Hospital Stay Drained My Creativity

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty

Okay, almost 2 weeks ago, my 13-month old son was med-evac'd by helicopter from a close hospital to one about 35 miles away that had a PICU (Pediatrician's Intensive Care Unit).  He was in really bad shape with enough difficulty that they had to funnel 70% helium with 30% oxygen through him for over a day to get the O2 circulating through his body.  His "oxygenation" had gone down to 65%.  He was released after a 10 day stay.  During that time, I thought very little about work other than "this is going to put me way behind."  But do you know what?

I didn't care

I had literally ratified a contract earlier that very morning that my son started turning purple by the time I had got him to the pediatrician's office (because we didn't know, I'd never been through this, it didn't seem that bad the day before, etc.).  Exactly one week later to the day, we had to void the same contract because there were way too many issues with the house.  And do you know what?

I didn't care

My wife would stay 2 nights, I would stay one because I insisted she take breaks.  The only thing that was important was for my beautiful son to stay alive and get well.  Even though I have an extremely supportive staff at the office, I lost the drive to try to make the deal work and to make money.  I couldn't even think of what my next topic would be to continue my seeming ever slow progress on perfecting my "blogabilities."  And do you know what?

I didn't care

My son is still weak but home with us now.  He is gradually getting better.  I am slowly able to concentrate on work again.  I can see how the more you blog, the better you get at it.  Since I won 3rd place on the recent "Give it your best shot " contest for us "Newbies," and literally since the day after that happened my son's life was in jeopardy in a way that makes me breathe a large sigh of relief whenever I think about it, my level of participation on Active Rain has wained.  I thought about and realized what's most important in my life.   Then I thought about  my "standing" with these points we earn and priorities on AR and blogging,  But do you know what?

I didn't care

My son is home again. 

That is what is most important. 

                               Daddy loves Noah

Once things are back in order, I'll be back.  Meanwhile, and hear this - Just because I'm a little behind, I will not allow myself to get discouraged, and in spite of what life sometimes offers me.  Better days are ahead.  And do you know why?

Because I do care.

 

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Karen Monsour
Coldwell Banker Fort Lauderdale Beach - Fort Lauderdale, FL
REALTOR, SSRS - Sells FL Waterfront, Short Sale Expert!

I'm so happy for you, so glad that cutie is home.  I'm glad there a few father's who realize family comes first sometimes.  Love the one's your with.  Life is too short. 

May 19, 2008 04:04 PM #6
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Brenda Dugan
Century 21 Heritage Sales, Inc. 770-363-3744 - Powder Springs, GA

Stephen,

Your blog brought tears to my eyes.  Your son is beautiful.  He is a gift from the Lord.  Family is first!  You are wise enough to realize that.  I pray he continues to grow healthy and stronger day by day.  May your business grow healthy and strong as well.

 

Brenda Dugan 

May 19, 2008 04:07 PM #7
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Mary, you are so right.  And which attitude we carry around is what makes or breaks us.

Krystal, thank you so much for your compliments (btw-I've enjoyed some of your blogs and tips).  I promise to hug him in the morning when he wakes up.  He looks sooo peaceful right now :)

May 19, 2008 04:10 PM #8
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Pam, thanks for the compliment.  We thought so ourselves when we brought him home.  Apparently most parents think "theirs is the most beautiful" :)  But wait, look at mine!, etc. :)

 

May 19, 2008 04:17 PM #9
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Steven, thanks, you're right though, to be able to see the forest through the trees, etc.

Marlene, yes, they are, but it seems we all need to be reminded of what's really important occasionally.

May 19, 2008 04:33 PM #10
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Hi Karen,

Thanks for the compliment, but you are right...life is indeed too short. 

Hi Brenda,

Wow.  Tears of joy, I'm sure.  Thanks, and like so many others, it has taken me some years to get that straight, believe me.  And the grace of the Lord could very well have a lot to do with that.  Thank you for your prayers and wishes.

May 19, 2008 04:38 PM #11
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Derenda Grubb
CENTURY 21 Mike D. Bono & Co.'s - Lake Charles, LA
GRI, ABR, CRS

Hi Stephen,

You have a beautiful Son and he is so fortunate that he is loved as much as you obviously love him.  Enjoy your son everyday and remeber how important he is to you, should you ever get TOO busy again.  Best wishes to your family.

May 19, 2008 04:53 PM #12
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Gary McNinch
Better Properties Real Estate - Renton, WA
Broker, Renton WA Real Estate

Stephen,

Relieved he is doing so well.  Aren't we blessed that our kids are resilient.  Hope you had plenty of help from the office.  One of the great things about our KW office is the ability to pick up and help others when they have a disaster.  We've handled contracts, listings, sales, showings and it's been done for me too when we had something like this come up.

