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And Now More Uganda, Part Two..........

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We were advised that an appropriate tip for a porter was $20.00 on our Gorilla trek. After an hour it was clear that that number was sorely underestimated. I had two porters and each was tipped $50.00. I knew in my bones that this bum was going to short them and so I asked the guide who told me he gave them each $20. He was appalled and I was angry and embarrassed. I spoke to the old guy and he lied. There were many people in the area once all of us were back from out respective treks. 

I was done and I wanted everyone including the porters to hear what I was about to say. I told the old bastard that he was an ugly American and that he should know better. Everyone in the open room was listening and the porters were attentive as well.  (there are 68 different languages spoken in Uganda and so the only way most people can communicate is in English). He said he would do what he wanted and that he had given these three men, who literally carried him for miles, what they were worth. I lost it. I told him what most of us have done and all he wanted was his lunch. The rest of us gave our lunches to the porters. I got change from the guide and had him show me who his porters were. I gave each of these guys $50.00. It wasn't enough but it was all I had with me. I said a lot more, which I can't repeat in this venue, but that is less important than the morale of the story which is we all represent more than ourselves when we travel anywhere and that folks judge the best of us by the rest of us.

Travel teaches us about other cultures and peoples: it also teaches us about ourselves and what we value. I believe there is a higher standard of conduct when we are working, and a need to be our best selves when we travel. There are always things we can control and things beyond our control. I think the measure of any man or woman is how they respond to what life brings them. And so it goes........

And these were my porters:

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Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Broker
Elizabeth Anne Weintraub, Broker - Sacramento, CA
Put 40 years of experience to work for you

So many times in life we cannot speak up because we do not want to suffer the consequences. Tell a thug to put down that gun and get the hell out of your way could get you killed. Tell a nasty seller to go-you-know-what, when they absolutely deserve your wrath, will get you a viscious and untrue online review that you can't remove.

So I am very glad that you spoke up and told off this jerk. We are absolutely ambassadors for our country when we travel; others judge the whole by the worst person there. It's important to make that distinction that not everybody in America acts like a (insert name of states with bad reputations here). :)

Jun 01, 2018 10:01 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thanks Elizabeth. You would have enjoyed my tirade.     Sheila

Jun 01, 2018 10:06 AM
Joe Pryor
The Virtual Real Estate Team - Oklahoma City, OK
REALTOR® - Oklahoma Investment Properties

Sometimes tighteous anger can be invigorating and productive. Good for you, I admire your sense of what is right.

Jun 01, 2018 02:54 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you so much Joe.       Sheila

Jun 01, 2018 03:27 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Sheila good for you for taking him to task.  If more people spoke up, people like him would be less likely to do what he did.

Jun 01, 2018 03:45 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you very much George.       Sheila

Jun 01, 2018 06:45 PM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

I knew you would do what you could to right that wrong. Glad you had a chance to tell the man how selfish he was.

Jun 01, 2018 07:08 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you so very much Debbie.      Sheila

Jun 01, 2018 07:13 PM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I can't believe how many languages are spoken in Uganda. That is astounding Sheila Anderson 

Jun 01, 2018 10:34 PM
James Dray
Fathom Realty - Bentonville, AR

Morning Sheila.

You go girl, someone needed to tell that jerk what an idiot he was.  

Jun 02, 2018 01:54 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Hi Paul. Not really: most folks don't ever go more than a few miles from their homes ever. TY    Sheila

Jun 02, 2018 05:42 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you James.     Sheila

Jun 02, 2018 05:43 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Wow Sheila. You did give him what for...very kind of you to make up his deficit as best you could too. He sounds like a miserable soul. Can't imagine why he even made the trip. 

Jun 02, 2018 07:41 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you Debb. I couldn't understand it either.     Sheila

Jun 02, 2018 07:47 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster Real Estate - Gainesville, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

We can't control the actions of others, but I'm sure speaking your mind made you feel better.

Jun 02, 2018 07:53 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

It did Chris Ann. TY     Sheila

Jun 02, 2018 08:02 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Sheila

I'm sorry that this happened but so glad that you spoke up. How embarassing, and unbelievably cheap on that fellow's part.

Jeff

Jun 02, 2018 04:22 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thanks very much Jeff. I appreciate your support.     Sheila

Jun 02, 2018 04:45 PM
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Sheila, thanks for giving us an account of the rest of your story.

As I read your post I was reminded that we are Ambassadors of some thing all the time.

Americans have a bad reputation in other countries because we have had so many poor ambassadors.

In Real Estate, we are each an ambassador of our profession. How well do we represent?

Great share, thanks.

Jun 05, 2018 05:11 AM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Thank you John.     Sheila

Jun 05, 2018 05:20 AM