A Little Kindness Goes A Long Way

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A Little Kindness Goes A Long Way
In many areas the market is tight – low inventory, multiple offers, and rising interest rates put the pressure on buyers, sellers, and agents. When the pressure is on it’s important to remember to remain calm and kind. No matter what the market conditions are bad behavior has no place in a real estate transaction.

 Kindness in Real Estate

As I reflect on the first quarter of 2018 and analyze its challenges a lack of kindness and respect stands out most. Everyone deserves both kindness and respect. Egos, attitudes, and demands do nothing but, raise tensions. They do not accomplish anything positive. Buying or selling a home is a marathon, not a sprint and it takes patience from all parties involved. I understand buyers and sellers getting stressed and acting emotionally but, I do not understand real estate agents that take that path. An agents emotions should never enter a real estate contract – NEVER.

Kindness in Real Estate
There’s been a consistent flow of agents threatening, cursing, and making demands that aren’t reasonable. An example being submitting an offer on a listing and demanding my sellers respond within hours and accept the offer because they don’t want their buyer in a bidding war. On the opposite side when assisting buyers the listing agent who doesn’t return calls, texts, or emails can be a challenge as well. The current seller’s market won’t last forever but, the impression agents leave will. It’s a very small world and if there’s one thing we all remember it’s how people treat us. I often wonder if buyers and sellers know how their agent acts. Our clients deserve our absolute best at all times and that includes interaction with another agent.

Kindness in Real Estate 

Agent relationships are an important part of this business. That applies no matter what the market conditions are but, I think it makes an even bigger impact when the market is tight. A healthy and productive relationship with other agents only helps our clients. No one wants to work with a bully agent. While we represent different parties in the transaction we share the goal of getting both sides to closing with terms and conditions that are a win-win for the buyer and the seller.

Kindness in Real Estate 

As agents, we can’t let stress get to us. No matter how much stress we’re feeling we should always treat others how we would like to be treated. A little kindness goes a long way.



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Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group

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6485 Old Beulah Street
Alexandria, VA 22315

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Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

There are a lot of wins tindness allows us to get in this life and I wouldn’t have any other way! :)

Apr 22, 2018 11:44 PM #32
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Brian L. Sirota, Esq. You won me over by being yourself over here! Thanks for being so genuine!

Apr 22, 2018 11:45 PM #33
Jane Chaulklin-Schott
TEAMCONNECT REALTY - (407) 394-9766 - Orlando, FL
TeamConnect Luxury Homes - Orlando, Florida, 32836

Amanda, thank you for sharing this wise and important post.  Believe most of us understand it so well from previous experience. There is never any need for negativity and crudeness in dealing with others and especially in our professional real estate field.

Apr 23, 2018 02:16 AM #34
Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

Who could argue with a word you said? I have a good feeling, any day now, the pendulum is going to swing and kindness is going to make a big comeback.

Apr 23, 2018 07:02 AM #35
Marie Story
Coldwell Banker - Pinecrest (Miami) - Pinecrest, FL
Broker Associate, Pinecrest (Miami) Specialist

Amanda, I couldn't agree with you more.  I always tell new agents to learn to get along with their fellow agents.

"Your clients come and go -  but you may have to deal with your fellow real estate agents for a long time."     

Apr 23, 2018 07:06 AM #36
Lynne Ruffin
Century 21 Nachman Realty - Norfolk, VA
Century 21. The Gold Standard.

Great read!  I agree whole-heartedly.  When you leave a sour taste in someone's mouth it is hard to gargle it away.

Apr 23, 2018 07:12 AM #37
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Hi Amanda- Love your post. And, as you can see from the comments, there are many who are missing that kindness towards others that you mention just as much as you are.

Apr 23, 2018 07:39 AM #38
Amanda Christiansen
Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843 - Fort Wayne, IN
Christiansen Group Realty

100% agree.  While we've had those "bully" agents we just stay calm and make sure our clients get what they need.  We've had so many more good experiences with agents than bad.  Every once in a while we just need to stay calm with these bullies and keep the end goal in mind for our clients.  Good post!  

Apr 23, 2018 07:58 AM #39
Michael Jacobs
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena Area Real Estate 818.516.4393

Hello Amanda - the other "side" feels good and so do oh - a real win/win.

Apr 23, 2018 10:55 AM #41
Gregory Manns
HomeSmart Professionals - Palm Springs / La Quinta, CA - Indio, CA
Palm Springs Area Realtor HomeSmart Professionals

Hello Amanda,

Thank you for the very refreshing post.

I totally agree with you and believe it's best to be regarded as a true professional and a real pleasure to work with. 

Wishing you much continued success!

Apr 23, 2018 05:59 PM #42
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
your real estate writer

Kindness should play a primary role in all aspects of life - and if it did, the world would be a happier place.

You are so right when you say people will remember how we treated them. We may not remember what someone said or did, but we always remember how they made us feel.

Apr 23, 2018 09:13 PM #43
John Wiley
Right Move Real Estate Group- EXP Realty - Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL Real Estate GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

It has long been said:"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

Working together in harmony will allow us to accomplish much as well as present a professional image to the consumer.

Thanks for the encouragement to be KIND.

Apr 24, 2018 03:26 AM #44
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Amanda S. Davidson, kindness and respect. Sounds simple, yet, we see the opposite from those we interact with. I don't really know or understand the reasons, I only wish and pray I don't have to work with those type of agents.

Apr 24, 2018 05:47 AM #45
Eric Sztanyo
Keller Williams Advisors Realty - Cincinnati, OH
Cincinnati & NKY Realtor® | TeamSztanyo.com

Great post.

Do unto others ...

You reap what you sow ..

Apr 24, 2018 07:43 AM #46
Jeanne Gregory
RE/MAX Southwest - Sugar Land, TX

I just closed one of my listings and the buyer's agent was something else.  Every time we spoke it was like her pants were on fire.  It was all drama and no solution.  I thought it was the buyer causing it, but even the title company said buyer agent was a bit over the top. 

Apr 24, 2018 08:48 AM #47
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I never understand when people don't communicate in the spirit of cooperation and understand we all what what is best for a our respective clients.

Apr 24, 2018 01:51 PM #48
Corey Martin
Martin Presence Group - Ruston, LA
Real Estate and Management Solutions

I can only parrot what everyone else has said. Great post and I agree with you 100%. Thank you for sharing. 

Apr 24, 2018 08:22 PM #49
Laura Filip
RE/MAX UTOPIA , Serving all of Texoma - Whitesboro, TX
What can we do for you today?

Thank you for sharing. being nice can go along way. Smile say hello ask is there anything I can do for you today. Help others be kind is exactly what one should do and say. Have a blessed day. May our life be full of happiness. Smile 

Apr 25, 2018 03:16 PM #50
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Amanda, in the movie Wonder (a marvelous movie that I highly recommend about bullying, and so much more)....a teacher has his kids read a precept every day. In one monumental moment, there is a child that reads this (I'm paraphrasing but this is close) "When choosing to be right or being kind, choose kind." This one hit me between the eyes! So simple, yet so very important. I think that choosing to be kind is so much more powerful and connects us genuinely, with each other. In ANY relationship. For a moment or a lifetime. 

Apr 25, 2018 10:46 PM #51
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

You are so right.  Realtors on the receiving end of bad communication and intentions will burn themselves into the memories of their recipients!  Great post!

Apr 26, 2018 09:32 PM #52
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