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Smokers Are Not Flirt Worthy!

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Real Estate Agent with RLAH@properties AB95346

I've had a couple of clients recently who have been, yes, smokers.

Now, I must admit that I, in fact, used to smoke.  I finally had to quit when I went to work for Ralph Nader after I finished college.  He actually sent me to SmokeEnders, and it stuck except for a couple of times when I smoked briefly between husbands.

The one thing that cured me was the really awful smell - even if you only smoke a few a day, it gets into clothing, hair, and sheets.  And no matter how many mints a smoker chews, they don't work to eliminate smokers' breath.

Yesterday, I was with a smoking client, and we stopped at his favorite haunt on Capitol Hill to write an offer on a house he had seen.  For the first time in ages, I came frighteningly close to bumming one. 

I didn't.

My grandmother's voice was whispering in my ear, "Kissing a smoker is like kissing an ashtray, dear!"  I looked at the ashtray on the table, and yeah, that would be pretty gross.

And as I was fighting off the urge to snatch one out of his pack of Camel Lights, I remembered they were never my brand, even when I was mooching.  And I remembered another client, a little old lady who smoked Virginia Slims, who reeked of stale smoke and Estee Lauder, a particularly deadly combination.

So, while I successfully resisted the temptation, it amazed me that I was tempted at all!

Yikes!

Comments (18)

Marchel Peterson
Results Realty - Spring, TX
Spring TX Real Estate E-Pro

Patricia, My husband smoked for 25 years but quit 15 or 16 years ago.  Mind you he started when he was 13.  When I lived with him smoking I couldn't smell smoke.  Now as soon as I walk in to a house with a smoker I can tell.  I did just that today.  My clients didn't even notice but sure enough on the back patio I see an ash tray full. 

May 28, 2008 03:46 PM
Jan Evett
The Premier Property Group LLC - Rosemary Beach, FL
Broker Associate, 20 years+ in real estate

Pat:

"a little old lady who smoked Virginia Slims, who reeked of stale smoke and Estee Lauder, a particularly deadly combination" ..............

I can see and smell her so clearly!  I'm so glad you resisted the temptation!  Smart girl...

BTW, was the buyer the veteran you posted about this weekend?  Yes, I'm selling real estate vicariously through you!  :)

May 28, 2008 03:51 PM
Gary Woltal
Keller Williams Realty - Flower Mound, TX
Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth

Patricia, I know some who are tempted when drinking. That's the connection, drinking and smoking. My mother used to smoke those menthol ones, what were they, Kool? Good for you that you stayed away. I loved that comment smoking between husbands. Stress might do that to you : )

May 28, 2008 03:52 PM
Kristal Kraft
Novella Real Estate - Denver, CO
Selling Metro Denver Real Estate - 303-589-2022

Patricia, Good for you to keep on the straight and narrow.  I would imagine once you start it's tough to stop...sorta like eating those potato chips.  Can do just one...

kk

May 28, 2008 03:58 PM
Lisa Friedman
Alliance Realtors - Bedminster, NJ
Central New Jersey Real Estate

Patricia - Just Say 'No', Just Think 'No'. Congrats on the willpower and keep it up!  Your health is worth more.

May 28, 2008 04:00 PM
Eric Kodner
Madeline Island Realty - La Pointe, WI
CRS, Madeline Island Realty, LaPointe, WI 54850 -

Pat,

I'm glad I quit smoking.  Still, there are moments when you're around someone who's having one and you get this urge..

May 28, 2008 04:11 PM
Elaine Hanson
Coldwell Banker Realty - Malibu | Topanga - Malibu, CA
REALTOR - Topanga, CA Real Estate Agent

You have triumphed!  That is great -- every little triumph adds up. 
( I love flirt-worthy and fully intend to make it mine -- outside of the Rain, of course!)

May 28, 2008 04:27 PM
Lorene Warren
Lyon Real Estate, Sacramento, CA - Sacramento, CA
Land Park Specialist & Top Producer for 36 years,

You smell it and it disgusts you and a few minutes later you could have one! I used to smoke and when I smoked I would say how can I live without them and when I quit I would say how did I smoke them? Your mind is a amazing organ! Remember you want to be around to enjoy all your efforts!!!

