I recently asked the smart folks in Q/A to assess whether a certain bikini-clad, sloppily postured young lady's public Facebook profile photo would inspire them to refer her business.
Several opined that they didn't want to be judgmental.
Some scolded others for being judgmental.
I got news for youse . . .
WE ARE ALL JUDGING. Every minute of the day. We assess every situation.
That is INTELLIGENCE. It is how humans SURVIVE.
We've been taught not to be judgmental.
It is perceived by some as the action of a 'lower being'.
REALLY? So we're not allowed to feel our feelings?
Also . . . directions are relative.
When you love a song, admire cleverness, are moved by kindness . . . you are judging.
What's the effin' problem?
Just flip your script and find something cool or funny in that horror story. Swamp hair is gross, but fortunately, showers and conditioner exist. LOLLLLLL!
Then, let it GO.
Focusing on perceived advantages/disadvantages vis-a-vis other completely flawed human beings is probably the greatest source of self-abuse. Why would you do that to yourself?
And are we all meant to love everything and everyone, like little airy-fairy unicorns?
NO. We do not all vibe at the same rate, and maybe it's past life or maybe it's just an adverse chemical reaction, but absolute, unconditional love DOES NOT EXIST in physical form.
They say if you want unconditional love, get a dog. Geez! You haven't met my dog. She loves me long time--as long as I'm feeding, walking, bathing, worshipping and playing with her. Otherwise, she has little use for me.
(It's okay, she gives me joy even when she's an asshole.)
One last thing . . . if you're going to cut out passing judgment, start in the mirror. We don't see things as they are but as WE are.
If you could only see yourself the way I see you . . . boy, you'd be giggling right now.
I'd also probably be grabbing your butt.