Perception is Really the Deception of Reality!

Reblogger Barbara Todaro
Managing Real Estate Broker with RE/MAX Executive Realty 104763

Such an important message here from Mike.... it's important to stay connected and to have a better understanding of who others truly are.... 

Today I will travel a short 60 miles back to my hometown to say goodbye to a high school classmate who fought cancer for 9 years.

Our class of '71 was a group of 90 small town and farm kids who mostly all thought they were going to be superstars someday.  We now have lost 8 that we know of and a few are off the map somewhere.

As I get older, I remind my younger wife and kids and friends that what we perceived in high school may not...does not exist most of the time.

Kay was a perfect example.  Her Mom's family was very successful...their family was a tight knit family and owned the grocery store, the meat locker plant, farm ground, and one was a very popular Mayor. 

My wife's Grandpa worked many years for Kay's Dad as a hired hand on the farm and actually lived on one of the farms owned by Kay's family.

Kay was very intelligent and quiet and very attractive. I wish I would known her better in high school.  I did not.  I did not consider myself anywhere near in her league. 

As most of us do...we grow up and move on and classmates become forgotten memories.

Kay went off to married...moved half a continent away and I did not see her for many decades.

By chance, I sat with Kay and her husband, Dan, at our 45th reunion last year.  A few hours later, I realized that I had missed out on a lot of friendship opportunities. 

We had a great time laughing and sharing and spending time together. 

The woman I had perceived to be way above me had the same issues and concerns and successes and failures in her life that I had in mine.  We were just people. 

We realized that we were not...nor were we ever...really that much different.

They say people can change...and I think my wife would agree that I had a totally different perspective on life after that reunion. 

I will tell Kay's husband today that our few hours together changed my life forever.

And then I know I will swing by my families plot...and say Hi to my folks and little brother...because that is what I do every time I attend more and more wakes and funerals in my hometown.

As I write this I think of another person who I am now great friends with who I have known for over 50 years but just got to know really well this past two years.  I told my wife that I wish I would have gotten to know Dale in high school and in my younger adult years. I have hunted on Dale's property the past two years and have had a great time. We have done some successful real estate deals together as well.  

I realize that I have gotten it wrong all of these years... I used to think that Perception is Reality. 

In all honesty....Perception is the Deception of Reality.

Until next time...keep an open mind..



Mike McCann Nebraska Land Broker This has been Mike McCann...Nebraska Land Broker...Coming to you from the Farm Land of Nebraska and America!! Visit me at to learn more about the agricultural and farm land for sale market. 

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Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker

Good morning Barbara. Mike puts things in perspective and let's you know it is never too late to change your mind! Enjoy your day! 

Dec 03, 2017 05:15 AM #1
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Interesting thought.  Had not heard this before but makes sense

Dec 03, 2017 05:20 AM #2
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Barbara. What a telling and terrific re-blog. I get this too.

Dec 03, 2017 05:46 AM #3
Dorie Dillard
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.346.1799 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good morning Barbara Todaro,

What a wonderful blog..I'm off to read and comment on Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker post!

Dec 03, 2017 05:49 AM #4
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Such a great post, thanks for reblogging, as I never would have seen it if you had not done so!

Dec 03, 2017 08:05 AM #5
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Prado Real Estate South - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Wow! The impact of this post is amazing Barbara, glad you re-blogged it and will go to Mike's page and offer a comment.

Dec 03, 2017 10:42 AM #6
Lou Ludwig
Ludwig & Associates - Boca Raton, FL
Designations Earned CRB, CRS, CIPS, GRI, SRES, TRC


There are times that we have to mentally slow and enjoy the moments . . . . and people in our life.

Good luck  and success.

Lou Ludwig

Dec 03, 2017 06:10 PM #7
Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker
Mike McCann - Broker, Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska - Kearney, NE
Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940

Hi Barbara Todaro   Thanks for reblogging and for sharing with your followers and also for your comments over on my page.   

Dec 04, 2017 07:42 AM #8
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
"Franklin MA Homes"

They and I enjoyed this post immensely.... thanks, Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker for sharing it....

Dec 04, 2017 07:43 AM #9
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