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Multi-Generational Homes and Lifestyles in Clark County, WA

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Industry Observer with Nature As Neighbors

MultiGen Homes and Lifestyles 

We keep reading new articles about a growing trend in U.S. housing needs, Multigenerational homes. It makes us chuckle, as we’ve been specializing in these types of properties for nearly four years.  According to the Pew Research Center, in 2014, about 19% (60.6 million people), lived in a multi-gen home. We’re fairly certain those numbers are higher today.  Obviously, it’s not a lifestyle for everyone, and family dynamics have to line up to make it a successful option.  We all want to live in harmony.

Our multi-gen home is a bit unusual, as we have three couples living in one property – my sister and her husband, our elderly parents, and us. While we technically share one roof, our large home enables the two younger couples to live privately. However, the two of us do share a wing of our home with my parents. Ideally, mom and dad would live in a separate cottage. Dad’s dwindling health ( he has dementia and congestive heart failure) and mom’s advancing age, she will be 91 in August, sidetracked our original plan.

 

Multigenerational Living Tips

 

After two and half years of this living arrangement, we have discovered some pretty important basics for families to follow.

 

  1. Consult a family trust attorney to help determine home ownership percentages and what happens in the event someone wants to move, or dies.
  2. Communication is key. Honest and regular exchanges prevent misunderstandings and missteps.
  3. Prepare a financial outline before moving in together. For example, how the bills are paid, how the repairs are handled, and how to give credit for renovations. You get the idea.
  4. Private space. Everyone needs their own space. The more spacious the living quarters, the better for all.
  5. Respect personality differences and honor, or establish boundaries.
  6. Flexibility – especially with children or elderly family members.
  7. Soothing surroundings. We love our rural lifestyle and know that living next to nature keeps us grounded, even during stressful times.
  8. Try to get regular exercise, eat well, and get enough rest. You have to take care of yourself to help care for others.
  9. Schedule shared fun. Whether it’s a dinner out, a family movie, or just sitting around the outdoor fire-pit, look for ways to enjoy one another.
  10. Remember to laugh, often. A sense of humor goes a long way in any relationship or household.

 

It’s no coincidence, our specialty – “ViewHomes with “nature as neighbors and elbow room for the soul ™”- works well for Multi-gen households, too. Call us today, we enjoy sharing our first hand experiences with others about this rewarding lifestyle. Plus, we are the only REALTORS® in Clark County who specialize in Multi-generational properties.

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Debb Janes  Bernie Stea
Brokers/REALTORS®
Call or Text 360-608-4900

We help buyers and sellers in Camas, Washougal, Brush Prairie/Hockinson, Salmon Creek, Felida, and other Vancouver, Washington Areas. 


We bring our passion for nature and beautiful environments to Real Estate. Multigenerational and family estates, country land and homes, and small farmsteads are our speciality.


We agree with our clients, "The true luxury of rural living is having elbowroom for the soul.

 

Comments(20)

Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Debb,

Love the wonderful tips you shared and lovely picture.  I especially like the one about laughter...Happy Monday.  A

Feb 26, 2018 12:43 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - these are great tips ... consulting with a trust attorney is a must, in my opinion.  We all want to live in harmony. It takes the perfect combination of family to make this living arrangement work.  You have mastered it.  

And laughter .... another must.  It's food for the soul. 

Here you go Carol Williams for your second chance.

Feb 26, 2018 01:58 PM
Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert
Richmond, TX

Debb,

 Really good tips to share and smart ones too! It is hard to watch your parents age! I know! Have a great evening!

Feb 26, 2018 03:28 PM
Debb Janes

Thanks Yolanda Cordova-Gilbert I know you're very familiar with this style of living. Hope all is well in your multigen home. 

Feb 28, 2018 06:21 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

You are totally, without question, the authority on this subject...setting the perfect example with your own family!

Feb 26, 2018 04:40 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Debb- you know how I feel about this! The key that you point out is to work everything out BEFORE you move in. Larry and I both need our ME time so that would be key for us if we had someone living with us.

Feb 26, 2018 07:46 PM
Debb Janes

Exactly, Kathy. Having a sense of privacy is huge for me too. Ideally, it would be best if mom and dad had completely separate living quarters, but we have laid it out for optimal privacy. 

Feb 28, 2018 06:22 AM
Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thank you for sharing the great tips. I do not see many multi generational homes in my market.