List and Sell (God, Family, then business)   Gary @ RentonHomeFinder

May 19, 2008 05:00 PM #13
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Roberta LaRocca
Simply Vegas Real Estate - Las Vegas, NV
REALTOR®, Broker, Salesperson, NV. Lic BS.507

Stephen, Wow, that must have been so scary!  I'm am glad he is back home now and doing better. 

May 19, 2008 05:28 PM #14
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Brian Block
RE/MAX Allegiance, Managing Broker/Branch Vice President - McLean, VA
Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate

Stephen, I'm glad that your son is back home with yuo.  You most definitely have your priorities in the right place.  I'm sorry to hear about the ordeal that your family has suffered over the last few weeks.

May 19, 2008 10:34 PM #15
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Renée Donohue~Home Photography
Savvy Home Pix - Allegan, MI
Western Michigan Real Estate Photographer

Is that him?  HE is so precious with those squeezable little cheeks! 

Your priorities are right on!  Keep holding him and squeezing him tight.  They grow so fast!

May 20, 2008 01:09 AM #16
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Yvonne Hurt
Long & Foster Real Estate - Reedville, VA
Northern Neck of VA Real Estate

Best wishes for your son's continued improvement.  He's a cutie!  In this situation, you had your priorities in the correct order.  I'm sorry you and your family went through such a scary time.

May 20, 2008 02:02 AM #17
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Yvette Smith
LONG & FOSTER - Williamsburg, VA
Realtor In Williamsburg VA, Homes for Sale

I am so glad that he is well.  He is TRULY the most important thing...something special to CARE ABOUT!

Take care of that cutie pie!

Yvette

Williamsburg's Preferred Realtor®

May 20, 2008 02:42 AM #18
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Marie Meyer
Keller Williams Realty - Central Valley, NY
Orange County New York Realtor

Thank for sharing that.  Been through something similar, and it is good to see that someone else does not care because he cares. 

May 20, 2008 05:13 AM #19
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Derenda,

Thank you, yes I love him very much indeed.  As I type this response with one hand and he's sleeping on the other, I try every day to relish this time.

 

Hi Gary,

Thanks and I am learning about that resiliency of kids by watching him recover.  We played on the floor today and his laugh is...contagious :)

May 20, 2008 07:53 AM #20
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Roberta, It's interesting about the "scariness" of the event.  At the time, I was doing what felt naturally as a concerned parent.  But afterwards, I have thought many times, Holy, uh, Cow!  I can't believe that happened and we made it through it, etc.

May 20, 2008 08:00 AM #21
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Hi Brian,

Thanks, I'm glad too.  I'm told, as a parent, this probably won't be the last time thay my son puts us through an ordeal.

May 20, 2008 08:04 AM #22
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Hi Renee,  Yes that is him.  Thanks and I will hold onto him tight.

 

Hi Yvonne,  Thanks so much and yes, we were sorry to go through it as well, but it's over.  Now we can just enjoy him like we used to, only with even more appreciation.

May 20, 2008 02:04 PM #23
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Jennifer Fivelsdal
JFIVE Home Realty LLC | 845-758-6842|162 Deer Run Rd Red Hook NY 12571 - Rhinebeck, NY
Mid Hudson Valley real estate connection

Stephen - I am so glad your son is doing better.  As  a mother I know how worried I was when my child was sick.  Your priority is certainly in the right place.  Take care and enjoy your family.

May 31, 2008 09:11 AM #24
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Stephen Adams
Keller Williams Realty - Leesburg, VA

Yvette - Thank you, I think I will do my best to take care of him, you bet!  As a new parent just on the south side of 40, I have learned that when things like this happen, we really just don't know better about our childs' physiological makeup.  At least I can say with much more accuracy what symptoms to watch out for and to stay on top of.

 

Marie- Thanks for recognizing that.  It's good to be able to stop what I'm doing and be reminded of what's really important.  It's an intuition that seems to hit parents when they have children.

 

Jennifer - Thank you, so am I.  I thought that I really appreciated My own mother, and the antics of mine that she put with over the years.  Now the shoe appears to be on the other foot.  I SSSOOO understand even more now.  He's almost back to normal.  He is fun to be around.  I know that I need to continue working, but I was telling my wife that wouldn't it be great to just leave for a couple of years, all bills paid, of course, and just enjoy him!  He is starting to laugh again, playing more, talking more (much of it still doesn't make sense) and exploring.

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