May 28, 2008 04:48 PM
Katerina Gasset
The Gasset Group & Get It Done For Me Virtual Services - Provo, UT
Amplify Your Real Estate & Life Dreams!

Patricia- I am SO glad you quit smoking. If you get one near your mouth, I will be there lickety split to smack it right away! :) I just had a client who smoked for 40 years and then quit. She is now dying from lung cancer. She knows and says it is her own actions that caused the disease.

May 28, 2008 05:38 PM
Linda Scanlan
A Fan of AR - Burleson, TX

Patricia, good for you for fighting the urge! Quitting smoking was the hardest thing I ever tried to do. Nasty habit!

May 28, 2008 10:16 PM
Ken Montville
RE/MAX United Real Estate - College Park, MD
The MD Suburbs of DC

I never really picked up the habit but my wife was a smoker and ocassionally will smoke when she's with "the girls" who smoke.  She was a pretty heavy smoker and it took a combination of my nagging after her brother died of lung cancer at the age of 58.  It took him a year to go through the long, agonizing, horrible-to-witness march to death.  It was almost a relief when he finally died...at 58.  And he was just and in-law to me.  I still get on her case when she sneaks off at parties with "the girls" for a quick cig. You see, I know that cigarettes to a nicotine addict are like booze to an alcoholic.  One leads to another and another and another.  Besides, it's not just the smell, those things cost a bundle, too.

May 29, 2008 12:01 AM
Kelly Sibilsky
Licensed Through Referral Connection, LTD. - Lake Zurich, IL

Glad you didn't succumb to the urge...did you sell the house, though?

May 29, 2008 12:41 AM
Audrey June-Forshey
RE/MAX Realty Services - Darnestown, MD
GRI, Gaithersburg, MD

You know I haven't smoked in years and I never was a "regular" smoker.  It was more when I went out with friends having a cocktail I would have one or two.  That was forever ago, to this day if I am having a cocktail I think about smoking.  I don't do it, but it is weird the craving is still there.

For me, the smell of smoke in a house, on a person, or in a car is the grossest smell.  I do think people are intersting though, we are more supportive of heroin addicts than we are of smokers?

Good for you!

May 29, 2008 01:09 AM
Amanda Evans
DFW Living - Fort Worth, TX
Real Estate Broker - Fort Worth Texas

Ughhh...I am on Day 3 of the patch at this point and things are going rather well this time around.  We'll see how it goes! 

Oh how I wish that I could be a non-smoker who enjoys one with the occasional martini.  It's just not meant to be.

Good for you, Pat! 

May 29, 2008 04:30 AM
Liz Moras Migic
Chilliwack, BC
Chilliwack, British Columbia - Realtor

I quite smoking when I was 23..I had just started dating a fellow who said he thought kissing someone that smoked was like 'kissing an ashtray'......and i QUICKLY quit.......didn't smoke through the whole time I was raising my kids......then about 10 years ago my cousin came to visit from Germany and stayed with me for a month........She smoked like a chimney......guess what?  I bummed one........and you can guess the rest.....I smoked again for another 6 years.........But I did quite one more time about 3 year ago.........This time around I don't even have a craving......I find the smell nauseating x 10 - maybe its menapause!  lol

May 29, 2008 05:27 AM
Billnulls Blog Florida Realty Professional
Charles Rutenberg Realty - Clearwater, FL
AHWD

Pat - I agree with your Grandmother!!! I used to smoke and Bill does when we are not with clients, but the smell is indeed horrible!!!!

May 30, 2008 02:31 AM
Carol Culkin
Diamond Partners Inc - Overland Park, KS
Overland Park Residential Real Estate

As much as I have been in your shoes and let my will power take over, there are as many times that I give into the urge. Fortunately, I am a once in a blue moon smoker. I'm a moocher who gives in during stressdul times or martini moments!

Jun 06, 2008 07:44 AM