Serving up anger like a favorite dish.

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Real Estate Agent with Prado Real Estate South UT DRE# 6541633-SA00
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Serving up anger like a favorite dish.

 

Gone are the days of using restraint when expressing dislike, distaste or a difference of opinion. The lesson of "If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all." should still stand.

 

On social media platforms, people openly and hostilely verbally purge online despite the Who, What, Where, When or Why of a situation. They wish to be heard at any cost, foregoing any form of civility!

 

You’d think these people would honor their parents and remember the childhood lessons and manners enforced diligently by respected adults.

 

Of course, those who dish it out daily are often unable to take the expected backlash, hiding behind the Internet and their keyboards. They often cry foul and play the victim when it suits.

 

My grandfather always said that there is one thing to be enjoyed in life and that is eating good food. He is so right about that but I want nothing to do with what these people are dishing out.

 

Besides, all that name calling, virtual hair pulling, scratching and punching can make a person lose their appetite. Ucky kuck!

 

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Thank you Aida Pinto, glad you enjoyed this post! I just followed you and hope to see more of you in the Rain.

Aug 09, 2018 07:07 PM #38
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Marte Cliff
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My son shared something on Facebook the other day that was along the lines of "We shouldn't avoid discussing politics and religion. We should instead learn to have civilized discussions about all subjects."

We're not seeing a whole lot of civility in those discussions today - mostly anger and hate. What a waste of time and energy - and life!

Aug 09, 2018 08:10 PM #39
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James (Jim) Lawson, DBA
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Some of these anger moments can be hard to understand.  Had a seller last year who initially directed a lot of anger toward me. Turned out he was venting his anger toward me because his previous agent failed to attract a buyer in nearly a year so he "hated agents," his words. Once I got the listing contract and a purchase contract within three days his attitude and words began to change. At closing not only did I get an apology but a testimonial too. So you may never know why you are getting unearned flak. You definitely need a thick skin to survive in this business as many of us know. Great topic to bring up Wanda.    

Aug 09, 2018 08:12 PM #40
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James Dray
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Morning Wanda.

We see it on a daily basis, exactly why I usually do not comment on any social media.

Aug 10, 2018 12:50 AM #41
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Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

The anger and quickness to anger are unbelievable. It sickens and saddens me to see so much of it.

Aug 10, 2018 03:29 AM #42
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Sham Reddy
H E R Realty, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
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That still is the golden rule!!!

The lesson of "If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all." should still stand.

Aug 10, 2018 05:01 AM #43
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Ron Aguilar
Continental Mortgage - Saint George, UT
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Wanda, thanks for your post. This is a very troubling trend. I remember many years ago when people could talk about their differences and it would not show up on television. Technology has been a huge element to this, but we can only blame Humans...

Aug 10, 2018 06:43 AM #44
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Richie Alan Naggar
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Before all these tech inventions (1940's-50's) people talked with each other, sat on front porches and held jobs for decades. Sir & mam dominated. Today, going rogue, rebelling and experimenting with anything goes is the norm. Not for me!

Aug 10, 2018 06:45 AM #45
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Kevin Mackessy
Blue Olive Properties, LLC - Highlands Ranch, CO
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This is one of the great hallmarks of this site, civility and a lack of the hostility you find in many comment sections around the Internet.  

Aug 10, 2018 10:03 AM #46
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Marte Cliff, When people are able to hide themselves through online anonymity, a conversation can hit a brick wall going 120 miles per hour in reverse. Conversing in person is best, in my opinion!

Aug 10, 2018 06:07 PM #47
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Been there, done that James (Jim) Lawson, DBA and now have received 5 referrals from him and his wife. They became raving fans and I am so blessed to have earned their trust!

Aug 10, 2018 06:09 PM #48
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James Dray, Some people are just waiting to pounce...and they do! Another reason to avoid the traps set by those who just love to incite hate.

Aug 10, 2018 06:12 PM #49
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Hopefully, that will die down and we can get back to respectful conversations Sharon Tara. You'll find me in good company amongst people who give and receive respect in person and online. It might get spicey now and then but that is to be expected!

Aug 10, 2018 06:15 PM #50
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Yes, Sham Reddy, The lesson of treating people right was one of the most important leasons that was taught. It has served me well!

Aug 10, 2018 06:17 PM #51
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A zero tolerance for that behavior should be practiced Ron Aguilar and when people no longer have an audience, they tend to quiet down. Thar reminds me of when my grandfather would say, "Ignore a barking dog and it will go away." Make sense to me!

Aug 10, 2018 06:21 PM #52
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The art of verbal communication and the written word back then was necessary to get information from one person to another. Now, it is instantly online, in your face and harder to ignore Richie Alan Naggar. It can be done though! 

Aug 10, 2018 06:25 PM #53
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This platform, thankfully,  refuses to condone that type of behavior and has kept me and others here for quite some years Kevin Mackessy

Aug 10, 2018 06:26 PM #54
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Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com - Monroe, NY
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Oh I remember well, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." I still abide by that rule.

Aug 11, 2018 03:53 AM #55
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That is still the best approach in all things Kat Palmiotti!

Aug 11, 2018 07:28 AM #56
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Jan Green
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Congrats on the feature!  I so agree.  There are too many people hiding behind social media curtains slinging too much hash!

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