Role vs. Identity - Angelina Jolie a "Role" Model of Identity
Keep a line between Identity and Role through Autosuggestion
Today's daily dose of Organek Food for Thought combines Think and Grow Rich's Chapter 4 on Autosuggestion mashed up with Angelina Jolie's quote indirectly dealing with making sure to separate your "Identity" from your "Role".
"Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman you're in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that's the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else." -Angelina Jolie
Quote #38 from Dr. Joe Tichio's book.
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I would like to thank Brad Ferguson from Sandler Training in Scottsdale for teaching me the difference between Identity and Role. Please feel free to reach out to me for a copy of my notes on the training on how to keep Identity separate from Role. I share parts of the training as it relates to Angelina's quote in the video.
Think And Grow Rich's "Autosuggestion" is the third of the 13 steps towards riches. "The Medium for Influencing the Subconscious Mind"
My takeaway on this chapter was mainly to make sure that I recognize that just like we have portions of the brain that deal with sight and sound, I also have to reinforce the fact that we have a subconscious mind that is a section all in and of itself as well. Our minds are gardens that will grow whatever crops we decide to plant in it. If we put in seeds of desire and creative thoughts we will reap that type of crop. If we put negative seeds in our mind or none at all (which will lead to indecision, inaction, doubt and fear) we will harvest negativity, misfortune, despair and poverty. The easiest way to keep the soil of the mind fertile and positive is through AUTOSUGGESTION.
So, make sure to use autosuggestion to prepare the mind for the right crops. Use autosuggestion also to plant the right seeds into the subconscious mind so the harvest of positivity and creativity will shape the conscious mind. Not tending to a garden is very easy to do yet often yields much work to right the ship and there is nothing to harvest but weeds, if anything at all. Tending to a garden is steady and sometimes very difficult work and a daily task yet the harvest can feed you and nourish your body for quite some time. Treat your mind the same way.
The Quote of the Day: "Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman you're in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that's the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else." -Angelina Jolie
For a blockbuster movie star she sure keeps her personal life quiet. Sandler Training teaches that the identity thermometer is on the left side of the line. The role thermometer is on the right. Usually, a salesperson's "Identity" thermometer stays at a certain level. Most salespeople would be somewhere close to the middle. If they get a sale, they get excited and their "Identity" temperature goes up along with the "Role" temperature. Eventually, the salesperson may say to themselves that their success is a fluke so it trickles back down to the normal baseline. The difference between the salesperson "normal" identity score and the 100 (if on a scale of 1 to 100) is the "ego need". This means that people with big egos usually need to compensate for a low "Identity" score by pointing to their "Role" successes in order to lift them up. Angelina Jolie is the opposite. She doesn't rely on her success as an actress to define her identity. Neither does Kobe Bryant, Derek Jeter and the likes of other professionals with stellar careers and very private, quiet personal lives.
Your title is your "Role". Who you are and your "okayness" is your "Identity". Make sure to know that and have a very solid line between the two. I do a good job in explaining it in the video and I hope you can comment if you agree. Don't worry, I have a pretty solid okayness about myself so comment something that may seem negative if you feel it could improve what I am doing here. I welcome that as how else can I get better?
The mash-up: Use autosuggestion to work on BOTH your Role and Identity. You can use affirmations dealing with having balance in your life to work on your identity. These affirmations will help to condition the subconscious mind so you can have a strong identity while also creating the proper person for the roles that you need to fill. It wouldn't hurt to even have an affirmation card that dealt with Role vs. Identity.
Identity Affirmation Examples (Some taken from Og Mandino):
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Every day in every way I'm feeling better and better about myself. - I will form good habits and become their slave.
- I am natures greatest miracle.
- I will greet this day with love in my heart.
- I will persist until I succeed.
Role Affirmation Examples:
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Every day each action I do gets me one step closer to the top of my profession. - I will nurture my children each day with a message of praise so they will feel the blanket of love I have for them.
- When I deal with a prospect I will always remember they meet based on hope and buy because of belief.
- I am a loving and supportive spouse and I show this in all my actions.
- I will provide the highest quantity and the best quality of service in the most harmonious spirit I can in my sales profession.
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