What is the hardest event you ever had to face?

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We often look at some events as being difficult. Clearly Real Estate can bring out difficult situations and a good Realtor tries to come up with some solution to mitigate the difficulties. So with that said what is the most difficult or most challenging event you had to face? The answers will be varied...

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Some people had to face a death in their family such as brothers, sisters or parents, not an easy situation to deal with and come to terms with. Everyone deals with these events differently. Some get angry, others get depressed. There is no right or wrong answer.

I have dealt with my parents' and Diane's parents' passing, none were easy. I dealt with it my own way and very privately. Only a few people were even aware. I have dealt with many difficult sales transactions, but I always looked for the bright side and how to come up with a solution. Clearly there are times where there are no "magic bullets to solve the problem" then it becomes strictly how you handle the situation and that will determine if your frame of mind will be content, depressed or just plain happy.

Lately there were some very public deaths and clearly not my style of publishing it, but that is the life of being a Celebrity. It is different, than when an average person's family member passes. Either way whether it plays out in the  public or private venue, the real issue  is that it is a difficult situation to deal with and publicly makes it even harder for the ones who are left behind.

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As far as I am concerned it does not matter if you are a liberal or a conservative politically, what really matters is how you deal with the situation.

I have seen people get angry, others  became very sad, in my opinion the real issue is how you look at things! That in turn will make the difference whether it will be easier or harder to handle the tragedy.

Tonight I ran into a tread that has been passed around... I guess all day, Charles Krautheimer had written about the fact that his life will shortly come to an end due to health issues.I was so sad to hear this, but when I read his letter I was amazed and inspired. Instead of me summarizing it let me cut and paste an excerpt here and you tell me what your thoughts are...

I leave this life with no regrets. It was a wonderful life – full and complete with the great loves and great endeavors that make it worth living. I am sad to leave, but I leave with the knowledge that I lived the life that I intended.

How awesome is that, to be grateful and have a positive outlook to a difficult situation......can you do that? Think about it....

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Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
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Endre, one of the many reasons why I honor you and look forward to what you have to say and what you feel. You, too, are an inspiration...and nonjudgemental, which is hard to find in humans--especially lately! 

 

Jun 09, 2018 11:24 AM #21
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Firing someone injures me more than the one getting fired. Next in line is correcting someone. All other events run smooth

Jun 09, 2018 11:34 AM #22
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Endre love your post!  Charles Krautheimer is one of the most inspiring people I've ever known. A true scholar and gentleman ++. His final words to the public were amazing, a true gift to us all.

Jun 09, 2018 11:39 AM #23
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Hi there Endre Barath, Jr. You hit the topic well with this one. So sad with the news of of two celebrity suicides of late. Can't imagine the sense of loneliness, isolation, and just plain dispair to prompt such acts. However, your choice to honor the man who rejoices about a life well-lived is the place to dwell.  Live life well, with pure intent, and in the moment - it's the best way to joy. 

Jun 09, 2018 12:08 PM #24
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Hi Endre: Very interesting what "Intention" means--think about it for a minute...If I  intend  to do something, I do it---You can not do something without intent--unless you are at the effect of everything going on around you. If you have no ability to accept what is going on around you, including your own death, then you will be pulled thought the death process without going willingly...(I suspect that is where suicide comes in to some degree--a horrifying way to go in my opinion) If you choose the process and therefore the result, then I guess you could say you are going to die willingly---it is your will to die and therefore an intentional death. So I think Charles Krauthammer, living with intention, will have the peace and joy of dying with it as well....RIP Dear Charles!! Beautiful post Endre!

Jun 09, 2018 12:09 PM #25
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Endre,

No regrets for either one of us.   In all our studies, we learned that like a checkbook you balance your account monthly or as often as you need to.  That way, there is nothing to clean up or deal with from the past.  A 

Jun 09, 2018 12:57 PM #26
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Hi Endre,
I can't even tell you what the most difficult thing I've faced in life is.  I can name a number of tragic life-changing events that led me where I am...  where I believe I am supposed to be.  All these events offer lessons that help us cope with what's ahead... at least if we allow it to be so.  That's my philosophy and I'm sticking with it.  

Thanks for the post.  It's very thought provoking.

