We all started new, whether fresh out of womb or as members of this community.
When we were young we were taught the sticks and stones saying, but that saying is a total lie. Words do hurt. They can be quite discouraging.
If you've been in this community awhile you've probably run into the occasional jerky comment. It's a small percentage in the Rain (especially when compared to Facebook!), but it still happens.
Now for me there's a basic ground rule for how contrary I can be.
If a legitimate author has written a post that is clearly consumer facing and meant to bring them business, the option is pretty simple. Support or scroll on. (possible exception if unethical, illegal or spam).
Now if the author is writing to this community and not the public, then disagreements should be fair game, but still in a playing nice in the sandbox fashion. There are plenty of topics we can disagree on, pick your poison. Zillow, open houses, part time vs full time, whether an agent should have a college degree, etc.
There's plenty of room for debate isn't there?
But if someone is new to the community, they probably don't realize the ground rules most of us expect.
They may be the bull in the china shop because that's how they're used to operating elsewhere.
Or they may see one of us as the bull in their china shop. Their blogging skin is still pretty fragile and they're just getting started blogging, still finding their voice and one of us is kicking them in the virtual shins.
They may not even know they can delete that comment so they're "stuck" with it on that post they worked hard to create! (and if you don't know how to delete a comment, hover your mouse over the bottom right of any blog post comment and you'll see "Delete Report Comment" links appear. Click Delete and follow the bouncing ball.)
And going back to my early days, it meant alot when I got those first comments from those that were mega pointers (okay, back in the day the community didn't even have its first millionaire yet), the fact that those comments were supportive meant much to me. Now imagine if those early comments hadn't been supportive? I might have been gone a long, long time ago.
This community needs new members, so let's remember how we felt when we first got here.
Until next Tuesday, just Ask An Ambassador if you need help!
Bill of Liz and Bill aka BLiz