No Pressure, No Diamonds

Real Estate Agent with Dave Murphy Team

I am currently participating in a weekly real estate seminar that meets for full-day sessions for seven weeks.  The workload is intense, but the bulk of the focus is on mindset, which I absolutely love.  Learning about the power of our minds (particularly the effects of positive thinking) is empowering and has affected every aspect of my life.  

Each week, as the class approaches, I start to feel overwhelmed at the amount of progress I am accountable to make in my business.  It is the type of discomfort that causes growth. “No pressure, no diamonds”, I’m told.  The results are undeniable, though:  I have more contracts, more clients, and I have systems in place to better serve all who choose me as their realtor.  In class, my peers are those who have reached the pinnacle of success as well as professionals who are brand new to the industry.  I learn from all of them.  They learn from me, too, and point out the unique characteristics that make me valuable in this role.

Yesterday, we were discussing abundance in the sense that there is no limit to the positivity you can generate, the income you can earn, and the clients you can service.  Our instructor flies across country every week to lead us in these lessons.  She is fantastic.  She asked us what we do when we see a penny on the ground.  By a show of hands, she wanted to know who picks it up.  A few raised their hands.  She gasped and said that rejecting abundance (regardless of amount) is like turning down a blessing. Every financial gift sent your way should be celebrated, which in turn invites more prosperity your way.  It also keeps you on the lookout for more and more blessings.  This resonated with me because I feel incredibly strongly that that is the way that gratitude works, as well.  

I left class and went straight to pick up one of my daughters from school.  She got in the car and said, “Mom!  Someone threw a quarter at me in the hallway!”  I was annoyed to hear this and said “why would someone do that to you?”  She said “I know!  Three more and I’d have a whole dollar!”

Clearly my teacher’s lesson from minutes earlier was lost on me.  

What was intended to be negativity literally thrown at her was not perceived as such.  She took it as a positive gesture, one that will improve her financial standing.  It should be said that this particular child of mine is immune to negativity.  It is simply not a character in the story of her life.  She does not get offended by people’s words or actions, and her feelings rarely (never) get hurt.   It’s like a genetic mutation that I wish I could take any credit in imparting to her.  We often ask her how she would handle situations because her way is always one of confidence and truth, and lacks the emotional response that ours typically do.  You would think that this matter-of-fact approach to life would make her cold or robotic.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  She is love and hugs and kisses from morning til night.

My daughter, squeezing everything out of life this summer

My husband always says that I will write a book about her some day.  I have resisted because raising her has been the single most formative journey of my life.  I’ve had more missteps on it than any other in which I’ve taken part.  She’s paid the price many times over for my learning curve.  Of course, she has never judged my journey, has never expressed anything but gratitude that I keep trying to complete her puzzle.  Last week we had a big breakthrough on her path and we all took turns toasting her milestone and congratulating her.  When we finished, she raised her glass and said, “I want to thank Mommy for never giving up on me”.  It was her moment, not mine, but she can’t resist an opportunity to affirm my efforts.  Although I would lay them nonetheless, she has been grateful for every penny I’ve placed before her.  

No Pressure, No Diamonds.  My Daughter, my Teacher.  


Are you looking for a realtor with a positive approach to any circumstance?  I’d love to apply the lessons I’m learning (and re-learning!) to make your transactions as pleasant and prosperous as possible!


Bridget Murphy, Realtor

About Bridget


Posted by

Your Referrals Fuel our Business . . . We Greatly Appreciate your Support!

Bridget Murphy (bio)


Keller Williams Realty Partners

(773) 510-9579

Click here to access my free mobile app



Re-Blogged 1 time:

Re-Blogged By Re-Blogged At
Just for Fun
Illinois Cook County Park Ridge
park ridge realtor
power of positivity
bridget murphy

Spam prevention
Show All Comments
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Congrats on joining ActiveRain and for your featured post. You are a talented writer and will do very well on this platform. 

Nov 15, 2017 08:42 PM #13
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

What a beautiful story. Being grateful for all, including those things thrown at us, can definitely expand our lives in a wonderful way. 

I look forward to reading more from you!

Nov 16, 2017 03:49 AM #14
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good morning Bridget Murphy,

What an inspiring post! Congratulations on the well deserved feature post..your daughter is certainly a gem. Great message about the power of positivity! 

Nov 16, 2017 04:27 AM #15
Elva Branson-Lee
Solid Source Realty GA - Atlanta, GA
CDPE - Atlanta Real Estate & Short Sale Agent

Great story, great lesson. Your daughter and your 7-week seminar both sound like powerful and positive learning opportunities.