Jun 09, 2018 01:05 PM #27
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Endre, I absolutely love that quote by Charles Krauthammer. It's exactly what I wish for my own life, to leave it without regret and knowing that I lived the life I intended. My deepest heartbreak was also the most difficult event I have had to experience so far, the sudden loss of my sweet four-legged little girl 3 1/2 years ago. I've lost other four-legged family members, but the others had full lives (even living up to 6 years past the life expectancy) and she did not, so that's a big reason that her loss affects me so much more than the others. -L

Jun 09, 2018 01:05 PM #28
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My husband hit terrible financial disaster due to a business failure. An accounts payable refused to pay a very large account and that alone sent all into a turmoil. They were a huge company and said they would drag it out in court for years and would put him under. This was a family business that was forced out of business. It was personally devastating to be a part of but we survived, lived lean and came back strong. Our children were taught to work hard, do without. Today they are all hard working successful adults that save and are in very little debt. They appreciate what they have and don't take it for granted.

Jun 09, 2018 02:12 PM #29
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Endre I have dealt with several difficult moments in my life, both personal ones and business.  But I can't imagine the emotions the Charles  is going through.  If I ever do I hope I can handle it with the same class and attitude as he.

Jun 09, 2018 03:18 PM #30
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The hardest event I ever had in my life was losing my father while I was at sea halfway around the world. What made it worse was when the message came in they couldn't tell me who in my family had died because we were in the middle of a typhoon and had lost communications. So for the next 24 hours I was burdened with the thought of who I had lost Endre.

Jun 09, 2018 09:41 PM #31
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I also read Charles Krautheimer's letter and agree with your take on it (of course), Endre. His determination to return to medical school after his accident (which was, by-the-way, a very similar one to Ray's), was just the beginning of his incredible journey. What a legacy his is leaving.

As for personal events - I have to say deaths of family & friends, as well as fur baby family members, are the toughest for me. I know and understand that they are in a better place but, gosh, it's so darned hard to let go of their portion of your heart. 

Jun 09, 2018 11:13 PM #32
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When I have dealt with tragedies in the past, I typically just soldier through, doing whatever I have to do to take care of the practical side of things. I hide my feelings, pushing them away when they start to pop up. And then, some time later, usually many months, I find myself face to face with my grief and sadness, and I accept it, let myself feel the pain, and then let it go. 

We all face these moments differently.

And I might add, when you ask this question, I do not think of anything work related. Those things don't even compare to real difficulties and challenges.

 

Jun 10, 2018 09:59 AM #33
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In my 58 years on the planet, I've gone through (still am) many, many difficult situations. I can't say for sure which one is the most debilitating or hardest to overcome. So far, I'm at 100% in overcoming most all of these hardships.

Jun 11, 2018 05:48 PM #35
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I have lived long enough to know that bad days, moments and events will occur.

Too many people have an impulsive response to a tough situation and end their lives.

The Golden Gate Bridge is a magnet for people who take their lives.

Records have been kept of those who jumped from the bridge. Over 1300 deaths. But the fascinating statistic is the the vast majority jumped from the East side which was jumping back towards the city.

People who go through struggles need time, because time is what allows a person to see that there will be another day.

Jun 12, 2018 06:49 AM #36
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As I get older I find that having a positive attitude helps so much..easier not to sweat the small stuff...with age comes wisdom, right!  Death sounds scary but I hope I face it with dignity and a real appreciation for the life that was given to me...overall no regrets!

Jun 12, 2018 08:23 PM #37
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The tragic death of my sister and brother-in-law made me realize the importance of being in the here and now and enjoying life. At the same time I also realized I have lived a great life and I appreciate every day I have.

Jun 13, 2018 08:43 PM #38
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Thank you for sharing this. Of course my thoughts immediately returned to my brother who just passed in April, way too early at 60.  I think of him often and wish he could have written that same phrase. I don't think he lived his life as much as he could.  Since our Dad passed in'94, I've changed dramatically, realizing how short life is and that each moment is so precious.  Seeing those public celebrities gone too soon was yet another reminder.  Life is for the living and living is what we should be doing, with zest!  Great post as always Endre!

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I've had several events that were extremely hard to face; but I suspect the death of my mother ranks among the top.  My mother was my best friend, my confident, and an ever present source of strength.  She died in 1975 after a cancer diagnosis that she succumbed to in a mere 3 weeks.  She seemed very healthy, and then she was gone.

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