Realtor Safety | It’s Not Just a Concern When Going to Meet Prospective Clients

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Realtor Safety | It’s Not Just a Concern When Going to Meet Prospective Clients

I’ve been thinking about writing this post for months but, for some time just couldn’t bring myself to relive something that happened to me last November. Realtor safety discussions often revolve around the risks involved when we go to meet someone to show a house. I think that’s the most common risk and likely the biggest one we face but, last year I experienced a different kind of safety concern. I wasn’t prepared when another agent’s client showed up at my office and proceeded to threaten me.

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It started off like many mornings do, just me and my assistant at the office. I was in the back in my office and heard the door chime, she works at the front and greets everyone that visits our office. I heard a disgruntled male voice and walked up to see who was there. I was greeted with you real estate agents are crooks and you will change the language in the lease now. I knew immediately who he was, his agent had told me she was having trouble with him wanting to change the language of the lease to accommodate him if he wanted to break it early. I introduced myself and explained that I wasn’t able to talk with him because he is represented by another agent and I don’t believe in violating the Code Of Ethics. That only fueled his anger so I offered to call his agent and put her on speaker so that she could be a part of the conversation. The situation was growing increasingly volatile with him pacing, refusing to sit down, getting in my face and tossing insults left and right.

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He was former military and used to leases that allowed him to move at any time due to his military orders. Due to no longer being active duty that wasn’t an option anymore. I was ultimately able to think of a way to add wording to protect my client in the event he wanted to break the lease while still giving him the option to end the 1-year term early. Not before he threatened me and tried to force me to make changes without my client’s approval. The line that really sticks with me was – my parents must be proud I steal money from people for a living, he was about 2 inches away from my face when he said it. He was out of line in every way but, I knew with his anger spewing I couldn’t go the confrontational route. I was genuinely scared for my safety which is a very rare occurrence for me. I am a very observant person and carry a gun when I feel circumstances are unknown. I don’t take chances in anyway when it comes to my safety but, I was not prepared for this situation at all. No gun, no pepper spray, nothing. The only thing I could do was try to diffuse the situation.

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I didn’t realize it at the time but, my assistant had slipped into a spare office and grabbed something I could use to defend myself if needed. She was poised by the phone to call the police. As it was happening I knew it was dangerous but, it wasn’t until it was over and he left that I started shaking and crying realizing how badly it could have ended. She was completely shaken too, it was hard to even process what had happened. It was also a huge wakeup call that we’re vulnerable even if we’re just in our office.


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I am completely fine and only wanted to share my experience to raise awareness that as Realtors we aren’t just at risk when we go show homes. Taking the time to think about our daily routines and identifying times and places we could be at risk is important. I hope that everyone will take the time to do that, we all have different routines but, each one of them carries risk. We owe it to ourselves to do everything we can to minimize those risks.





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Debbie Gunnip
Davis R. Chant Realtors - Hawley, PA
Second home market

I also have my carry permit, not because just because of customers/clients, but situations we may not expect or be prepared for. I try to be sure I am aware of my surroundings, but, we can become complacent. Sometimes I find that I am not always prepared for situations that could end differently. Also, I have picked up pepper spray to keep in my truck but this is a good reason to pick up more for the office. I think it is important for everyone to learn self defense and how to deal with certain situations. Thank you for sharing your story.

Aug 17, 2018 05:11 AM #49
Pete Baranowsky Jr
The Castle Team at Maximum One Realty Greater Atlanata - Dallas, GA
Selling Good Homes, Priced Right, Quickly

Amanda S. Davidson Thank you Amanda. You would think that your own office is not the place to be worried about safety.  I practise in Georgia and if you have a permit, you can carry your gun anywhere except a few places that are off limits by laws.  But then, the bad guys don't pay attention to the laws so we need to pay attention to our surroundings.  Thank you again

Aug 17, 2018 05:19 AM #51
Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

I was getting stressed just reading your overview of this event. You're right - we have to ALWAYS be watchful even if we are in our office or home. I know people who are volatile like that, and it can definitely be scary. I'm glad you were able to diffuse the situation.

Thanks for sharing.

Aug 17, 2018 07:56 AM #52
M.C. Dwyer
Century 21 Showcase REALTORs - Felton, CA
Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

Thank you for sharing your very difficult story. We are at risk of running into an unstable person at any time and place in our lives; always have been. It’s difficult to always be prepared for the worst. The ability to diffuse another person’s volatility is a valuable tool.

Aug 17, 2018 08:28 AM #53
Lottie Kendall
Compass - San Francisco, CA
Helping make your real estate dreams a reality

Very frightening, Amanda. Reading the comments make me realize your's was not an isolated event. You did a marvelous job of not allowing the situation to escalate. 

Aug 17, 2018 08:54 AM #54
Diana Dahlberg
1 Month Realty - Pleasant Prairie, WI
Real Estate in Kenosha, WI since 1994 262-308-3563

Amanda S. Davidson Thank you for sharing this very scary ordeal.  I am so glad you are okay and are now able to share it ... we cannot be too careful -- no matter what profession we have -- there are many tensions in our world today and it can be the smallest spark that causes the emotions to go off kilter.

