Why "I told you so" never works

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Real Estate Agent with Buyer's Edge Company Inc
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It feels sooo good to be right!

 

It's a little bit happy mixed with smugness and a lofty feeling of superiority. And there are so many opportunities to be RIGHTFace of a tiger

  • The waiter/waitress screws up your order-Travesty! How dare they! Do they not know who I am! Are they really that stupid?
  • Daughter finally breaks up with the nightmare boyfriend-You should have listened to my advice long ago!  I saw him for who he really was, if only you could have listened to me back then!
  • Husband procastinates...again-If you had started working on this project weeks ago, when I told you, you wouldn't be up all night trying to get it done on time! 
  • Client gets burned by their lender - I told you not to go with an online lender/lender from out of the area! Now you're upset because they won't answer your phone calls and we may need to reschedule settlement or worse!
  • Home buyer loses in a competitive contract situation  -   You should have listened to my advice regarding (fill in the blank) and you probably would have the house. After all, I am the real estate professional!

Do you get the idea?

Do you see yourself in any of these situations? 

 

When you have the opportunity to be right, take a breath. That moment before you respond is critical. It's a potential turning point. 

You see, being right means that someone else has had a turn of bad luck. Things didn't work out the way they planned and now they're dealing with the fallout. 

 

Are you going to offer help and support? Or are you going to say, "I told you so!"

In this moment, you have an opportunity to gain someones trust. You have a chance to show them that you will share your expertise and experience in order to help them achieve their desired results or goal.

No one has to lose, just because you are right. 

 

Learn more about Victoria & Marshall Henderson at HomesBuyHendersons

Learn more about Buyer's Edge

photo credit to Ian Robinson Unsplash.com 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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4849 Rugby Avenue Bethesda Maryland 20814 office 301.657.1475 cell 301.922.1677

 

Victoria Henderson is Vice President & Associate Broker with Buyer's Edge, Exclusive Buyer Agent & Realtor in Virginia, Maryland and Washington DC. Victoria is a certified Military Relocation Professional 

 

 

Marshall Henderson is a Certified Negotiation Expert & Exclusive Buyer Agent with Buyer's Edge & Realtor in Virginia, Maryland and Washington DC

Certified Negotiation Expert

 

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Rainmaker
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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
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Good morning, Victoria Ray Henderson Marshall Henderson .  Nobody wants to hear "I told you so".  They want to hear "How can I help you"?

Sep 09, 2017 10:20 AM #1
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Christine Kankowski North SD and Temecula
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WE've all been in the situation where we could have takens someones advice, adn we've all been in the situation where someone should have taken ours.

I know our business well, but I still dont have guarantees for everything.  I would hope I never say "I told you so" in any circumstance.  There is a better way to go about it to move forward together

Sep 09, 2017 10:29 AM #2
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William Feela
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Some times it is best to just grin and move on

Sep 09, 2017 10:52 AM #3
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Victoria Ray Henderson
Buyer's Edge Company Inc - Bethesda, MD
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Thank you Carol Williams I agree with completely! It can be the exact moment when someone knows you are reliable and will help them navigate a tough situation. Thanks and have a good weekend!

Sep 09, 2017 11:32 AM #4
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Victoria Ray Henderson
Buyer's Edge Company Inc - Bethesda, MD
Real Estate for Home Buyers with Buyer's Edge

You are right Christine Kankowski North SD and Temecula it's the old golden rule. Treat someone the way you would hope to be treated if you were in their shoes. No room for I told you so in that scenario:) Take care and thank you for stopping by

Sep 09, 2017 11:33 AM #5
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Victoria Ray Henderson
Buyer's Edge Company Inc - Bethesda, MD
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I like your attitude William Feela I know I have more regrets when I run my mouth then when I just grin and move on! Take care

Sep 09, 2017 11:35 AM #6
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I hate it those words, it just makes someone feel worse and strains an already strained relationship.  A

Sep 09, 2017 12:52 PM #7
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Victoria Ray Henderson
Buyer's Edge Company Inc - Bethesda, MD
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Agreed Ron and Alexandra Seigel and you would think most of us know those words don't serve anyone-you or the other person. Thanks again for stopping by, it's always good to see you two:)

Sep 09, 2017 12:59 PM #8
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Thank you marti garaughty I really appreciate the feature! Have a great weekend

 

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