Getting Your Spouse on Board
- Having a supportive spouse makes all the difference
- But do what you do because it feels like it's your purpose in life
- There's a reason for everything
I saw this posted the other day on Ryan Fletcher's Facebook. It is so true. I couldn't have said it better so I wanted to share it and add my two cents:
“The world of entrepreneurship isn't all roses. It's an emotional dog-fight. You pour your heart and soul into this thing. Like trying to push a weighted sled. It doesn't seem to move. It’s not for lack of effort. You’re slaying dragons, daily. You're doing your best. You’re sharpening your sword to the extent, it feels like a sacrificial ritual... you ain’t got no more blood left to give.
Depression sets in. You’re already down, because you’re tired and worn out. No one is more frustrated than you.
Then your spouse says, “Insert hurtful comment…” which conveys they have absolutely no belief in you. "I was down already, yes, but thanks for the kick to the balls." “I get it, you have no confidence in me…” And this person, your spouse, partner, who is supposed to be your biggest fan. Your champion. Your greatest supporter. If they won’t support you, root for you, pick you up when you’re feeling down, then what’s the f*cking point?
Who am I doing this for?
“The world is already against me. I got enough critics. I got enough doubters. I got enough people who think I’m going to fail. Half the time, that person is me. I need you to pick me up. I need you to give me strength. I need you to believe in me."
"Together, I truly believed we could defeat them," he says to his spouse. "But I was wrong, you're one of them…”
When someone comes to that realization, man, woman, doesn't matter, that’s a painful reality. Thankfully, I’ve never had to.”
I have a friend who is in this position. It's very disheartening. I tell him to hang in there. Maybe it's God's way of giving you a better challenge that is preparing you for bigger and better things.
Does it really matter what your spouse thinks? Are you doing what you're doing to please someone else or are you doing what you're doing because it feels like it's your purpose in life and it resonates with you?
I tell him not to do things for the sake of hoping to get approval from others. Do it because it feels like it was what you were meant to do.
Whatever your dream is, just do it, no matter how many doubters there are. It's your life and your dream.
It reminds me of a song in grade school.
Row your boat merrily down the stream and enjoy wherever it takes you.
Row, row, row your boat
Gently down the stream
Merrily, merrily, merrily, merrily
Life is but a dream