I KNOW I SHOULD BUT I CAN'T CHANGE

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Change!  Why is it so darn hard?

Recently I blogged about fighting the complacency of "We have always done it that way"  in the face of disruptive change.  Why do we feel that change is so difficutl?  That is because we are in a comfort zone and we are comfortable with our current habits.  Oh, we know we should get around to changing but we will wait until tomorrow.  But by continuing to go with the flow we will decline.  Staying still is really going backwards.

Let’s face it … we live in a changing world. EVERYTHING changes and it’s time to acknowledge the cold, hard truth. That is, much as we’d like to, we cannot control everything that happens to us in life. We can, however, change the way we react to what happens.

One of the key reasons change might come hard has a lot to do with one of the tools your brain uses regularly. This tool helps you get through your days with the speed and accuracy you need without getting bogged down with minutia. 

This tool is called habit. Think about this for a minute. How many daily activities do you do without thinking about them? Let’s take your morning routine, for example. You probably awaken at the same time every workday, using the same alarm. You stumble through the same actions as showering, grooming, eating, and beginning to move through your day.

Repetition of habits does wonderful things like create memory. But, how does your body know a good habit from a bad habit? It really doesn’t. It’s sometimes much easier to turn on your internal auto-pilot and let it run wild and free while giving no thought at all to learning new things.

Too much of this automatic behavior allows your brain to work even harder to keep things in the order it wants so it can provide the structure it thinks you want. And, it’s that hard work that contributes to what you might say is a natural aversion to change.

You might be naturally averse to change but the flip side of a saying you’ve heard before is totally true: You CAN teach an old dog new tricks!

So, how do you learn new tricks? By being smart humans and using your brain’s natural tendencies to work FOR you, not AGAINST you. Identification of what you want to change is of key importance. What habits might you have that you’re struggling to hold onto when you should really be letting them go?

•          Once you begin to acknowledge a change needs to take place, you’re taking your brain out of it usual repetition-loving state.

•          First you can figure out what to do.

•          Then you give yourself permission to be vulnerable and start doing it.

•          Then you begin taking right action.

•          You will gain some momentum. As you continue you finally replace that old habit with a new and better one.

•          You will have relapses, but it is totally within your power to learn from them.

 

Change ManagementOnce you’ve begun to CARE about being uncomfortable and vulnerable and opening yourself up, then changes will occur. Outside your comfort zone is where the magic happens! Get out of your comfort zone!  For a similar post on our web site see STILL NOT READY TO CHANGE?

Are you ready to challenge the status quo?

Contact us for a free consultation to learn more

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Rainer
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Rose Mary Justice
Synergy Realty Pros - Dandridge, TN
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Changes happen often and we either change with the times or get left behind.

We can do all things with courage and drive.    OUR REASON WHY

Sep 25, 2018 08:21 AM #37
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Lisa - thanks, it is all about getting comfortable with becoming.

Rose Mary - yes, we can count on it.

Sep 25, 2018 09:32 AM #38
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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

COMFORT ZONE,  Funny Grant, I have seen 2 blogs on comfort zone today and I feel I keep trying to get out of my comfort zone by making more phone calls and getting better at doing videos,  It is working.

 

Sep 25, 2018 09:36 AM #39
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Will - that is a topic that has traction with so many.  We know we need to do it.

Sep 25, 2018 09:45 AM #40
Rainer
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Brian DeYoung
Howard Hanna Real Estate Services - Ithaca, NY
Brian DeYoung

love this quote, and topic

Sep 25, 2018 11:55 AM #41
Rainmaker
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M.C. Dwyer
Century 21 Showcase REALTORs - Felton, CA
Santa Cruz Mountains Property Specialist

Bookmarked to reflect on a great how-to manual for implementing change.    Thank you!

Since, "Staying still is really going backwards."

Sep 25, 2018 02:30 PM #42
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Bob Ratliff
Robert Ratliff Realty - San Antonio, TX
"Sold with Bob"

"Change", I'm the old model who procrastinates about getting out of my comfort zone.  My brain is constantly bogged down with minutia.....lol

Change is good, today I saw Will Smith jump from a helicopter tethered to a bungee cord, now that is going out of ones comfort zone. 

Our world is changing so must we change to keep up or be left behind.

Sep 26, 2018 03:16 AM #43
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Leslie Currle
Alcova Mortgage LLC - Luray, VA
With you, every step of the way

Great post!  I am a firm believer that change only happens when you set a course and step out of your comfort zone.

Sep 26, 2018 05:25 AM #44
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Brian - thank you.  I am glad that you like it.

M. C. - so glad that you got a take away.  Thanks for your comment.

Bob - well at least you don't have to do something that dramatic to get out of your comfort zone.

Leslie - I totally agree.  I a sure that you have experience with it.

Sep 26, 2018 06:39 AM #45
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Grant Schneider - Another excellent post and well deserved star.  I hate it when I miss posts like this. I can't always get to the rain everyday and I so enjoy reading your posts. Thank you so much for all you do. 

Sep 26, 2018 08:23 AM #46
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
Experienced Agent in Kansas City Metro area

Regarding technology change, it's a challenge b/c we have to take the time to learn it--and that can be frustrating.  

Sep 26, 2018 08:27 AM #47
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Sheri - thank you so much.  I am glad that you did see it.

Mary - there is a learning curve when we do lose productivity before we gain.

Sep 27, 2018 03:08 AM #48
Rainmaker
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

How well we know...habits are hard to break...and harder to form !

Sep 27, 2018 01:31 PM #49
Rainmaker
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John Henry
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

I really like the premise of this story.  We need to keep pushing our comfort zone and strive for newer and better in order to stay relevant and in the green.  Expanding your mind and horizon always a great idea.  

Recognizing habits that limit you and possibly hurt you are important to get.

So that we can overcome and improve.  Thanks for the motivating article.

Oct 01, 2018 08:35 AM #50
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Jim Garcia | Douglas County Real Estate
Jim Garcia | Douglas County Real Estate - Castle Rock, CO
210+ Reviews-Most Recommended Realtor

As a agent, if we continually change so we are not like all f the rest, We will be more successful. Good article. Thanks for sharing.

Oct 01, 2018 12:43 PM #51
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Sally and David - yes, but we need a new one to break the old one.

John - thank you.  It is a process of identifying and replacing with a better one.

Jim -  always look for our value proposition and keep it relevant.

Oct 02, 2018 04:05 AM #52
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Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Grant, had to return to your post and read the new comments.   You always have great advice for us.

Oct 06, 2018 05:14 AM #53
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Joan - I appreciate all of the comments here.

Oct 07, 2018 06:28 AM #54
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Jim Smith
The Property Management Company - Round Rock, TX
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We are either green and growing, or ripe and rotting.  All of your points are spot-on; and, the most overlooked and misunderstood is 'action'.  So often we allow FEAR to block us.  Funny thing is: the barriers are merely lies we have convinced ourselves are real.

Oct 07, 2018 07:15 AM #55
Rainmaker
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Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
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Jim - that is right

F alse

E vidence

A ppearing

R eal

Oct 07, 2018 10:38 AM #56
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