Lee Rome Award 2018

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291
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It was an honor and a priviledge to make  the following presentation, today May 31,2018, at Franklin Square Hospital.

From a grateful wife.

 

Ten years ago I wrote a book. The dedication read.  

''To Lee: I made a wish and you came true”

 

 Yesterday would have been our 50th Anniversary! 

 

  17 years ago he got a big diagnosis. His cancer was very rare,

  usually found in extremities of younger people...

not in the abdomen touching every major organ and not in someone his age..

Prognosis nil. No chance of survival.

One of the biggest

 hospitals in world wanted to do radiation and chemo immediately. With such a poor diagnosis why would you put him through this ordeal!!?

 

It was through the dedication, brilliance, caring, kindness and treatment  of this hospital's family medicine department that we got another 13 years and most of that was quality...real quality of life.

 

Our orchestra leader, Dr Joyce King, was in charge. Taking 100s if not 1000s of calls from my beautiful husband... and not once making Lee feel like he was a bother. To this day I don’t know how she did it all.

And Dr King even taught my Lee at the age of 80  how to text. Not an easy task. Even though he was a Wharton graduate and CEO, he did not use technology. It was fun watching.

 

The most amazing part of his ongoing care was the way he was treated first as a person ..not a patient. Whenever  Dr. King saw Lee...she really looked at him. Most doctors walk in the room while reading a history that was given to someone else.

 

No question that Dr. King had already read the labs, x-rays, scans etc but she asked how he was doing. How was he really doing and she  really wanted to know. Amazing how well she knew her patient.

And she listened!

We had two criteria that gave us his condition. If he was not eating and not watching TV...he was in critical condition. I remember once when he was obstructed...had an NG tube, NPO for nine days...he was a sick cookie and they were talking about emergency surgery. That surgery, in my opinion, would have killed him...since he was not healing from a surgical wound.

 

And miraculously the obstruction opened up.

I forced some old fashioned prune juice  down a disconnected NG tube. Of course this was without doctors orders. Within minutes...he was hungry and was eating roast beef sandwiches and the TV was on quite loud.

Family medicine was delighted, we celebrated. The surgeon may have been cheated out of a procedure but it was a happy day and Lee was up and ready to go home

 

 

During these 13 years we saw a lot of specialists.  When making a list there were 2 dozen including:

 

Family medicine, Oncology Surgeon, Oncologist,  General surgeon, Orthopedic oncology, Pulmonologist, Cardiologist, Chemo-therapist, Radiologists, Proton Beam, GU, GI surgeon, Renal specialist, Plastic surgeon, Inhalation therapist, Hypobaric Chamber, Wound care and Wound vac, Physical therapy, Psychiatrist, Sleep apnea, Inhalation therapy, Oxygen therapy, Infusion platelets and more.

 

Like an orchestra leader  Dr. King  was personally in touch with and in tune with each of them! 

 

There was one time  I felt no one was  seeing my LEE ROME,  they were seeing a sick old man.

I scanned a couple of photos onto my  iPad. They were from our honeymoon.. 50 years ago. I shared the pictures with anyone who came in to the hospital room... doctors nurses, cleaning personnel, food service and visitors. 

The response:

"Oh Mr. Rome, you were a hunk, look how handsome.

There was an immediate, amazing and positive change in his condition.  

 

This is one of the most important things I can leave you with.

Look at the patient before the illness.

Encourage family photos when they were vibrant, well and happy.

 

That is what you do under DR. JOYCE KING.

You look at the entire person not just the sick part.

For that I will always be grateful!

 

Thank you Dr. Joyce King and all the lucky physicians

who have the privilege of emulating this kind of care!

 

Congratulations to Dr. Jordon Gottchalk, recipient of the

Lee Rome Award.

and to the

Family Medicine Residency Class of 2018

 

Margaret Rome

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Margaret Goss
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Simply beautiful - and a great testatment to never giving up! Many people would have heard that diagnosis and done just that.

Jun 02, 2018 10:47 AM #32
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What a lovely post, Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland .  I wish I'd thought of this while my husband was ill.  I was able to care for him at home so he wasn't in the hospital more than a few days at a time.  I will certainly keep this advice in mind to share with anyone I know going through the challenges of end of life treatment.  Thank you. Thank you. Thank you!!!

Jun 02, 2018 11:57 AM #33
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I still remember the kindness and support of my main cancer doctor. When I told him that my doctor in Oklahoma City gave me a 55% chance of survival he told me that they didn't work that way. It is either 100% or 0% and let;s ficus on 100% becasue that is the direction we are heading for.

Jun 02, 2018 12:18 PM #34
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Carol Williams You, too, were fortunate to be able to care for your husband at home. Hope we can all share a bit of this advice. Always a pleasure to see you and how much you do for all of us on AR

Jun 02, 2018 12:29 PM #35
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Joe Pryor Focus on the 100%! What a great doctor you had. Wishing you much continued good health!

Jun 02, 2018 12:58 PM #36
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Margaret, this is sad and so beautiful at the same time.  I remember learning of Lee's passing. It seems like it was just a month or so ago.  Your love story lives on.  This is a lovely tribute and expression of gratitude for the loving, kind and gentle care Lee received. 