Aug 17, 2018 09:33 AM #55
Kevin Mackessy
Blue Olive Properties, LLC - Highlands Ranch, CO
Dedicated. Qualified. Local.

We haven't had anyone come to the office for a shouting match yet, but if they do we are in good company here and able to stand up to bullies like that.  Sorry you had to experience that.  

Aug 17, 2018 02:16 PM #56
Anne Corbin
Long and Foster - Lake Anna - Spotsylvania, VA
Serving Lake Anna & Central Virginia

When I worked in HR, we were told to always be able to get to our office door to run if we were threatened. Never put your desk in a place that puts you on the wrong side of the threat. You should be able to make a quick exit if you are feeling threatened. That will be something to think about in our real estate offices as well.

Aug 17, 2018 02:16 PM #57
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
New Hampshire Home Stager

What a horrifying nightmare! We never know when we will find ourselves in a dangerous situation. Sharing your story will give others something to think about, allowing them to plan ahead for a similar confrontation.

Aug 17, 2018 04:04 PM #58
Pam Jank
Coldwell Banker Schneidmiller Realty - Coeur d'Alene, ID
Your Coeur d'Alene & North Idaho Real Estate Pro

Wow! I am so sorry that happened to you.   It's crazy the lengths an "Entitled" person will go in order to intimidate someone into doing what they want.

Aug 17, 2018 04:11 PM #59
Mary Jo Quay
Remax Results - Edina, MN
I Move You Home

An imposing angry man is intimidating. He obviously grew up very poor to accuse you of stealing people's money, and the fear of him losing money pushed him to the edge. You did well handling him, and even though you shouldn't have to, it can happen to anyone. You might want to consider taking a self defense class with the hope that you'll never need to use it. 

Aug 17, 2018 07:14 PM #60
Marney Kirk
Cummings & Co. Realtors - Towson, MD
Towson, Maryland Real Estate

How scary, Amanda! I am glad you are OK. It is truly frightening to realize that some would wish us harm for something we really don't have control over - and even if we did - that they would wish or threaten harm!

Aug 18, 2018 01:39 PM #62
Robert Vegas Bob Swetz
Realty ONE Group - Las Vegas, NV
Las Vegas Henderson Homes for Sale

Hello Amanda, great post congrats on the GOLD STAR and several female agents have been raped over the years in Las Vegas.

I am so glad you are OK and it's always best for some ladies & men to have another agent with them for these types of situations. That Glock looks like one of my pistols and I have many handguns, a CCW to carry concealed. I very rarely carry especially living in California with all their strict handgun laws. But Las Vegas and parts of Alaska are very dangerous and a good reason to carry ;o)

Vegas Bob doesn't mess around playing games with these types of people. If they threaten my life and or my families lives at home or out and about and I will plug them if need be.

Aug 19, 2018 05:33 PM #63
Rebecca Gaujot, Realtor®
Vision Quest Realty - Lewisburg, WV
Lewisburg WV, the go to agent for all real estate

Amanda, I posted this on our MLS Facebook page....everyone needs to read this.


Aug 19, 2018 07:35 PM #64
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Realty Center - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

It reallyl is a scary world out there, and we need to be vigilant!

Aug 20, 2018 06:59 AM #65
Rae Dolan
Buying Katy / Rae Dolan - Katy, TX
Real estate agent serving the Katy area

That is crazy. I think I would have had someone call the police while I talked with him nodding and saying whatever to keep him calm until they got there. Glad your assistant thought to grab a form of protection!

Aug 21, 2018 04:39 AM #66
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Wow Amanda - I would have been scared, too!  Not only was he in the wrong place at the wrong time, he was spewing at the wrong person.  He needs anger management!  So glad that you're safe and thing didn't end differently!

Aug 22, 2018 06:36 PM #67
Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

I am so very sorry that you faced such an intimidating and scary situation, Amanda S. Davidson ... but also very happy to hear that you are okay ... and that your assistant was at the ready if anything happened.  I think she would have been justified to call the police in this event ... and perhaps should have.

This incident makes me happy that I have made the decision to keep our office's front door locked.  We have few walk-ins, mostly appointments ... but it's been known to happen with unexpected visits from clients too.  My wife had been pushing me to take this action for a long time.  I gave in about 6 months ago ... for my sake and my staffs.  Maybe it's something you should consider moving forward?  Something to think about anyway ...

Stay safe, please ....


Aug 31, 2018 09:19 AM #68
Mike Kelly,CRS,CIPS
The MJKelly Team - Santa Rosa, CA
"One of Sonoma County's Natural Resources"

I have a friend who manages 500 rental units. He gets the occasional dispute regarding security deposits, condition of property, etc. He does get tenants who storm about and yell at him. It's part of the process sometimes. Negotiations come in all forms. If he'd branished a gun or made it known he was carrying then I'd escalate it to a police call. 

Sep 12, 2018 05:16 PM #69
Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor®
Carmel by the Sea, CA
Rothwell Realty Inc. CA#01968433 Carmel-by-the-Sea

I am a great believer in (a) walking out of an office if I feel threatened (happened to me once) and then (be) calling the police (which I should have done then but didn't). At no time should we put up with that type of beheavior.

Sep 13, 2018 10:16 PM #70
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