True story: my nephew at 39ish is looking for his ideal mate. Like a son to me! But he doesn't want to get married, has strong religious beliefs, loves the outdoors very much, doesn't want children, is an extreme vegetarian, doesn't believe in hospitals, etc.
Plus one or two quirks: he believes in a flat earth, the moon landing was staged, satellites do not exist, airplanes run on compressed air and a minimum of fuel, nuclear energy is a hoax. Actually, he's a very good kid, would do anything for you at a moment's notice, very kind, respectful, no drugs or alcohol, patient -- loves his family.
A tall order for a match huh?
So he gets on several of the dating sites and meets people who seem to share his STATED interests...
Well, you can see where this is going.
So before he can get to tell the gal that he believes in a flat earth, his first date this year actually FIRST mentioned it. Now he believes it but didn't before that. His father is a conspiracy theorist, so you get the picture. This digital date kept calling ex boyfriends and her husband and humiliated him. Awful.
The second gal during the spring seemed just great for one or two dates. Then he found out she had parental issues, was in a debilitating accident, was an alcoholic and loved music on all the time. She would get crazy on him, hysterical, and he had to end that. He tried to hang on but...
So gal number three comes along. A so-called perfect match. All three of these women met his mother and father in law. They were angelic. They loved the parents.
The third one also claimed she liked the outdoors but only went for a bike ride once. She was a writer, revealed very little about herself. He didn't even know her last name for two months! He saw her typically between 9 and 11:30 PM. She wasn't sure about religion but was too busy to study with him as she had other activities to do during the day. Like --obsess over a married professor who would read out of Harry Potter books to her every afternoon!
To be fair, my nephew didn't put all his cards on the table either. Apparently.
What the HEY is wrong here?? Don't these digital dating holes have hundreds of qualifiers in order to drill down to the 'perfect' match?? In practice, it doesn't work out very well this way. People are writing what they want others to THINK of them or are writing things in desperation to attract any warm body, but not revealing how they really are. hmmm.
The digital world is full of fakes and liars it turns out. People exaggerate greatly and don't reveal relevant information. Some people claim expertise in niches but can't do basic things that they advertise they can do. Folks, you can fake a written resume too and get into deep trouble soon enough.
People promise things that are not possible or true. They leave out key facts. They sin by omission. This proliferation of prevarication is creating huge problems socially and politically even.
MORAL OF THE STORY: We need to make sure what we are promising can be delivered and that we can do a better than the 'industry standard' job of it!
There can be a lot of pain, monetary loss, time wasted, license loss, etc. if we don't get our message straight. We need to let people know what we are REALLY able to accomplish.
On the flip side: we desperately wish our clients can level with us at the beginning so that we can best serve them! Tell us exactly how much time you have, your budget, any quirks, any contingencies, and what you are truly looking for.
And now, for the cute animal picture of the day -- our Peekapoo: Bentley, a throwaway puppy that was found in the woods and adopted readily!