"Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage"
- When we share secrets we get relief
- Sharing secrets is the fastest way to find acceptance
- My secret is that I shop at Goodwill
Have you heard of the site, www.PostSecret.com? It's a site that displays postcards that people send in with their secrets. It's anonymous so they get some really interesting things revealed.
Frank Warren started it on a whim in 2004 and has received over one million postcards. He has now written 5 books and even has a live road show where people stand up and share their secrets in person.
Here's his TED Talk
I read about this site in a book that I just finished, "Captivate. The Science of Succeeding with People" by Vanessa Van Edwards. It's a great book. I will do a review post on it next week.
You might wonder why would anyone want to stand up and reveal their inner most secrets?
"People bond incredibly fast at these events. It's as if secrets are the door to connection people have been looking for...
The secrets act as a catalyst for turning strangers into fast friends...
Sharing our most vulnerable stories is a courageous act that channels intimacy with others and builds lasting relationships, according to Warren"
Van Edwards says in her book:
"Vulnerability is sexy- it shows we are relatable, honest, and real. That is attractive. And the science proves it."
Feel free to leave a secret in the comments. If you want to be anonymous, just log out first and then no one will know who you are.
One of my secrets is that I buy a lot of my clothing at the Goodwill store. I can afford to buy whatever I want in a normal store but I just can't resist paying just $5 or 6$ for a dress shirt or pair of dress pants. It's amazing how good some of the stuff is.
But for some reason, I feel embarrassed about it. I'm always afraid someone I know will see me there and assume that I must be having a tough time financially. I also feel a little guilty thinking that what I'm buying will not be there for someone who might really need a bargain. I also fear that if I buy something too distinctive, I might run into the person who donated it to Goodwill. Anyway, that's a little secret. I have many more but most are TMI so I'll save you from that.