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Real Estate Broker/Owner CA#01772851 HI#RB21268

This Activerain contest was something I wanted to enter but had a hard time choosing a topic. My life has just been so full of - I can only call it - ADVENTURE, what to pick? Not until I read Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland entry did I decide what to pick.

Ria, my girlfriend of 40+ years. Photo above was taken at Elton John concert in Honolulu on January 8, 2012. Yep, we get together during the Christmas/New Year's Holiday pretty much every year.

Ria and I met through our respective daughters when they were in kindergarten in Mililani Town, Oahu, Hawaii. They felt we should meet because we were both German. As it turned out, Ria and I were born in the same year in Germany while bombs were raining down on us. We both immigrated to the US as young adults, Ria because she married someone in the service stationed in Germany; my parents left Germany after the war for Canada and when I was old enough, I immigrated to the US.

I had just gotten a divorce and Ria was going through a separation with her husband. Ria was a real estate broker then, and I actually got my real estate license but decided to stay in public relations and advertising so never did anything with it. In retrospect, I wish I had--but maybe not, because Ria is now retired from the profession, while I am in full stride with my broker's license in both California in Hawaii.

Over the years, we have stayed in contact, early on even double dating, and now I house-sit for her two cats and dog in her beautiful house in Mililani when she goes on one of her many trips around the world. When I go to Hawaii, Ria and I go to community theater plays, art openings, dinners, and parties of all kinds. You can find us at the Halekulani's "House Without A Key" oceanfront terrace listening to live music and hula. Because of our background similarities, we like the same foods (healthy), music (classical and '70s), clothes (tailored), cars (European made), flowers (all), travel (anywhere in the world - she's catching up to my early travel years), books (in print not online), and speaking other languages (she makes me speak German to keep it up).

One of many things that I value is the fact that we will call each other and there is no awkwardness about catching up. We don't feel we need to be in touch all the time, and frequency depends on what's going on, if we need to bounce something off each other, or share a triumph or hurt. Right now I'm looking forward to getting together over Christmas and New Year's when I am in Hawaii to visit my daughter and grandchildren. We will probably see Bill Maher on New Year's Eve, then go to Waikiki Beach to watch the fireworks.

Ria is one of few constants in my life besides my immedate family.





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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

Really good friends are a treasure to have in our lives.  I have a couple of them that are more family than friend.

Aug 14, 2017 04:09 PM #6
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

It's wonderful to have lifelong friends. Thanks for sharing!

Aug 14, 2017 04:42 PM #7
Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Thanks for taking my call this evening. Enjoy your new car...just sent you a link to the post I told you about.

Aug 14, 2017 05:57 PM #8
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

You are so blessed to have a close friend like Ria. I have one, too, and I cherish that friendship. Thanks for sharing your heartwarming story. It's very well written and I can tell, from the heart!

Aug 15, 2017 06:51 AM #9
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Hella. You are very lucky to have a constant and ongoing friend in your life. I am sure you are grateful and I enjoyed reading your story.

Aug 15, 2017 07:42 AM #10
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%
RE/MAX Gold - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

Isn't it amazing, Hella, that we don't always realize the lifelong friends we will have when we initially meet them? We're just living our lives, going along, having fun, and then one day we're in our 70s and we say, whoa, how long have we known each other? And it becomes even more special.

Aug 15, 2017 08:00 AM #11
Anna Banana Kruchten - Phoenix Homes Sales
Phoenix Property Shoppe - Phoenix, AZ

Hella what a wonderful story of your best friend and you! The older we get the more we appreciate our dear friends. Good to make plans to get together often as I do with mine - who also happens to be my sister.  Blessed!

Aug 15, 2017 09:50 AM #12
Debbie Reynolds
Platinum Properties - Clarksville, TN
Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent

You have found what make life the fullest and that is having people you like and love in your life and staying in touch. Thaks for sharing your human side.

Aug 18, 2017 08:33 PM #13
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Hella,  Great to find out more about you by this contest.  It is great to have a close friend like you do.


Aug 19, 2017 08:05 AM #14
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hella- I absolutely loved your story. A friendship of any kind like the one you have with Ria is hard to come by and even more so for the length of time you've had it. Everyone needs someone that has shared their experiences, weathered the storms of life, and is there to celebrate your triumphs. 

Aug 19, 2017 05:36 PM #15
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

          Thank you Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® 

Aug 19, 2017 05:55 PM #16
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thank you for sharing . I have lost two of my best friends . When I first came  to this country we did not have email or cell phones so I could not keep in touch with them as often as I wished to. 

Aug 20, 2017 04:17 AM #17
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hi Hella -- a very thoughtful post and with many things found in ActiveRain -- the comments complement it nicely.  I'm glad Kathy Streib selected it as one of her "lightbulb" moments and that Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland inspired you to write it.    

Aug 20, 2017 05:52 AM #18
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

I can see why Kathy chose to highlight your post today! Great job!

Aug 20, 2017 06:59 AM #19
Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

So glad to see Kathy Streib feature this post!

Aug 20, 2017 08:01 AM #20
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

That is true friendship and one to be treasured.  I have only one or two friends like that one.

Aug 20, 2017 12:47 PM #21
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® - Okay, after reading your post on friendship, and Nina Hollander story that made me boo hoo, (I also lost 2 dear friends, a childhood friend from Chicago and Karen, the only supporter I had when my husband was dying). But on a positive note, you motivated me to contact Denise, a good friend of mine who sounds a lot like Ria. We met in Maine in the late 80's. She was the nurse and we both had daughters in summer camp. It has been years since we visited with each other. Now, I'm tempted to book a flight, go to Cape Cod to visit with Denise, fly to Charlotte, meet Nina at the airport, fly with her to either CA or Hawaii to spend some time with you Hella and Ria too!

Aug 21, 2017 08:53 AM #22
Elva Branson-Lee
Solid Source Realty GA - Atlanta, GA
CDPE - Atlanta Real Estate & Short Sale Agent

Lifelong friends are such a blessing. I'm glad you and Ria have each other.


Aug 25, 2017 11:56 PM #23
Susan McCall, Independent Listing and Buyer Agent
Compass Realty Solutions - Portland, OR
Bringing buyers and sellers together!


Thanks for taking the time to write about your friend.  I really enjoyed it.

My oh my I have a friend (roommate from college) that I need to go see.  On the phone it is just like we haven't seen each other for a few weeks. 

My best townie friend and I share the same prescription in glasses - that is weird!  We made a pact to have no drama and no guilt.  It's been working so far!

Sep 08, 2017 09:23 PM #24
Carolyn Roland-Historic Homes For Sale In Delaware and S. Chester County PA
Patterson-Schwartz Real Estate - Wilmington, DE
Carolyn Roland, GRI, CRS

Having friends from years ago is precious, but it is sad when they start passing away and you are too far away to have known they were ill.

Oct 19, 2017 08:13 AM #25
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