Jun 02, 2018 02:43 PM #37
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Poignant post, Margaret! You know, as former nurses, we love finding that 'perfect' doctor who is not only incredibly good at what he/she does but, had a heart...a hefty does of compassion and actually LISTENS. That is just SO rare and I am thankful that Lee found just that in Dr. King. 

I love that you are keeping his memory alive with the award as well - this is just another reason to adore you, Margaret. Your heart is bigger than you are!

Jun 02, 2018 03:09 PM #38
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Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
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Dear Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland 

Happy 50th Anniversary. Margaret, I mean that sincerely. As a widow, it always made me sad when people I knew and loved forgot our wedding anniversary after his death. After all, like you, I am the better half and survivor. Yet the part of society where I came from, didn't see it that way. Nonetheless, I continue to celebrate alone every June 26. Within the next few weeks, I will celebrate my 47th anniversary of which I only had the privilege of sharing a small fraction, 16 years. For any woman from my generation or yours who stayed in a marriage for as long as you did, is truly an honorable woman, and Lee must have been an extraordinary man.  

Because my husband was also in the Medical field, Paramedic, for a Volunteer Rescue Squad in the community in which we lived, I wish I could have done more for the community. If I had thought of what you did, it would have been in honor of Raeann Fuller, Nurse, who I credit sustained life for him for an additional 3 months. Nothing else compares to time. A nurse who is dedicated to patient care is an angel on earth. I will be eternally grateful. 

For you and Lee to have received the gift of life, which resulted in 13 additional years together, thanks to Dr. King's "dedication, brilliance, caring, kindness and treatment," was truly something above and beyond. I can understand how important "The Lee Rome Memorial Award," is to you. Lee would approve. The presentation "to the resident who exemplifies humanism in Medicine," is a beautiful way to give back to the "Medstar Franklin Square Family Medicine." Dr. King is proof positive, that with dedication and a servant heart, all best things are possible. She truly is a star!

Congratulations to Dr. Jordon Gottchalk, recipient of the Lee Rome Award and to the Family Medicine graduating class of 2018. 

Margaret, as a former nurse, active Real Estate Broker, Radio Talk Show host, and leader on ActiveRain, I would like to say thank you for your compassionate heart. Over the years, you have reached out to me and many others here on ActiveRain. Reaching out to give from your heart is a precious gift, an expression of deepest humanity and kindness. Not only are you nurturing, you're authentic - an honorable woman. It is because of people like you, that I remain an avid reader and follower to you and others here on ActiveRain. 

Patricia

 

Jun 03, 2018 04:46 AM #39
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Touched beyond words Patricia Feager  I thank you for sharing your story  and for your beautiful words. Love how you still celebrate the important date. 

Jun 03, 2018 08:12 AM #40
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Margaret you guys are what makes humanity proud!!! True givers in every sense of the word. God Bless.  I feel honored to have met you couple of times in my life!!!

Jun 03, 2018 09:34 AM #41
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You shared your life with Lee. You supported him, with the help of others, for much longer than expected. Now, you continue to provide support through The Lee Rome Memorial Award. What a wonderful legacy, Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland !

Jun 03, 2018 03:03 PM #42
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John Juarez I am honored to have Lee remembered through this reward.

Jun 03, 2018 03:44 PM #43
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Debra Leisek
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You were Lee's warrior. You gave him all your love and strength and hid your tears while smiling to his face. The love you showed him is extraordinary. Caretakers have a very hard job and it is something you will never forget and can always be proud of yourself. No regrets... you gave him the amazing gift of your very being.  I think you deserve the award

Jun 05, 2018 12:47 AM #44
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This post is about when two extremely wonderful women met.

Dr. King, was most unusual, in that she was interested in more than a patient, but cared about a person.

Margaret Rome, Baltimore Maryland showed extreme care for the man of her life and saw to it that he got the best care that extended his life.

Thanks Margaret for honoring those who stand out in the medical world.

Thanks for sharing your journey and inspiring us.

Jun 05, 2018 05:30 AM #45
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What a beautiful tribute to your husband - as well as to some special doctors. Thanks for sharing.

Jun 05, 2018 11:15 AM #47
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Marte Cliff Always good to see you and appreciate your comment. 

Jun 05, 2018 11:47 AM #48
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Happy 50th Wedding Anniversary!
What a beautiful brave journey you shared with us on Lee's heath challenges. Sharing your honeymoon photos was brilliant. We live in a culture/country where age is not revered. This is such a pity. Seniors are amazing untapped resources. This award of Humanism in Medicine brings it to the forefront. Hugs, Margie


Jun 07, 2018 12:59 PM #49
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Hi Margie, So good to hear from you. I just left you a message.

Jun 07, 2018 04:48 PM #50
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What a wonderful tribute to a rare doctor.  Sometimes in life we cross paths with amazing human beings.  It's wonderful to celebrate that.  Happy Anniversary.  Going to read your other post now.  Hugs girl!

Jun 09, 2018 02:55 PM #51
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Jan Green So good to see you. When we do meet these amazing human beings, stop, recognize and celebrate them.

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