What's in a Name?

Real Estate Broker/Owner with Aspen Lane Real Estate Colorful Colorado CRE# 40005863

Are you one of those people who remembers someones name after only meeting them once?  If so, you are amazing!  It is not an easy thing to do.

For me, it is sometimes difficult to remember names.  My Notes section of my iPhone X is filled with names of people I come into contact with.  I even have the guy who works at the Dog Food Shop where we buys food for our two golden retrievers every 8 weeks.  It feels good to walk in and say Hi Nate, how are you today?


I like to think that my name is rather unique.  I have not met many Belinda's along the way and I would think that would help people to remember my name.  Not so much!

The worst thing ever is when people reply to an email from me where I have my signature block with my name clear as day and they address me as "Brenda"

I see that and wonder just how hard it can possibly be to actually read my name and reply appropriately.  I don't let them off the hook though.  No way.  

I usually reply with "First, let me point out that my name is Belinda and not Brenda".

Maybe I should reply with "Thanks Joe Blow" or some other name other than theirs but then I would be as ridiculous as them.

Instead, I will keep playing the game.  

I guess it could be worse.  

Originally, my mom was going to name me Dorothy.  I can't imagine going through life as DOT.  She was watching a movie called "Johnny Belinda" when she went into labor and hence the name.  Not "Johnny Brenda".  




Comments (11)

Grant Schneider
Performance Development Strategies - Armonk, NY
Your Coach Helping You Create Successful Outcomes

Good afternoon Belinda Spillman - I certainly know the importance of a name and I make an effort to remember.  Now you give all the clue in your signature and person says they don't care when the overlook that.  I am happy with tent cards and name tags to make sure I don't forget.

Oct 04, 2018 10:26 AM
Belinda Spillman

I remember those tent cards to have our name displayed clearly.

Oct 04, 2018 12:13 PM
William Feela
Realtor, Whispering Pines Realty 651-674-5999 No.

Catchy names are important when it comes to the need to be recognize

Oct 04, 2018 10:47 AM
Belinda Spillman

Trying to recognize any names is important.

Oct 04, 2018 12:15 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hi Melinda err Belinda --- Ahh. A rose by any other name...

Hmm...why do i think of "don't call me Shirley"?

Oct 04, 2018 11:02 AM
Belinda Spillman

I would never call you Shirley my friend.  


Oct 04, 2018 12:16 PM
Susan Haughton
Long and Foster REALTORS (703) 470-4545 - Alexandria, VA
Susan & Mindy Team...Honesty. Integrity. Results.

LOL...my name gets changed to Sue, to Suzie, or just pronounced Suzanne. My response is simple - I don't reply.  And then when they get my attention, I will just say, "Oh, were you talking to me?  I'm sorry, I thought you said Sue.  I'm Susan."  With or without snark, depending on who it is.  LOL

Oct 04, 2018 11:41 AM
Belinda Spillman

How about Suzy Q?

Oct 04, 2018 12:17 PM
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

One of our friends was a physician.  He felt getting the name right and using it with his patients made them healthier.  Her insisted that his state learned to spell the names correctly as well as pronounced.  A

Oct 04, 2018 12:07 PM
Belinda Spillman

I bet it does make them healthier because it makes them happy.

Oct 04, 2018 12:18 PM
Anna Banana Kruchten CRS, CRB, Phoenix Broker
HomeSmart Real Estate BR030809000 - Phoenix, AZ

Belinda I can't imagine you being a DOT!!  I do remember names when there's not  a lot of people.  Hard to remember all of them in CE classes that's why I have them fill out Name Cards to set on their table. I think by using their names it makes it much more personal - and they participate a lot more too.  As for my name, not many forget Anna Banana!!

Oct 04, 2018 12:58 PM
Belinda Spillman

No one would ever forget Anna Banana!  Even if your name were DOT!!!

Oct 04, 2018 01:33 PM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Nobody likes their name to be mispronounced or called by the wrong name. Simply no-one! Especially not by the ex-girlfriend or ex-wifes name!!

Oct 04, 2018 03:24 PM
Debbie Reynolds, C21 Platinum Properties
Platinum Properties- (931)771-9070 - Clarksville, TN
The Dedicated Clarksville TN Realtor-(931)320-6730

Everyone of us wants to be called by our correct names. I used to dislike being called Deborah but now it doesn't bother me and I answer to any derivative of Deborah.

Oct 04, 2018 07:19 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

I have a terrible time remembering names, especially when I've met someone once many months ago. Or, when it's someone I knew only slightly and haven't seen them for 15 years.

One thing is nice - If I get mail addressed to Mr. Marte Cliff, I know it's a stranger and I don't have to bother opening it.

Oct 04, 2018 09:55 PM
Kasey & John Boles
Jon Gosche Real Estate, LLC - BoiseMeridianRealEstate.com - Boise, ID
Boise & Meridian, ID Ada/Canyon/Gem/Boise Counties

I have to make an effort to remember names, but seriously it does make a difference in how people feel. I get Casey and Kacey a lot back in emails and I think, "don't you see my name right there in my email signature? Not that hard to spell it correctly!" -Kasey

Oct 05, 2018 09:22 AM
Belinda Spillman


Oct 05, 2018 10:11 AM
Chris Ann Cleland
Long and Foster REALTORS®, Gainesville, VA - Bristow, VA
Associate Broker, Bristow, VA

You'll love this story.  There's an agent i know with two names, just like me.  We work in the same office and she would also introduce herself using the two names, and explain how important her two names were.  It differentiated her from her sisters.

Well, whenever she would see me, she would simply call me Chris.  Somehow, coming from someone with two names herself, that was extra disrespectful to me.  

Got her attention one day after she said, "Hi Chris," by giving her a , "Hi (insert first of two names here.)"    THAT got her attention.  "Oh no, my name is (two names.)"

All I did was smile and say, "I know. I have two names too."  Never been called anything but Chris Ann since when I see this person.

Oct 05, 2018 09:55 AM
Belinda Spillman

Ha ha.  Sometimes you just have to put it in their face.  On a recent email from someone I have been working with for 8 months, she called me Brenda.  Argh!  I replied with Hi Diane even though her name is Debbie.  LOL

Oct 05, 2018 10:11 AM

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