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Be Not Afraid

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Real Estate Agent with Keller Williams Realty, Ann Arbor, MI

Today I had some really disturbing news from one of my buyers.  He had been in the neighborhood where we are scheduled to close on a property next Friday.  The deal has been up and down, extended this long since an early March contract date for very legitimate reasons beyond the buyers' control.  Today however, in talking to some neighbors, he learned that the previous owner had committed suicide in the garage.

When I heard this in a phone call from the buyer this afternoon, he asked if the bank was required to disclose this.  It is a bank-owned property, surprise!  No, the bank is not required to disclose this, and in Michigan, nor are realtors since it is a non-material fact of the real estate.  Of course, had I known it, I would have disclosed it, and in talking to the listing agent, he did not know it either.

My team leader came by right after I learned this and I mentioned it to him.  He asked the address and commented that it was not the same place he was thinking of.  Apparently someone in our office has a listing where another homeowner committed suicide in their pole barn.

Things have been not good in Michigan for some time but there is light at the end of the tunnel.  A recent Today showBarbara Corcoran segment featured Barbara Corcoran and while she admitted that the Detroit metro area is one of the six most depressed markets in the nation, she also said that this area is on the way back up.  It is official.  We have hit bottom.  Sadly, some homeowners hit bottom before the news got out.

I took this news in stride in the office but came home for a long power nap, awaking very subdued.  I was physically refreshed but could not help but dwell on the news I heard today.  We may talk in generalities about the number of foreclosures, the difficulties of short sales, the drastically reduced assessments.  The human toll is rarely mentioned.  Today I looked it in the eye and it hurt, literally.

As I drove to the supermarket for the requisite milk and bread, I had a song stuck in my head.  "Be Not Afraid."  It is a beautiful and sad song we sing in church, lax as I have been in attending of late, but the roots are deep.  I remember being unable to sing this song the Sunday after our country invaded Iraq; the words were too difficult.  I also could not sing it when we buried my little nephew recently.  I'm sure the author of the song meant it to be uplifting, an affirmation that even in death there is hope.  It just makes me cry.  So crying is what I did, driving back from the supermarket.

You know what?  I felt better.  There is the release of tension that tears bring, but I think in this case it was more about faith, deep within me and sidelined far too easily.  I don't know what end of life brings.Be Not Afraid  I don't know where the 40-something man who ended his life is now; none of us really does.  I have faith though that there is peace in the end, whatever a person's belief system is, even if it is just that the pain of living is done.  That light at the end of the tunnel I mentioned earlier?  I have faith it is not related only to real estate.  In the end, if I have the means, I'll blog about that too.  I'll try my best to get back to you on that....  

      

Comments(6)

Karen Anne Stone
New Home Hunters of Fort Worth and Tarrant County - Fort Worth, TX
Fort Worth Real Estate

Susan:  Tears can have very much of a cleansing effect.  I myself am one who does not cry enough.  When I do, though, somehow afterwards things feel "lighter."  There are things that happen, though, that, no matter how many tears are shed, the pain, although it may be further away in time, is still right there in our minds.  Take care... gentle huggs to you.

May 22, 2008 06:16 PM
Tony & Darcy Cannon
Aubrey and Associates Realty - Layton, UT
The C Team

Susan, it is a great post!  It is a tragedy when people get that desparate that they take the most permanent solution to what are in fact temporary problems.  I say this in no terms of judging, because I feel that a person isn't in their right mind when they get that desperate.  I am glad that things are beginning to pick up in Michigan.

May 22, 2008 06:34 PM
Missy Caulk
Missy Caulk TEAM - Ann Arbor, MI
Savvy Realtor - Ann Arbor Real Estate

Susan, just in case you didn't know of follow Google Alerts, this was picked up this morning. Of course I would have read it because I subscribe to you, but just thought you'd want to know. Yes, it is sad, I feel that way when I am dealing with foreclosure's. There is a sad story behind them all regardless of who is at fault.

May 22, 2008 10:08 PM
Kris Wales
Keller Williams Realty - Lakeside Market Center - Macomb, MI
Real Estate Blog & Homes for Sale search site, Macomb County MI

In our area particulary most of the foreclosures were caused by job loss, and not speculators running rampant and then going belly up.

It's been shown time and time again that job loss is not only a major stress on a persons life, but it affects the whole family in ways that we don't always see:  Divorce, suicide, depression, etc.

Some days you just wanna go to bed and not get up, the sadness is so thick around us.

May 22, 2008 10:17 PM
Jon Boyd
Home Buyer's Agent of Ann Arbor - Ann Arbor, MI
Ann Arbor Real Estate Buyers Agent

Susan,

I saw the our post this morning because of a Google Alert just like Missy described.

It is very sad seeing these homes that have had unhappy moments in them. It seems like these last two years I've looked at a lot of big expensive homes where the furniture is all out, but you still see some kid's toys and other signs of the former happiness.

I just focus on how the home can be filled with happyiess and fun again when a new buyer moves in and makes it their own.

May 24, 2008 12:57 AM
Susan Walters
Keller Williams Realty, Ann Arbor, MI - Ann Arbor, MI

Karen, I too cry infrequently - I am more of a yeller when things are upsetting.  (My lucky loved ones....)  This sort of thing just hit me right/wrong.  I have shown a LOT of foreclosure properties and felt really badly about the first one I listed.  This was the saddest one by far, with this news.

Tony and Darcy, I agree, that's as bad as it gets.  I told my brother about this and he noted that in the four years when he was laid off on about 6 different occasions as a new engineer, he never once felt so desperate as this.  He had some real financial troubles but always looked to the future.  (He is happily and securely employed now.)

Missy, I know about Google Alerts and have them directed to me daily with key word searches but this didn't come to me - I'll have to talk to you about what the heck I am missing.

Kris, I would say I get that "go back to bed" feeling about once a week but fortunately it doesn't last long.  About once every 2 or 3 months I really do go back to bed - sometimes you just have to surrender...

Jon, I have been in a lot of properties where seemingly important things are left behind.  Kid's toys bother me but left-behind family photos are worse.  I think people just get numb at the end.  

May 24, 2008 03:40 AM