Professionalism Is Not An Orphan

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Professionalism Is Not An Orphan

"She makes too many jokes - how unprofessional!"

"She doesn't think exactly like me - how unprofessional!" 

"Why is he dressed like THAT? How unprofessional!"

"You can't POSSIBLY know as much as I KNOW!"


We humans love to pass judgement, don't we?


In our business, there is a lot of volleying around of that word - PROFESSIONALISM.

Some of us think that WE are the most professional in the room.
Perhaps in the city. 
Maybe . . . in the Universe!  (that I own and operate, don'cha know?)  3:)


Far be it from me to tell you what to think, especially since you'll think what you want anyway. And I am in love with your individuality!  <3

What is PROFESSIONALISM to lil' ol' me?                                 

Well . . .

Professionalism is educated, but never condescending.

Professionalism is elegant, but never stuffy.

Professionalism is intelligent, sensible, intuitive. 

Professionalism is emotional as well as dispassionate, and can anticipate when heart or head must lead.

Professionalism is bold, assertive -- but without unnecessary heroism or histrionics.

Professionalism is energetic, but also grounded.

Professionalism keeps the big picture ever in mind, but doesn't miss a detail.

Professionalism carries its weight, and provides assistance when necessary.

Professionalism comes from a place of centeredness that is unshakable, no matter the circumstance.

Professionalism has an engaged brain, supported and fortified by a heart of gold.

Professionalism understands that win-win is always better than win-lose.

Professionalism attracts respect and admiration without effort.

Professionalism is more often revealed when things go wrong, than celebrated when they go smoothly.

Professionalism vibrates to a high rate, and attracts high-value others.

Professionalism sees the absurdity in life and our crazy business, and enjoys the process with humor and grace.

AND YES . . . Professionals get PAID. Usually quite well.

Finally . . . Professionals are allied and connected, everywhere -- inclusive, never exclusive.

They know that professionalism may be lonely at times . . . but at no time is it an orphan.


I see you, with all due regard and honor. 

Now go sell something that will put you in a higher tax bracket!


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Kathleen Daniels
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
San Jose Homes for Sale-Probate & Trust Specialist

Candice A. Donofrio - so refreshing.  There is more than one way to get something done.  Just because someone does something differently than I do does not make it wrong or make them wrong yet we see many comments that suggest otherwise, don't we? 

I am not a fan of say, Buffini for example.  That does not mean raving fans of Buffini are bad people, are stupid, or don't know what they are doing. If it floats their boat ... so be it.  They are still loveable people! 

Feb 14, 2018 03:36 PM #10
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Wonderful, wonderful, Candice. Wow you really nailed it in your bullets! Such a well deserved gold star!


Feb 14, 2018 05:41 PM #11
M.C. Dwyer
Century 21 Showcase REALTORs - Felton, CA
MC Dwyer-Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

I like your philosphy Candice.   Congratulations on the feature too!

Feb 14, 2018 06:09 PM #12
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Be YOU...and be professional! I often think of the old adage - 'If we were all alike, the world would be a boring place.' We'd be robotic - why would anyone EVER want that?

Give me both sides; I'm a big girl, I can take it! And, I might just take a little bit of each of your arguments to create something fabulous. But, don't be condescending to one another; I have no time or respect for that drama!

LOVE your quote, "Professionalism has an engaged brain, supported and fortified by a heart of gold." - SO true.

Great, thought-provoking list, Candice. Hopefully the feature will get more than the choir to read this too! 

Feb 14, 2018 08:03 PM #13
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

There is a lot more to being a professional than being referred to as a professional. Unfortunately, I've encountered and interacted with many professionals who were inept, ignorant and sometimes dumb, so it depends, doesn't it, on who the professional is, isn't it? 

Feb 15, 2018 12:21 AM #14
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker, Blackstone Realty Group - brokered by eXp Realty - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

I love your definitions of professionalism! Those definitions are really all about character, not the "what" of what we do. We can all be professional and do things totally differently and that's just fine because we are allied and connected and not orphans!

Feb 15, 2018 03:48 AM #15
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Bravo, Candice.  Not everyone works in the same manner.  Just because someone works differently does not make them any less professional.

Feb 15, 2018 04:59 AM #16
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

Lil ole you has it figured out. Anyone with the need to criticize another person's style - whether it's in business, or elsewhere has their own problems. People with a healthy sense of self don't feel the need to put others down to feel good.  Viva la difference - and yet here we are, all sharing the same life energy. 

Feb 15, 2018 06:35 AM #17
Zurple Marketing Team
Zurple - San Diego, CA
Zurple, Client Generation Software for Agents

Great points! This should apply to ALL industries!

Feb 15, 2018 08:39 AM #18
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


What you describe in the first part is the ugly side of branding someone.  We all do it most often unconsciously.  It is one of those knee jerk reactions that we  humans need to take time to correct in ourselves.   The sad part of this is that we do the same thing to ourselves.  

When we were in commercial real estate, Ron refused to wear 3 piece suits and wingtips, and I refused to imitate the men in real estate.  I would hear through the grapevine the critics of both of us...we refused to be automatons!  And yes, just like you we were professional and thrived big time!  A

Feb 15, 2018 11:28 AM #19
Jerry Lucas
ABC Legal Docs LLC - Colorado Springs, CO
Mobile Notary Colorado Springs, CO Notary Training

Good list of professional qualities.

I have seen some ads claiming professional, detailed-oriented service, with spelling errors in the ad. 

Feb 15, 2018 01:49 PM #20
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

We have become a society of judgment. It's so sad.

This is a very clever and well written post! 

Congrats on the well deserved Feature!

Feb 15, 2018 02:21 PM #21
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

One of my joys is to take time to smell all those roses who are most professional

Feb 15, 2018 03:18 PM #22
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Preach it Candice.

Right on, Right on!!!

Feb 15, 2018 06:29 PM #23
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Excellent points... to stay focused and get results plus have some fun in the style or spin you put on the list, twist, sell (repeat). Be a person dealing with people and not cardboard stiff or above your audience. Your years of broadcasting taught you to see, talk to one person in your audience... not read to them but talk to them, see them, make them feel you know they are out there. Never complain about how sick you feel, give them something in the UX. Be helpful. Knowledgeable  and not catty or snarky!

Feb 24, 2018 08:42 AM #24
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Candice A. Donofrio - What a wonderful post! I enjoyed reading it and I'm looking forward to getting to know you more here on ActiveRain.

Congratulations on being featured too! May you continue to achieve greatness and many followers.

Feb 27, 2018 12:57 PM #25
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

"Professionalism" is like a good suit, if it doesn't fit right, or looks out of place on YOU, then you are not doing it right. Too many people try to look or behave like those they wish to emulate, is my point, and it just doesn't necessarily work for them. Each of us can be professional in our own way. Hope this makes sense. it does to me. We are not clones.

Mar 02, 2018 12:27 PM #26
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate - St. George, UT
So Utah Residential, Referral & Relocation REALTOR

Approachable, respectful and honest are three professional standards that never go out of style in our industry Candice. I enjoyed the read, congrats on the feature, deserved!

Mar 12, 2018 01:54 PM #27
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX

COngrats on the feature love the ending and professionalism is also courteous and respectful! Have a great day!

Mar 15, 2018 12:03 PM #28
Claude Labbe
Real Living | At Home - Washington, DC
Realty for Your Busy Life

Patricia Feager sent me here, and what a great post for me to be introduced to your thinking & approach.

Mar 18, 2018 09:39 PM #29
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