Perception is Really the Deception of Reality!

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Mike McCann - Broker, Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska

Today I will travel a short 60 miles back to my hometown to say goodbye to a high school classmate who fought cancer for 9 years.

Our class of '71 was a group of 90 small town and farm kids who mostly all thought they were going to be superstars someday.  We now have lost (I was reminded that it is now 9) that we know of and a few are off the map somewhere.

As I get older, I remind my younger wife and kids and friends that what we perceived in high school may not...does not exist most of the time.

Kay was a perfect example.  Her Mom's family was very successful...their family was a tight knit family and owned the grocery store, the meat locker plant, farm ground, and one was a very popular Mayor. 

My wife's Grandpa worked many years for Kay's Dad as a hired hand on the farm and actually lived on one of the farms owned by Kay's family.

Kay was very intelligent and quiet and very attractive. I wish I would known her better in high school.  I did not.  I did not consider myself anywhere near in her league. 

As most of us do...we grow up and move on and classmates become forgotten memories.

Kay went off to married...moved half a continent away and I did not see her for many decades.

By chance, I sat with Kay and her husband, Dan, at our 45th reunion last year.  A few hours later, I realized that I had missed out on a lot of friendship opportunities. 

We had a great time laughing and sharing and spending time together. 

The woman I had perceived to be way above me had the same issues and concerns and successes and failures in her life that I had in mine.  We were just people. 

We realized that we were not...nor were we ever...really that much different.

They say people can change...and I think my wife would agree that I had a totally different perspective on life after that reunion. 

I will tell Kay's husband today that our few hours together changed my life forever.

And then I know I will swing by my families plot...and say Hi to my folks and little brother...because that is what I do every time I attend more and more wakes and funerals in my hometown.

As I write this I think of another person who I am now great friends with who I have known for over 50 years but just got to know really well this past two years.  I told my wife that I wish I would have gotten to know Dale in high school and in my younger adult years. I have hunted on Dale's property the past two years and have had a great time. We have done some successful real estate deals together as well.  

I realize that I have gotten it wrong all of these years... I used to think that Perception is Reality. 

In all honesty....Perception is the Deception of Reality.

Until next time...keep an open mind..


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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

Oh what a bittersweet story Mike. I'm sad to hear of the passing of an old friend - we do have to live each day remembering to share our love with others - and to reach out. The high school lesson is a powerful one isn't it? It often takes another meeting to help us realize we really are just the same. 

Dec 03, 2017 11:37 AM #13
Patricia Feager
Selling Homes Changing Lives

What a very tender story about life and love for a friend and what we need to do in life but often don't. I'm sorry for your loss. Making that trip was hard. So many memories... floods of them behind the tears. 

Be strong and be safe. Thank you for sharing this very special day of rememberance. You wrote from the heart. Thank you. 

Dec 03, 2017 12:11 PM #14
Michael Eisenberg
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham Real Estate Guy

Hi Mike,

Sorry for the loss of your friend. As we get older more of them leave us. You certainly learned a valuable lesson and gained a new friend you lost too soon and have a new perspective on life for sure.

Dec 03, 2017 01:16 PM #15
Laura Filip
RE/MAX UTOPIA , Serving all of Texoma - Whitesboro, TX
What can we do for you today?

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. We have lost around 6 people in our community in the last month 3 years old being the youngest. Cherish life as tomorrow is not promised. 

Dec 03, 2017 01:39 PM #16
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


We have slow down and enjoy the moments in our life.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Dec 03, 2017 06:14 PM #17
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


Congratulations on a well earned feature for your post.

Good luck and success.

Lou Ludwig

Dec 03, 2017 06:17 PM #18
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

There is always a perception beyond something that is true, at least with some people

Dec 03, 2017 10:34 PM #19
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

It definitely is a well earned feature! I would expect nothing less. Love and light! Lou Ludwig

Dec 03, 2017 10:36 PM #20
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Time changes all.

In July I attended my 40th reunion. It was wonderful reuniting with my classmates. The interesting thing is that the people I had the most fun with at the reunion were the "kids" that had nothing to do with me in high school. A whole different league back then. High school is so many little cliques impossible to get into. Funny, after all these years we are now simply classmates and that's the only thing that matters!

Dec 04, 2017 07:29 AM #21
Michael Jacobs
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393

Hello Mike -- perception...indeed.  Thank you for sharing your very powerful post.   

Dec 04, 2017 09:12 AM #22
Corey Martin
Martin Presence Group - Ruston, LA
Real Estate and Management Solutions

You are so right. Perception is the deception of reality. Until someone tells you what is really going on, you really don't know what is reality. Thank you for the very impactful post. 

Dec 04, 2017 05:49 PM #23
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I am sorry you missed all those years of friendship, but glad you shared the message.  Perhaps someone will read it and realize they should reach out to someone.

Dec 04, 2017 06:25 PM #24
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®,CRS,
RE/MAX Professionals. - Tacoma, WA
Tacoma Washington Agent/Broker & Market Authority!

I have been observing the same realities as you every time I go to a class reunion.

Of course I'm much younger Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker  (HO,HO,HO)

Dec 04, 2017 09:13 PM #25
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I’m just looking at all the responses and I’m kind of happy that people can relate from earlier when I posted.

Dec 04, 2017 11:41 PM #26
Marney Kirk
Cummings & Co. Realtors - Towson, MD
Towson, Maryland Real Estate

Lovely post, Mike. I am sorry for your loss. I am glad you got to know her better - and that it has helped you realize to open your mind and heart.

Dec 05, 2017 04:42 AM #27
Gary L. Waters, Broker Owner, Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC
Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC - Rockledge, FL
... a small office, delivering big service!

Well said. As I age I am there with you.  If we only knew back then what reality truly was and wasn't!

Dec 05, 2017 05:21 AM #28
John Wiley
Right Move Real Estate Group- EXP Realty - Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL Real Estate GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

It is not always easy to be open to sharing about ourselves. Thank you for sharing your reflections with us. It is a great reminder for us.

Sorry about the loss of a friend but glad you have some great memories.

Dec 05, 2017 06:22 AM #29
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

Very hard to judge some one so far back. Some are predictable, they knew what they wanted early one and became what they told you.  Others wonder around. The popular girls, the cheer leader type got married, divorced, have a few children gain 100 #......

What is important is one needs to take control of their destiny.

Dec 07, 2017 10:32 AM #30
Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker
Mike McCann - Broker, Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska - Kearney, NE
Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940

Hi Sam Shueh   Yes...control our own destiny...and I am one of the guys who gained 100 pounds...although now it is back down to only a net gain of 60....

Dec 11, 2017 05:54 PM #31
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Great post!  I have to agree.  My 40th Reunion was this past October. Attending it and being on the committee were both life changing events.  I couldn't agree more with  your analogy of perception and reality.   Life slips by in the blink of an eye.  Your post is great encouragement for others to enjoy their younger years while they still can!

Dec 17, 2017 11:54 AM #33
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