Self Reflection - Strengths vs Weaknesses

Real Estate Agent with Front Gate Real Estate Broker 11085

Our challenge for the month is to write a post discussing our strengths and weaknesses. Before writing my entry, I read through several articles and found a common theme resonating in others' posts; our strengths and weaknesses are the same. Being able to use a weakness and turn it into a positive ~ well, that's just what successful people do.


I read John Meussner's  post Are Strengths Any Different Than Weaknesses? If you haven't read it, hop over there and check it out. John talks about his persistence being both a strength and a weakness; being persistent can and will make you successful, but it can lead to exhaustion if you don't take breaks and recharge every now and then.


Jon Kolsky wrote the following paragraph in his entry, Being The Best Version You Can Be!

"It is also important to understand that sometimes our strengths can also become our weaknesses. Example: I love to laugh and smile, which I believe is a strength I have. But too much laughing and smiling, especially when not appropriate can turn my strength into a weakness!

 I also want to point out that just as it is important to build on natural talent to maximize strengths, it is also just as important to understand and improve on weaknesses, too. Both deserve much attention and in doing so should help us better achieve our highest potential."


For Candor & Integrity a double edged sword , read Endre Barath, Jr.'s insightful post. At times, I feel like Endre, that brutal honesty could cost a sale or two, but I'd rather my clients be informed of potential concerns than have a transaction blow up down the road, or worse yet, have a problem arise after closing that might have been avoided with complete candor.


So, what are MY strengths and weaknesses, you ask? 


  1. I'm a procrastinator. That's a weakness, but since I work great under pressure (aka deadlines), it's also one of my strengths.
  2. I could do a better job of staying in touch with past clients. Sure, there's social media, but it isn't the same as a phone call, text, or personal visit.
  3. I won't be the first person in the office in the morning, but I could very well be the last one to leave at night. I work until the job is done. Fill me with coffee and I'm the Energizer Bunny.
  4. My desk is messy. My car is messy. Ok. I AM MESSY! If a messy desk is a sign of genius, then I am brilliant, and creative, and think out-of-the-box. That's a strength for my clients and soon-to-be clients. P.S.: I do wish I were better organized and tidy.
  5. My clients needs come first, sometimes to the detriment of my personal needs. This leads to another subject that will be discussed in a future post... balance. We ALL need to exercise balance in all aspects of our lives. Balance and moderation ~ something I strive for but seldom achieve. I'm an all-or-nothing kind of gal.


Our weaknesses can also be our greatest strengths. What are yours?


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Comments (13)

Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Pat, thank you for your kind words and including me in your post, I am honored and humbled. Now on a side note do you have a camera on me? Clearly all your points must have been taken by watching me or we are siblings by different mothers??:))Endre

Diane always complains about the "mess"

May 21, 2017 11:40 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Pat

I really enjoyed your post!! We all have strengths and weaknesses, and being aware of them is always a good thing.

Enjoy the rest of your Sunday!


May 21, 2017 12:26 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

I've never been a procrastinator.  I need to know things are done, especially the things I dread. I want it over with!

May 21, 2017 04:46 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

This post is a great contribution to the "Strengths and Weaknesses" challenge.  I'm not much of a procrastinator, but can relate to needing to work more on staying in touch with past clients.

May 22, 2017 02:56 AM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good Morning Pat - I enjoyed reading about your strengths and weaknesses.  I can tell that you are a hard worker.  I will look forward to your post on work life balance.

May 22, 2017 04:52 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Pat,
I have found it very interesting the common thread in posts about weaknesses and strengths crossing over each other.  We DO have a lot in common... using our procrastination to inspire us.  My messiness is pretty much confined to my home office... and sometimes my car because I travel so much.  Thanks for much for the post!

May 22, 2017 07:12 AM
Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Pat Starnes ~ having a better understanding of our strengths and weaknesses is my favorite thing about this challenge. It is so important that we embrace our strengths and strengthen our weaknesses, and this exercise is perfect and helpful in accomplishing both PS: THANK YOU, I really appreciate the mention  

May 22, 2017 10:14 AM
John Meussner
Mortgages in AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, IN, MD, MN, MT, NC, NJ, NV, OK, OR, PA, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

Love the sentiment, and can relate in many ways, especially on being an amazing worker with enough coffee in me!

May 22, 2017 12:04 PM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Endre Barath, Jr. - no camera, like minds think (and behave) alike.

Sharon Tara - I think you're either born with the neatness/ non-procrastinating gene or not. I wasn't!

Carol Williams - I can't lie about my messiness. It spills into my car, kitchen, office, everything! Thank goodness for good list-making abilities. :)

Jon Kolsky - I think you can share member-only posts; it's just that non-members wouldn't understand the reference. I made my post public because I like the page views.

John Meussner - Twins from another mother!


May 22, 2017 01:34 PM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

You and I have a lot in common.  I'm also never going to be the first in the office, but I am often the last one leaving.

May 22, 2017 01:52 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

It's important to know both equally and important to know what your strengths are that can be easily strengthen even more, as you were kind of saying in so many words

May 30, 2017 11:55 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

You and Chris Ann Cleland do you have quite a lot in common and I think that's only a great thing overall!

May 30, 2017 11:56 PM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Laura Cerrano - I'm proud to be considered in the same group as Chris Ann Cleland. If only I were more like her!

May 31, 2017 07:28 AM