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When Did Ridiculing Others Become a Popular Sport?

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Real Estate Agent with Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 0225085927

So, who hasn't seen the listing of the artist's house in Richmond, Texas that has been making the rounds on social media this past week? 

Although admittedly, my first instinct was "WTH?" I admit, after looking at the photos a few times, I thought the house was sort of cool in a cluttered, artistic kind of way.  I didn't give it too much thought at first, but then it started showing up everywhere, accompanied by a number of less than complimentary comments. 

Criticism of the home owner, her taste, her belongings and even her agent (who must be INCOMPETENT, if the indignant comments were to be believed) were all over social media this week. 

And it started to really bother me and make me think about who we are as a society. 

After all, this IS someone's home and regardless of what we think, making fun of someone's home isn't cool, although it certainly has seemed to have become quite the sport over the years. 

I admit, over the years, I, too,  have groaned over some of the "hideous" listing photos, cringed at the frightening doll collections and probably commented, too, until I realized it really wasn't funny.

Sometimes it's just downright cruel.  And aren't we better than that? Rather, shouldn't we be?  

When did making fun of people become such sport?  And while this certainly doesn't rise to the level of depraved indifference as did the tragedy in Cocoa, FL this week, it isn't anything to be proud of, either.  It may seem harmless, but to me it chips away at our humanity when we fail to see there is a human being behind every one of these photos we so eagerly and so publicly trash, without any consideration. 

Sure, I'm as grossed out by filth and clutter as the next person, but when I started thinking about it, I decided (a) it's not really any of my business; (b) people can live however they wish although I sincerely hope no animals or children are subjected to some of the conditions I have seen and (c) some of these people may be seriously in need of social services intervention instead of internet-wide ridicule. 

Yes, some of the writing on blog posts that focus on poking fun at people's homes is sharp and quick witted, but I also find it, well, kind of cruel.  I may be in the minority, though, judging from how many people laud these writers as just downright hilarious.  I guess as I get older I don't find as much humor in making fun of others as I did when I was a lot younger. 

Do I cringe at some of what I see people do to their homes?  Of course, but this steady rush of ridicule all over social media has been a big turn off for me. 

I won't pretend to understand why some people feel the need to make themselves feel better by pointing out the perceived failures of others - and again, I've definitely been guilty of it in the past, so I am taking my lumps here, too - but with social media in the picture, it has taken on a life of its own and I don't think it reflects well on us at all. 

I know the next time I see something like this and am tempted to add my $.02, I'm going to stop and consider this is someone's life and we have no idea what is going on in it.  

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Lynn Lappert

The local news did a piece on "the mannequin house" including quotes from the listng agent, of which the homewner would have given consent. We all have a house like that in our neighborhood, known for something that sets it apart, like the pastel color exterior reserved for an island bungalow, or the whimsical gaggle of faded pink flamingos on the lawn -and although the new owners make the necessary "improvements" will always be known as "the pink house."

Jul 27, 2017 05:07 AM
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Anna Hatridge
R Gilliam Real Estate LLC - Farmington, MO
Missouri Realtor with R Gilliam Real Estate LLC

Seems to me it takes a lot more effort to criticize others than it does to give a kind word to anyone struggling.  

Jul 27, 2017 07:10 AM
Dorte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Susan,

Those who point fingers always have three pointing back at themselves. What is wrong with a little originality, if it does not really bother anyone else.

Jul 27, 2017 10:41 AM
Anonymous
Amanda Murphy

I agree whole-heartedly. We have become crueler as a society, and social media makes it easier and easier. I guess it's human nature to look for those who are "beneath" us so we can feel superior.

Jul 27, 2017 10:57 AM
#114
Stavrula "Sam" Crafa, RNC,GRI, CDPE, PSA
Future Home Realty - Seminole, FL
Providing the integrity and service you deserve.

No one is perfect and until you walk in someones shoes, you don't know what's going on with them or what they have been through. We all need to be more kind, caring, compassionate and not judge and that includes me. 

Jul 27, 2017 09:08 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

Congrats on your well deserved feature Susan Haughton. Our society has changed but not always for the better...

Jul 30, 2017 03:43 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I feel like if you don't have a solution to what you're complaining about about others, then you shouldn't really say anything

Aug 02, 2017 11:50 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

To clarify, I mean that to say that it has to be constructive and helpful person become better in some way

Aug 02, 2017 11:51 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

I love the support you have gotten for this post, Susan - I'm so glad you posted this!  Happy Thursday!

Aug 03, 2017 06:58 PM
John Meussner
Catalyst Mortgage - Fair Oaks, CA
#MortgageMadeEasy Fair Oaks, CA 484-680-4852

Love it, Susan!  People love to be negative, but shining light into people's lives is what we're here to do : )

Aug 04, 2017 04:11 PM
Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES
Tropic Shores Realty - Ich spreche Deutsch! - Spring Hill, FL
Florida Waterfront and Country Club Living

Susan, people will say and write things on social media that they wouldn't even consider saying in person. It's as if they think they are hidden behind a veil f nonrecognition or something.

Aug 07, 2017 04:55 PM
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good morning Susan - I agree with you.  We spend too much time putting others down rather than showing good things.  No one likes to be ridiculed.

Aug 08, 2017 07:34 AM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

Wow Susan

Great post my friend, congrats on the Gold Star fro the AR Gods and your post has been featured to the group:

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Sorry I came around so late to read your post

Aug 13, 2017 03:57 PM
Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

Never too late, Robert Vegas Bob Swetz  and thanks for the feature!

Aug 13, 2017 06:33 PM
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Las Vegas, NV

You are so very welcome Susan

Aug 13, 2017 09:33 PM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Susan

Criticizing someone serves no productive purpose.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Aug 26, 2017 08:03 PM
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC

Susan

Congratulations on a well earned feature for an outstanding post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Aug 26, 2017 08:05 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Just popped in to say hello and see if you had posted a new article, Susan!

I hope you're doing well and having a fabulous Sunday!

Aug 27, 2017 01:45 PM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

So happy to have found this - although, I'm really late to the party. I thought the same thing when I saw the listing on Facebook with all the nasty comments.  If we can't say something nice...put a sock in it. Ha. D 

Oct 01, 2017 08:52 AM
Ricardo Mello
Manhattan Miami Real Estate - Manhattan, NY
Manhattan & Miami Real Estate Agent

Great post!

May 27, 2018 10:26 AM