Nov 16, 2017 05:10 AM #16
Judy Trout
Blue Spruce Real Estate - Colorado Springs, CO
"Experience Working for You'

Excellent post!  

Thank you for sharing.

I'm encouraged. 

Nov 16, 2017 05:58 AM #17
Joy Daniels
Joy Daniels Real Estate Group, Ltd. - Harrisburg, PA

What a wonderful and inspiring post. Thank you so much for sharing. What a great post to read as we start our day :)

Nov 16, 2017 06:12 AM #18
Margaret Goss
Baird & Warner Real Estate - Winnetka, IL
Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate

Wonderful post! Amazing how our children can be our teachers at the youngest of age!

Nov 16, 2017 06:56 AM #19
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

I'm so thankful that this was featured and I didn't miss it. What a story! Your daughter sounds like such a special young lady. What a blessing! Imagine the greatness she will do in her lifetime!

Nov 16, 2017 08:40 AM #20
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Gosh I was tearing up reading this blog, the parts about your daughter!  I'm a Mom too so I can relate to those little moments, the special things kids say and how they look at a situation differently. Thanks for sharing and writing so much from your heart.

Nov 16, 2017 08:43 AM #21
Dörte Engel
RE/MAX Leading Edge - Bowie, MD
ABC - Annapolis, Bowie, Crofton & rest of Maryland

Dear Bridget,

Amazing how perfect kids are & what they can survive in the way of lack of perfection on our parts, right? You seem to be well on your way to being a diamond.

Nov 16, 2017 08:57 AM #22
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

You have been blessed with a truly exceptional daughter. I agree with Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate - an "old soul" for sure!

Nov 16, 2017 09:16 AM #23
Donna Quinlan
Keller Williams Realty - Newburyport, MA
Keller Williams Real Estate Agent Career Consultan

Bridget - I have taken Bold twice. It is an amazing experience. The Bold law which is your title is so true. I'm sure it is fun to have a daughter that is so positive! She will make a good realtor if she so chooses someday!

Nov 16, 2017 01:26 PM #24
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Bridget, many people look for a NO Pressure job. But as you point out it is the pressure that produces amazing results.

Thanks for sharing.

Best wishes

Nov 16, 2017 05:31 PM #25
Amy Gutschow
RE/MAX - Sheboygan, WI
Professional Real Estate

Thanks for this great post.  Inspiration for us all to keep things in the right frame of mind

Nov 17, 2017 07:15 AM #26
Delphine Nguyen
Baird & Warner - Northbrook, IL

Exactly! No pressure no diamond. If we ask 10 top producers, 10 of them would say they don't like to make the calls just like everyone else. The difference is that they just do it anyway. A great attitude and mindset will ultimately bring good results. Thanks for sharing your experience. 

Nov 17, 2017 09:13 AM #27
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

 Congratulations on the featured post. Thank you for sharing . I hope others will read it too.

Nov 18, 2017 06:10 AM #28
Corey Martin
Martin Presence Group - Ruston, LA
Real Estate and Management Solutions

You both sound like extraordinary women. A child is a blessing and amazing in their own right as an individual. But the parent that can raise up an amazing child is to be applauded because they have raised their child in what is right. Bravo and thank you for sharing. 

Nov 18, 2017 07:05 PM #29
Tony and Suzanne Marriott, Associate Brokers
Serving the Greater Phoenix and Scottsdale Metropolitan Area - Scottsdale, AZ
Haven Express @ Keller Williams Arizona Realty

Bridget Murphy - Congratulations on your participation in BOLD - two more weeks to go here in Scottsdale! "In class, my peers are those who have reached the pinnacle of success as well as professionals who are brand new to the industry.  I learn from all of them.  They learn from me, too, and point out the unique characteristics that make me valuable in this role."

Right on target - and - re-blog!

Nov 23, 2017 02:31 AM #30
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Everyone places their own limits on themselves...and learns to adapt thru whatever means they choose....which can be a little uncomfortable but rewarding.

Nov 23, 2017 03:12 AM #31
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

What a powerful story!  Your daughter is a true "gem!"  Good luck on your journey in business and with your daughter!

Nov 26, 2017 03:30 PM #32
Show All Comments

What's the reason you're reporting this blog entry?

Are you sure you want to report this blog entry as spam?


Bridget Murphy

Dedicated Realtor serving Chicagoland
Ask me a Question