Pettiness is My Pet Peeve

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Real Estate Agent with Front Gate Real Estate Broker 11085

For those who don't know, ActiveRain is a real estate blogging platform where thousands of experts share their experiences and advice. We've been asked to share our "pet peeve".

 

We all have pet peeves. Most are minor in nature --  that's the true definition of a pet peeve... something that gets under our skin that's annoying, bothersome, etc. Your pet peeve may not be an important issue to ME and my pet peeve may be completely irrelevant to YOU. See how that works?

 

My "pet peeve" is pettiness.  We can all be petty from time to time. Our pettiness can annoy and alienate friends and co-workers, loved ones, etc. Bosses can be petty with Ecology Treeemployees, and focus on the minutiae to make employees miserable. Husbands can irritate wives (and vice versa) with objectionable habits they aren't even aware of.

 

We can be unaware of our pettiness. People can focus on the smallest, insignificant detail and "not see the forest for the trees". Although challenging, I believe looking at "the big picture" is more important that being bogged down on the minute details.

 

Without meaning to be, buyers and sellers can be petty in real estate negotiations. They can blow a sale over a tiny detail while forgetting to look toward the end result. Of course, we deal with the details, but if all sides feel as if they "won", everyone will be happier.

 

Experienced Realtors should encourage the use of common sense during negotiations to help all parties reach a happy meeting of the minds. If you catch yourself being petty, take a deep breath. Put yourself in the other person's shoes for a brief moment, and keep the end game in mind.

 

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Jeff Dowler, CRS
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Hi Pat

I think we can all identify with pettiness and being annoyed by it, in life and in our business. Sometimes, unfortunately what is petty really can become a big issue and cause far more problems than one would ever expect. Some things are just not worth worrying about.

Jeff

Apr 20, 2017 05:35 PM #1
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Will Hamm
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Hello Pat,  so true with alot in your blog here.  I wonder why some people are the way they are.

 

Apr 20, 2017 05:51 PM #2
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Kathleen Daniels
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Pat, So true ... what bothers one person another person may not even notice. Sometimes it is better to let the little annoyances go ... it is much better for our health.  Easier said that done. I do let many things get under my skin.

Thank you for participating in the contest. 

Apr 20, 2017 06:31 PM #3
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Michelle Edwards
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Your pet peeve is valid, especially in business.  I agree, we must keep the end game in mind.

Apr 20, 2017 06:48 PM #4
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Hannah Williams
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Pat Starnes  This is an emotional reaction.We have to keep our minds on the goal at hand . Sometimes these little things have to be put in the right perspective . We have to keep emotions in check .It is not easy is it ?

Apr 20, 2017 07:15 PM #5
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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
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I agree with your sentence, "Experienced Realtors should encourage the use of common sense"

Apr 21, 2017 02:01 AM #6
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Myrl Jeffcoat
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CONGRATULATIONS Pat, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!    

 

Apr 21, 2017 02:04 AM #7
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Joe Pryor
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I find that more deals fall apart on some small and silly stuff, not the big stuff.

Apr 21, 2017 08:00 AM #8
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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
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Jeff Dowler - I had to deal with another person's pettiness last night, and had to take my own advice! My first reaction was to fire off an email, but instead I hit the pause button, put down the phone, and said I would deal with it today. Deep breaths!

 

Apr 21, 2017 08:44 AM #9
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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
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Will Hamm - It must be human nature. Some things just get under our skin!

Kathleen Daniels - Thanks for the contest and blog idea. Just last night someone annoyed the you-know-what out of me, and I had to take my own advice. Breathe deeply and don't fire back. It isn't easy to do.

 

Apr 21, 2017 08:46 AM #10
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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
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Michelle Edwards - Thanks for the comment! It's hard to keep the end game in mind when someone is pushing your buttons, but it's what we have to do. Eye on the prize!

Hannah Williams - Not easy to keep emotions in check. I struggle with it like everyone else. :)

 

Apr 21, 2017 08:50 AM #11
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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
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Myrl Jeffcoat - Thanks so much for featuring me in your group. Appreciate the honor. :)

Joe Pryor - Amen! Everyone needs to stay focused on the prize and not on the petty issues. And keep negative emotions at bay.

 

Apr 21, 2017 08:52 AM #12
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Good afternoon Pat Starnes     - people can really get twisted during these negotiations.   It takes a real estate agent with lots of interpersonal skills 

Apr 21, 2017 11:15 AM #13
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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
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Grant Schneider - almost immediately after writing this post, I had to take my own advice to stay focused and eye-on-the-prize. Thank goodness I didn't let the other person's pettiness sidetrack our negotiations. 

Apr 22, 2017 01:43 PM #14
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