If you believe in yourself, people around you will believe in you too

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Cornerstone Business Group Inc 0225086119

If you believe in yourself, people around you will believe in you too. There is nothing magical about becoming a confident assured person. The real magic happens when you can be that the confident assured person without being obnoxious at the same time. I'm partly kidding there, but there is an element of truth there.

I had a young tradesman in my office recently who wants to work with me. He is very confident and very self-assured. He also has an inflated sense of self-worth. While we talked, I reviewed his price list of what various projects would cost if he was charging me, and I laughed. His numbers were insane for my area. He assured me, that he is so good, that he would be able to demand those numbers. I wasn't buying it. 

Last week, he went to test for his Master electrician's license. He failed. Ouch, but that's what happens when you are over-confident and over-self-assured. It comes back to bite you. My hope is that his story doesn't end here. I hope that he takes this simple lesson to heart. 

You can believe in yourself. You can be confident in your skill level, and that's perfectly OK. One of the quirky things about my personality is that I don't need a great deal of attention or adulation from outside of myself. My confidence is solely within, but anyone around me will tell you  I'm a very confident person. Another thing they will tell you is that I never talk about my skill-level unless I'm asked a question. I'd rather demonstrate than bloviate.

When I go into a completely new life experience without the benefit of knowing what is about to happen, it's uncomfortable. It's a little unnerving, but in order to grow and expand my life experience, I have to have that uncomfortable period where I'm learning the ropes. Once I get past those initial uncomfortable periods, real learning can take place. With each new life lesson, I gain more experience. With enough experience, I should be getting better at whatever it is that I'm doing. At some point, I should be confident.

When you develop your skills in whatever industry you participate in, as you learn, be confident. Be open to learn, grow and improve, but don't feel awkward or uncomfortable in the knowledge that you are good at what you do. Your belief in yourself will inspire belief in you from the people you are in contact with. Nobody wants a wishy washy real estate agent. They also don't want one who promises the moon but doesn't deliver. I find that the moon promisers are often hiding a lack of confidence. Be confident, believe in yourself, provide exceptional service and be gracious with those who recognize your skill-set, and people will be drawn to you like a magnet.




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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


There is a big difference between self-confidence, and "inflated" self worth.  It comes across as "arrogant".  And the French refer to arrogance as the voice of ignorance...A

Feb 05, 2019 10:11 AM #1
Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good afternoon Mike - this is a very important distinction.  You need to believe in yourself becuase you know you have done all of your homework.

Feb 05, 2019 11:30 AM #2
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

There is tons of truth in those words, Mike.  People who exude confidence  coming from belief in themselves, project it outward and give others confidence to believe in them as well.

Feb 05, 2019 01:17 PM #3
Myrl Jeffcoat
GreatWest Realty - Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Real Estate Agent

CONGRATULATIONS Mike, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Feb 05, 2019 01:18 PM #4
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The right Charlotte REALTOR!

Oh, the pretentious 'blow-hards' as I call them, have so much to learn about life, Mike! Many that I see like that are older too - go figure - you'd think they'd have learned by now! LOL

LOVE your take, you'd rather demonstrate than bloviate!  Priceless!

Feb 09, 2019 04:50 PM #5
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Great post, I agree with Debe Maxwell, CRS about your take. Always better to let your knowledge shine than just talk about it.

Feb 10, 2019 06:32 AM #6
Shirley Coomer
Keller Williams Realty Sonoran Living - Phoenix, AZ
Realtor, Keller Williams Realty, Phoenix Az

When you know something you can demonstrate your knowledge without "telling" how much you know.  People like to see results, not just about your ability.

Feb 10, 2019 06:51 AM #7
Eva B. Liland Century 21 Doug Anderson
Century 21 Doug Anderson - Lancaster, CA
Glad to be of Service 661-714-1643

Sounds very familiar. No matter what, they can't admit that they are wrong or don't know it all.

Feb 10, 2019 06:55 AM #8
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

As they say, 'if you don't believe in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?'

Good quote: I don't need a great deal of attention or adulation from outside of myself

Feb 10, 2019 03:21 PM #9
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hi Mike - there's confidence and being self-assured and that combination is appreciated when obnoxiousness is not part of the mix. It's a balancing act where tipping in the wrong direction can prove quite costly in so many ways.

Feb 11, 2019 11:45 AM #11
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Real Estate Agents - Luxury - Divorce

Confidence is everything...except when it isn't genuine !

Feb 11, 2019 12:10 PM #12
M.C. Dwyer
Century 21 Showcase REALTORs - Felton, CA
MC Dwyer-Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

Ah, you've taught me a new word today Mike Cooper, GRI  "bloviate."    Thanks!

Feb 12, 2019 10:58 AM #13
John Wiley
Fort Myers, FL
Lee County, FL, ECO Broker, GRI, SRES,GREEN,PSA

Many don't believe in themselves because they compare to others.

When we prepare and operate within ourselves and our abilities we should project a belief in self that is meaningful to others.

Thanks for sharing a great illustration of someone who was making claims far above their level of competence.

Feb 12, 2019 12:03 PM #14
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Not sure if I loved your post more than the comments from the Choir here:)  so glad I found this post. Endre

Feb 12, 2019 10:57 PM #15
Realtyna Inc
Realtyna - Newark, DE
Realtyna- MLS RETS Integration software & services

Nice encouragement for us, here. Thanks, Mike!

Feb 13, 2019 07:56 AM #16
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

Amen and Amen. 

Feb 13, 2019 08:55 AM #17
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Which is why I named the course I teach, "Knowledge is EmPOWERing."  That power of knowledge bring confidence and THAT isn't easy to fake.  Your over confident electrician is a good example of faking it.   Great post!

Feb 16, 2019 05:19 PM #18
Brigita McKelvie, Associate Broker
Cindy Stys Equestrian and Country Properties, Ltd. - Lehigh Valley, PA
The Broker with horse sense and no horsing around

Hi, Mike!

You are so right.  Confidence will show through, therefore, no sense in bragging about how great you are.  As you said, if you have to brag about it, you are hiding your lack of confidence.  It's amazing what your body language says about you.


Mar 11, 2019 09:51 AM #19
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