pro

Elyse, I am so sorry to hear about Buttons. The pain at a time like this makes me wonder why we humans even invite these fury creatures into our homes, and then the years of laughs, smiles and pure joy flood my mind, and that's when I realize that it's their God given mission to bring light and love to our sometimes complicated lives. They do it simply and without limitations. That's why it's so hard to say goodbye. They give without compromise or condition, and even though we have to let them climb the rainbow bridge, we will see them again, and what a glorious day that will be. Be at peace my friend.

Feb 09, 2017 07:42 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

Mike,  Thank you for your very comforting words.  The joy they bring us throughout their short lives makes it all worthwhile.  I look forward to seeing them all one day.

Feb 18, 2017 06:01 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I am so sorry to hear about Buttons. It is so hard to make that decision to say goodbye, but sometimes it is the only decision. I wish you peace. 

Feb 10, 2017 04:45 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Kat Palmiotti Thank you.  It was heartbreaking but it was the right decision.  Thanks for stopping by.

Feb 18, 2017 05:59 PM
Kristine Ginsberg
Elite Staging and Redesign, LLC - Short Hills, NJ
NJ Home Stager

Elyse - I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your beloved Buttons. I've been there and their aren't words for the deep loss you feel. You're in my thoughts...

Feb 10, 2017 06:18 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Thanks, Kristine.  I'm sorry for your loss, too.  Thanks for the kind thoughts.

Feb 18, 2017 05:58 PM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

Elyse, it is so hard when we lose a member of the family. Buttons was well loved...that is all that matters.

Feb 10, 2017 07:00 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Jeff,  Thank you.  Buttons was well loved for sure.

Feb 18, 2017 05:57 PM

we understand...sending you a soft hug (((( )))))

still holding  a wide heart-wrench for our Quincy...he made it to 25!..and was totally conscious when he took a deep breath ..(while sitting on my heart) ...looked me in the eye,


... and left his body...

Feb 10, 2017 08:55 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

25 - wow!  Quincy looks like a papillon; was he?  Thanks for the hug.  

Feb 18, 2017 05:47 PM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

It is always sad to lose unconditional love. Our standard dies last May at 14 and there are times in my minds eye I can see her romping in the backyard and I am lucky I took videos of her to remember.

Feb 10, 2017 08:56 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Joe Pryor I'm sorry to hear about your standard.  I've always liked your photo with the dog.  It is very sad.  I also see her in my mind's eye and have some videos, but she will always be in my heart.

Feb 18, 2017 05:57 PM
Noel Mayer
Upper Montclair Weichert Realtors - Montclair, NJ

Deepest sympathy and sorry for your loss.  

Feb 10, 2017 11:12 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Noel Mayer Thank you.

Feb 18, 2017 05:55 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Hi Elyse... I read this with tears streaming down my face... we lost our 15 year-old Gracie a year ago October. I had to make the same decision and sat with her until the end. It was like losing a child.  I still miss her every day... and it took me weeks to write something about that loss. My heart goes out to you and I'm sending you a big virtual hug.

Feb 11, 2017 04:02 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Nina Hollander Thank you for the kind words.  I'm sorry to hear about your Gracie; I have a Gracie too.  It took me some time to write about it, and still I tear up when I see her photo or think of her.  They are our children - what can I say.  Thank you for the virtual hug!

Feb 18, 2017 05:55 PM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-617-6375
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers

Elyse Berman 
Losing her was certainly losing a family member. Sorry for your loss. Lynn

Feb 13, 2017 07:16 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Lynn B. Friedman Some people think we're nuts, but it is losing a family member.  She was part of our family for 14 years.  Thank you for the kind words.

Feb 18, 2017 05:53 PM
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

Elyse Berman - My heart aches for you. Our pets are family members who give us so much joy and all they want is to be loved. The best gift we can give them, in the end, is not to let them suffer just because we can't let go. I've had 4 close friends make this decision in the last 3 months, very heart wrenching.

Feb 18, 2017 05:37 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® Thank you so much.  I agree with you 100%.  It was so hard to let go, but it was the right thing to do for Buttons and your friends' dogs, as well.

Feb 18, 2017 05:52 PM
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
Serving Coastal San Diego, Veteran's & Seniors

Peroni & I send our condolences. I lost my Dakota 14 years ago and I still miss him. It took me 10 years to get Peroni because I just wasn't ready.

San Diego

Feb 18, 2017 05:44 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

Thank you.  I've had dogs before but this one was rough.

 Peroni looks very happy and is a beautiful dog.  We have to do things in our own time.  I don't think there is a right or wrong on this one.  

We had two.   My other one was devasted, as they were together over 10 years.  So we added another dog for company.  An older dog who is a better fit for her, as she will be 11 soon.  So far, so good.

Feb 18, 2017 05:50 PM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

It hurts to lose a pet and one that has been with the family and part of the family. They take a little part of us with them when they go.

Feb 18, 2017 07:43 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

They really do, Debbie.  Buttons had been with us for 14 years.

Mar 02, 2017 04:06 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Elyse, I am so sad, it is always hard to loose a family member and I do not want to hear that 14 was a good year, we want them to live forever... well Buttons is no playing with many of our lost family members at Rainbow Bridge....Endre

Feb 18, 2017 09:47 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

Endre,  It was very difficult.  Been through other times, but this seemed harder.  Thank you for the kind words.  I hope Buttons is running free with your guys at Rainbow Bridge.

Mar 02, 2017 04:07 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

So sorry to hear about your loss, our pets are part of our family and losing one is wrenching for all the family. I remember my 18 year old  tough son was in tears when our fist cat died. I don't remember seeing him cry before that, he just wouldn't.

Feb 22, 2017 07:46 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

I get it, Nick & Trudy.  I'm sorry about your cat, but can understand how attached your son was.  My husband was the same way.

Mar 02, 2017 04:08 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Elyse -- I'm sorry to hear of your loss - regardless of when it happens, it's never easy and some are more difficult than others.  Buttons was also the name of our first dog when I was growing up.   

Take care and may the wonderful memories of Buttons provide some consolation.  

Feb 27, 2017 09:50 AM
Elyse Berman, PA

Thank you for the kind words, Michael.  That's funny Buttons was the name of your first dog.

I have many wonderful memories of Buttons.  

Feb 28, 2017 02:56 AM
John Meussner
Mortgages in AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, IN, MD, MN, MT, NC, NJ, NV, OK, OR, PA, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

So sorry to read this, Elyse!  It's never easy to say good bye to our best friends.  Glad to know you had so many good years with Buttons & you'll always have those memories.

Mar 01, 2017 03:18 PM
Elyse Berman, PA

Thank you, John.  This one wasn't easy, but I do have wonderful memories.  

Mar 02, 2017 04:09 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

I hope that you are beginning to move to a different place in your grief for Buttons.  I still miss my first cat and it will be twenty plus years since I had to put him down.  

Oct 23, 2017 03:58 AM
Elyse Berman, PA
LoKation Real Estate - Boca Raton, FL
Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824

Thank you for the kind words, Lise.  It's been 8 months and I miss her every day.  Corrie came to join us and, amazingly, has many of the same traits as Buttons did.  

I understand how you can still miss your cat.  I've had other animals and miss them all.  Buttons was especially hard though.

Oct 23, 2017 04:05 AM