Personal attacks will not be tolerated

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 GREC# 169695

Weltanschauung: the guiding principles and philosophy of an organization; a world view.

You simply can't attack other members

We're going to discuss #8

  • We believe in spirited discourse, but personal attacks or predatory behavior will not be tolerated

 I'm closing in on my 10th anniversary in the rain.  And I have to say that it's one of the best behaved bunch of folks I've ever been involved as a group. Even when people are passionate about their opinions and disagree it is typically done with class and tact.

Of course there is always an exception or two. Every once in a while someone shows up who just can't get along.  I have seen them be here for years while staff pleaded with them to behave and I've seen them be so ugly so fast their time here was like a nano second. But in the end this community can generally spot a fake or meanie and we can self police and they will just quietly vanish into the night. 

There are things that you should and should not do when you find someone like that... first don't fight back.  If someone is harassing and name calling DO NOT engage and or solicit your friends for a pile one.  Let the staff handle it.  If you "give as good as you get" then you'll find yourself booted for breaking the same rules.  What I suggest you do is report report report.  Let the staff and support team know via link and/or screen shots what is going on and they will handle it. 

Behave with respect and you can also expect to get it back. And again, it's the rare occurrence here in the rain that anyone resorts to personal attacks. It's overwhelmingly a community where you can find support and friendship. If you and another member are passionate about your disagreement I suggest you not being the one who crosses the line to the bad behavior. Ultimately if not corrected with warnings one can get shown the virtual door.


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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

Do people still do this? This is not allowed anywhere. Let each one learn this

Jan 08, 2018 11:23 AM #16
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of Manchester NH's Leading Agents

The good thing is we have a very good group or regulars here who know respect. In other social media platforms though, i am seeing horrible manners, name calling and such. 

Jan 08, 2018 11:49 AM #17
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Personal attacks are not acceptable in my book, no matter the time, place or platform.  Everyone should be treated with respect, even if you disagree with them in any way.

Jan 08, 2018 11:52 AM #18
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
your real estate writer

I'm feeling fortunate - I haven't seen much of that here.

Jan 08, 2018 12:26 PM #19
Nick & Trudy Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtors, Philly Main Line

I agree as a group this is one of the best behaved and supportive groups an agent can be a member of for inspiration, support and encouragement. 

Jan 08, 2018 12:35 PM #20
Gary L. Waters Broker Associate, Bucci Realty
Bucci Realty, Inc. - Melbourne, FL
Fifteen Years Experience in Brevard County

I have not been a party to (either side) in my 11 years on here. This is, for the most part, a well behaved respectful group of professionals!

Jan 08, 2018 01:45 PM #21
Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.346.1799 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good evening Tammy Lankford, 

Wow 10 years in the rain..congratulations..hey wait I've been here since 2008 I guess that is 10 years too! I've seen some bad apples show up but they usually haven't lasted long..not the place for misbehaving!

Jan 08, 2018 03:28 PM #22
Corey Martin
Martin Presence Group - Ruston, LA
Real Estate and Management Solutions

I completely agree. This is excellent advice for interacting with anyone unpleasant. Thank you for sharing!

Jan 08, 2018 05:04 PM #23
Dan Derito
Success! Real Estate - Brockton, MA

Good advice Tammy. I can't recall coming across anyone who has not been cordial.

Jan 08, 2018 08:25 PM #24
Claude Labbe
Real Living | At Home - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

Well put Tammy, because this is a community for discourse & growth, similar to a group of Realtors walking and discussing along the streets of Athens a few centuries ago.  Not a hockey game with agents on opposing sides.

You've gotta admit, both make for interesting movie clips, right?

Jan 08, 2018 08:39 PM #25
Scott Seaton Jr. Bourbonnais Kankakee IL Home Inspector
SLS Home Inspections-Bradley Bourbonnais Kankakee Manteno - Bourbonnais, IL
The Home Inspector With a Heart!

I've not seen that at all here, but on many home inspection forums, holy crap, those guys are out and out jerks. I am glad I'm busy enough to not worry about commenting and belittling every question that gets posted. Not sure when these guys ever work because I can't imagine having enough time to do my job and also be a complete a#@hole for 8-10 hours a day. 

Jan 08, 2018 10:39 PM #26
Nathan Gesner
American West Realty & Management - Cody, WY
Broker / Property Manager

When I first started writing on Activerain, one of my co-workers started following my blog. Her first comment was, "Everyone is so nice and supportive!"

Jan 09, 2018 05:37 AM #27
Mike McCann - Nebraska Farm Land Broker
Mike McCann - Broker, Farmland Broker-Auctioneer Serving Rural Nebraska - Kearney, NE
Farm Land For Sale 308-627-3700 or 800-241-3940

Hi Tammy Lankford,   Thanks for the great blog.  I agree that most people on AR are great and supportive. 

Not all, however.

I hope those people read this blog...especially one particular active AR member...because I still have her egregious e-mail she sent me a few years back.

I read it from time to time to remember how not to be to others on Active Rain...or anywhere else for that matter.

Thank you for sharing your W-8.  (sorry...I can only spell the first two letters of the word...

Jan 09, 2018 06:36 AM #28
John Wiley
Right Move Real Estate Group- EXP Realty - Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL Real Estate GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Thanks for a good post with a great reminder.

I have seen the not so nice decrease in the past couple of years. Seldom see it at all now.

Jan 09, 2018 09:06 AM #29
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Getting a kick out of those Rock 'em Sock 'em Robots in that pic, Tammy Lankford, ... perfectly chosen photo!


Jan 09, 2018 12:18 PM #30
Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experience Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Wonder what prompted this blog topic?  It's appropriate for so many situations...especially in light of the recent sexual harrassment news.

Jan 09, 2018 01:29 PM #31
Karen Feltman
Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group - Cedar Rapids, IA
Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa

Not engaging the person is definitely the best advice. There is no need for someone to disparage someone else in an effort to prove their point.  Thank you for sharing.

Jan 09, 2018 02:43 PM #32
Coach KC™ The Prosperitor™
Prosperitor LLC dba Secured Futures - Phoenix, AZ
Marketing • Productivity • Revenue • Development

Great reminder post Tammy, and great advice. Congratulations on 10 years, thank you ! ~ Coach

Jan 09, 2018 03:02 PM #33
Zurple Marketing Team
Zurple - San Diego, CA
Zurple, Client Generation Software for Agents

This is excellent advice, Tammy! We see this more often on Facebook groups...we really appreciate the civility of the Active Rain community. :)


Happy 10 years!

Jan 12, 2018 01:49 PM #34
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Thanks for the reminder Tammy.  Though, lately, I have been seeing good behavior from all members.

Jan 14, 2018 05:18 AM #35
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