Yes, But…..

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Kolsky Realty & Management 01311273

Yes, But…..

 

How many times have you heard “yes, but” followed by some lame excuse? Probably a lot as it is quite common for someone to say “yes, but” followed by some lame excuse. Here are a few examples: Were you late for work? Yes, but I had no idea there was going to be an accident.  Weren’t you supposed to get a raise? Yes, but my boss is a jerk and feels I need to show more effort. Were you going to fix that fence anytime soon? Yes, but I am going to get to it later. Are you in debt again? Yes, but it doesn’t seem like there’s anything I can do about it.



Over and over again you’ll hear folks use “yes, but” as an excuse to wiggle out taking responsibility for their circumstance. And those that use “yes, but” as an excuse only inhibit their success. You’ve probably heard this but it is worth repeating “making excuses accepts failure as the end result.”



The mere thought of even considering failure as the possible outcome can greatly diminish your drive “and” your chances for reaching success. You want the best results you have to eliminate failure as an option. To reach your desired objective you should put away making excuses ‘as well as’ forget about complaining. Keep in mind that your attitude can and should make all the difference in the world.



So how can you make “yes, but” work for you?:  Were you late for work? Yes, but I will make sure I plan better so even a bad accident won’t prevent me from being late in the future. Weren’t you supposed to get a raise? Yes, but I am hopeful all my good efforts will pay off real soon! Were you going to fix that fence anytime soon? Yes, but I’m am on it right now. Are you in debt again? Yes, but I made a plan to help prevent it from happening again.



The essence of making “yes, but” work for you is twofold. Whatever challenge you face make a commitment to yourself to not give up. Whatever challenge you face do not make an excuse after “yes, but.” Regardless of your position continue to push forward in a positive light “and” most importantly don’t forget that giving up all but guarantees failure.

 

The mind is very powerful and so are the words we say. Therefore, it is suggested to direct our mind and our thoughts to figure out the next step. Keep in mind that adversity, problems, challenges are a way of life and when you find yourself amidst a crisis a good “yes, but” response looks something like this, “Yes, I am working on it but I am going to find a way to get it done. Reassuring yourself you can do it directs your mind to go ahead and figure out a way to accomplish whatever the desired result.

 

 

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Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

There certainly seems to be a whole lot of "Yes, but" responses going on.  I like that you mention ways to plan to create a better way to success.

Jun 14, 2018 11:22 AM #1
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Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

You make so many good points;  I was taught early on not to use the word "but" in this situation but to use "however" to soften it somewhat. Still, I do believe we manifest the wrong message when choose not to accept responsibility and offer solutions and make excuses instead. 

Jun 14, 2018 02:18 PM #2
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Mike Frazier
Carousel Realty of Dyer County - Dyersburg, TN
Northwest Tennessee Realtor

Jon, I am not seeing the video you posted. Is my antivirus preventing me from seeing it or is activerain acting up? I tried to post a video on my last post and it showed up like yours so I just put a link to it in the text.

Jun 14, 2018 02:42 PM #3
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Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Myrl Jeffcoat ~ I've never been a fan of "yes, but", although, if you are going to use "yes, but", use it well

Jun 15, 2018 08:56 AM #4
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Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Susan Haughton ~ "however" is a great subsitute for "but." We just need to make sure an excuse doesn't follow

Jun 15, 2018 08:58 AM #5
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Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Mike Frazier ~ I was willing to give it another try (inserting a video.) I also noticed that it still isn't working "ALTHOUGH" I noticed that there was "now" 2 different options for inserting the video text... I'm going to try it the other way and see if that might work.... I'll let you know if I had any luck 

Jun 15, 2018 09:01 AM #6
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Jon Kolsky
Kolsky Realty & Management - Long Beach, CA
Licensed California Real Estate Broker

Mike Frazier ~ no luck, but I did notice another AR member successfully inserted a video...https://activerain.com/blogsview/5233243/soundtrack-of-a-lifetime---day-15

I hope he will let us know what we are doing wrong

Jun 15, 2018 09:09 AM #7
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