For those who don't know, ActiveRain is a real estate blogging platform where thousands of experts share their experiences and advice. We've been asked to share our "pet peeve".
We all have pet peeves. Most are minor in nature -- that's the true definition of a pet peeve... something that gets under our skin that's annoying, bothersome, etc. Your pet peeve may not be an important issue to ME and my pet peeve may be completely irrelevant to YOU. See how that works?
My "pet peeve" is pettiness. We can all be petty from time to time. Our pettiness can annoy and alienate friends and co-workers, loved ones, etc. Bosses can be petty with employees, and focus on the minutiae to make employees miserable. Husbands can irritate wives (and vice versa) with objectionable habits they aren't even aware of.
We can be unaware of our pettiness. People can focus on the smallest, insignificant detail and "not see the forest for the trees". Although challenging, I believe looking at "the big picture" is more important that being bogged down on the minute details.
Without meaning to be, buyers and sellers can be petty in real estate negotiations. They can blow a sale over a tiny detail while forgetting to look toward the end result. Of course, we deal with the details, but if all sides feel as if they "won", everyone will be happier.
Experienced Realtors should encourage the use of common sense during negotiations to help all parties reach a happy meeting of the minds. If you catch yourself being petty, take a deep breath. Put yourself in the other person's shoes for a brief moment, and keep the end game in mind.
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