Feb 27, 2018 01:52 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Debb,
You have some awesome insights into the multi-generational niche!  Thanks for sharing.   

I can vouch for the following. A sense of humor has diffused many tense situations in my life:
Remember to laugh, often. A sense of humor goes a long way in any relationship or household.

Feb 27, 2018 06:39 AM
Debb Janes

If we couldn't laugh, we would all go insane. :) 

Feb 28, 2018 06:23 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Funny that you say 4 years ago, Debb.  4+ years ago when we built our home, we built it in anticipation of being multi-generational at some point down the road. We've had one of our millennials here for a few months before a major out-of-state move and the downstairs (private suite) is ready, in waiting, for the grandparents when they're ready. 

We just need to add the rest of the items on your list when they move in and laughter will definitely be one of them!

Feb 27, 2018 06:46 AM
Debb Janes

Debe Maxwell, CRS Your wise to the trend. And wise to plan ahead. Sounds like a great solution. D

Feb 28, 2018 06:23 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

When I was younger I NEVER would have considered a multi-generational home. Now that I'm older and wiser, it makes sense in many situations. Currently I have two family members living with me and it's working perfectly, although it is a temporary situation. We didn't establish ground rules so I'm lucky it is going well. This is a valuable topic that will help many people who are considering multi-gen housing.

Feb 27, 2018 08:19 AM
Debb Janes

Me too. I never would have imagined being comfortable with this scenario. I love my privacy. D 

Feb 28, 2018 06:24 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Debb, great advice, and with many multi-generational families deciding to share the same roof, hope they read your comments!  

Feb 27, 2018 08:20 AM
Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker
Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

In Sacramento, prices are getting so out of hand that the only way some people can afford to buy a home is if they go in on the purchase with family members and they all live together. I'm not seeing a lot of these people consulting a lawyer for guidance to avoid future disputes, but that's a great idea, Debb!!

Feb 27, 2018 09:36 AM
Debb Janes

Thanks Elizabeth. Yes, I'm sure financial concerns come into play for a number of families. 

Feb 28, 2018 06:24 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much for sharing your experience and your advice.

Feb 27, 2018 11:17 AM
Debb Janes

You're very welcome, Roy. We are pretty big proponents of the lifestyle. D

Feb 27, 2018 11:20 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Great tips, Debb, to ease the multi-generational lifestyle. It's how I grew up. But in my market still not seeing much of it, nor housing being built to accommodate it. It will be interesting to see what the next decades brings.

Feb 27, 2018 12:31 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Debb,  Excellent blog and one that more people should look in to.  Thanks for sharing.

 

Feb 27, 2018 12:36 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD - Unfortunately, there are no relatives of mine left in that generational category; however, I must say, I continuously admire the two of you and how knowledgeable you are in this Generational Buying department. Those 10 points are so important to know. It could be on a wall in every Attorney' office and Broker's office too. Your genuine love and passion/compassion for seniors is so heartwarming and sincere. You could write a book and it would probably be on the best seller's list. Keep doing what you're doing. Millennials need to know and seniors will appreciate it too. I greatly appreciate the two of you. 

Feb 27, 2018 01:41 PM
Debb Janes

Thanks Patricia. Always, always appreciate your thoughtful comments. 

Feb 28, 2018 06:25 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

The picture that you shared is really touching, I love kids and elderly, so seeing moments like this really touches me!  You are certainly the expert to turn to when it comes to multi-generational homes!

Feb 27, 2018 04:47 PM
Debb Janes

Brian England That's my mom at her 90th Birthday party and my grandsons. THe big guy you can't see is my son, Sean. 

Feb 28, 2018 06:26 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

It’s like multigenerational homes pass on the vibe in the spirit of how the home is

Feb 27, 2018 11:55 PM
Debb Janes

Laura Cerrano So very true. 

Feb 28, 2018 06:26 AM
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Thanks Debb and Bernie.  More and more families are finding themselves in these types of living situations.

Mar 04, 2018 04:42 AM
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

It is a tradition in many cultures that has taken a while to become more prevalent in some parts of the country.

Mar 13, 2018 04:56 AM
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Happily Retired - Franklin, MA
Previously Affiliated with The Todaro Team

Good morning, Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD how did I miss this one.... what a great topic and very realistic about what families are experiencing today.... 

May 02, 2018 05:34 AM