Live Each Day As If It's Your Last

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Innovative Realty Solutions Group BK3158345

Life can change in a single moment.

Two weeks ago tonight, I went to bed ahead of my husband.  We hugged, kissed and said our nightly, "Good night and God bless you.  I love you bunches." 

It was the last words we ever spoke.  He didn't wake up in the morning.

He was a REALTOR® and we worked together as a team.  My weaknesses were his strengths.  His weaknesses were my strengths.  We partnered in life, work, play and prayer.  

We were slowing down with work to play more and to make more memories.  We sold our big house and downsized to 1350 SF on a big lake and were pontoon shopping planning to spend some mornings watching sunrises with coffee on the lake along with cocktails at sunset.  We were travelling more and planning our 2019 bucket list as we had our 2018 travel plans in place.

Stewart was 9 years younger than me and getting his broker's license so he could run the business when it was my time.  I never dreamed he would leave this earth first. 

He wasn't in pain, ill or anything but peaceful when I went to bed. 

And in a moment, everything changed.

I shared this so you can understand how very important it is to never go to bed angry, to not let little things drive you apart from those you love, and to treasure those you love because it can all change forever in a single moment. Get your paperwork in order. Be sure wills, living wills, power of attorneys are in place.

Most importantly, live each day as if it's your last, because it just might be.




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Corey Martin
Martin Presence Group - Ruston, LA
Real Estate and Management Solutions

You have my condolences. I am very sorry for your loss and you are in our prayers. 

Dec 15, 2017 08:33 AM #9
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


I cried as I read this this morning.  You have our condolences, and our best wishes for you.  A

Dec 15, 2017 09:30 AM #10
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

At 70 everyday for me is a bonus and you want to make every moment count. I am so sorry you didn't get to do everything the two of you wanted to do but I am sorry for your loss.

Dec 15, 2017 01:04 PM #11
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Oh Dee, I am so very sorry for your loss. You have my deepest sympathy and if I could, I'd reach through this thing and give you a hug. You are so right that we have to learn to treasure each and every moment. I hope you'll reach out to Carol Williams and to Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland if you need to. 

Dec 15, 2017 07:53 PM #12
Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome


Dee Toohey With your permission I will be calling you tomorrow. Your loss is overwhelming right now. Know there are a lot of people who love and care about you. Lean on them especially your friends and family. Take care of yourself. 

Dec 15, 2017 08:38 PM #13
Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude


I am so very sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine how hard it must have been to write this, but thank you for doing so. It's a message none of us should ever forget!


Dec 16, 2017 11:40 AM #14
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Dec 16, 2017 06:16 PM #15
Sybil Campbell
Long and Foster REALTORS® 5234 Monticello Ave Williamsburg, Virginia - Williamsburg, VA
REALTOR® ABR, SFR, SRES Williamsburg, Virginia

Dee, I am so very sorry for your loss.  Thank you too for reminding me about the importance of telling those you love that you love them.

Dec 17, 2017 03:54 AM #16
Sharon Lee
Sharon Lee's Virtual Assistance - Jonesborough, TN
Retired and loving life

Dee-Very sorry for your loss. 

Dec 17, 2017 04:45 AM #17
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker and Attorney Licensed in DC, MD, VA,

I never expected to read a story like this when I clicked on your post. I wish you all the love and support possible. 

Dec 17, 2017 04:50 AM #18
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good morning Dee Toohey ,

I'm so glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her "Ah-ha" series today. I'm so very sorry for your loss. You have my deepest sympathy and I hope you can feel my virtual hug. Your message none of us should ever forget!

Dec 17, 2017 06:28 AM #19
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

I am blubbering as I read sorry for your loss....your reminder is a strong one!

Dec 17, 2017 07:07 AM #20
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County

Sorry for your loss, Dee. This is an important message for us all.  God bless you and your family.

Dec 17, 2017 07:18 AM #21
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Dee - I am so sorry for your loss.  My prayers are with you and your family.

Dec 17, 2017 11:21 AM #22
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Dee, I'm sorry for your loss; I can't imagine your situation. Thank you for sending out your wonderful reminder to let those you love know you love them, each and every day. Take good care.

Dec 17, 2017 11:36 AM #23
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

Such a heartbreaking thing to hear today. I'm so sorry for your loss. I was emotional enough reading this, but then when I scrolled down and saw that Stewart reminded me of my husband it really hit home. Thank you for sharing and reminding us just how short life can be and how prescious every moment together is.

Dec 17, 2017 12:26 PM #24
Hannah Williams
Re/Max Eastern inc. - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818

so sorry Dee Toohey my heart is aching for you but a great reminder for us all

Dec 17, 2017 01:29 PM #25
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667 (MT), 914-419-0270 (NY), Broker in NY with Grand Lux Realty and in MT with (coming soon!) - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

Wow.  I am so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. That you were able to take the time out from your grief to share your thoughts shows the strength that you have. It is so true that every day COULD be our last, and we should live every moment to its fullest. Thank you.

Dec 17, 2017 04:21 PM #26
Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX
The most important home I sell is YOURS!

What a timely post.  I got a message last night that an agent friend lost her battle with cancer.  Her kids are in college.  She and her husband run a botique firm with a handful of agents.  My heart breaks for her family.  I don't think she was 50 years old yet.  6 months ago, she was going strong and now she is gone.  You just can't predict what will happen.

Dec 17, 2017 05:57 PM #27
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

It's a reality check that we all need to pay attention to the important things and let the small differences go. I'm so sorry for your loss, Dee.

Dec 17, 2017 07:07 PM #28
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