Need a Mind Cleanse? Focus of Positivity
By Gloria Schmitt
Today was a rough day; the kind of day where honestly nothing really seemed to go right. Instead of dwelling on the negative, I asked myself what activity can I do today that will help cleanse my mind, change my mindset and bring me back to my happy place. My initial answer, practice what I have always preached to my children. When things are tough or you are disheartened by someone or something, rid yourself of the negativity by merely writing down what’s bothering you, saying what you need to say, than throw away the note. The simple act of writing it down always made me feel better despite never really addressing the issue head on.
Today I chose to blog this evening not about negativity (what upset me) but rather the power of positivity and the easy things we can do to stay focused, optimistic, on our path to greatness hence our happy place.
I am blessed to work for a company that has taught me a lot about mindset. So my path back to positivity came from the brilliant and talented Dianna Kokoszka, CEO of Mega Achievement Productivity Systems (MAPS) Coaching, and two of my favorite BOLD laws, “focus on the plan, not the problem” and “what you focus on expands”.
Consequently, I promptly and purposefully went into action mode. Placing my focus on a success plan and determining what tasks I needed to accomplish to make tomorrow better than today. Once I started reflecting on the activities, all the negative thoughts disappeared from my mind. Devising a list of the immediate things that needed to be addressed followed by a personal and professional growth plan was therapeutic, calming and surprisingly invigorating.
So what did I actually do to bring myself into focus? Honestly, the entire concept (mind exercise) was quite easy yet ingenuous:
- I remembered to relish every experience (both good and bad) – it is through those bad experiences that we become smarter, stronger and grow. If it doesn’t hurt a little have you really grown?
- I took a moment to be grateful for those in my life that continually encourage me in both happy and difficult times, lend support when I need it most, consistently add value to my life, love me unconditionally and believe in my abilities. It is important to tell those in your life every day how they make life better purely by being present.
- Throughout the process, I reminded myself to celebrate every little win – we tend to overlook the small triumphs yet without small wins, we would never have the opportunity to celebrate our greatest accomplishments
- I embraced a valuable lesson I learned from Hal Elrod, the author of the Miracle Morning, and documented what I was grateful for, what personal and professional achievement made me proud and what feat I was committed to attaining today and tomorrow. I promise this one thing in itself will inspire you, empower you and set the tone for a positive mindset
- Pay it forward – it has been proven that random acts of kindness help us to build stronger bonds, affords both parties with a sense of belonging and lifts us emotionally, physically and spiritually
- I Stuck to my principles – your values define who you are as a human being and as a leader
- I chose to be ME. So always remember to be YOU. “The more you work at just being yourself, the more likely you’ll feel purposeful and significant in your life” (Wayne W. Dyer)
- Don’t be afraid to love yourself for who you are – We are after all continual works in progress destined for our own individual flawed perfection
- Always lead by example and BE the person other’s dream of becoming. “If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader” (John Quincy Adams).
- One final thought that seriously resonated with me from the very first time I read the book entitled The One Thing, “Don’t let small thinking cut you down to size. Think big, aim high, act bold. And see how big you can blow up your life” (Gary Keller).
What will it take to get you back to your happy place? Have you embraced the power of positivity? Even through adversity, it is my belief that life certainly gets better when you focus on the positive. Only we control our destiny and become the person we decide to be. Always take the high road, think and stay positive, be your happiness, live kind and embrace change. Change inevitably equates to growth.
I would like to thank my family, friends, and fellow colleagues at Keller Williams Realty, my Tri-Borough Partners family and my MAPS coach, Kelly Maniateas, for always bringing me back to my happy place just by reiterating that mindset is the key to my happiness.