Yes, this is an early post for two reasons: something special is happening today. And, if I don't post this early in the week Kathy and Carol can't rescue my blog from oblivion! ha
So the meme above grabbed me a few days ago and thought it would be apropos today. Hilarious, except SO true. Hopefully, we all keep calm and stay friends no matter WHAT happens during this mid-term election!
Then, on a more jaded note, I saw this devastating cartoon on Facebook:
I have two sons who had a dream to play in the NBA. Both were tall and had motivation. Although I knew the chances were very slight to none, I did not stop them. I cheered them on though. My father was a professional boxer before he joined the military. He was very very good but something happened in Chicago and he stopped the dream of being a professional and making it to the 'big time'. Something happened, and we could only guess that he could not conscientiously take a fall. Dad did not believe in that.
And whatever my brother and I wished to do, he did not stop us. He was there to support us. But neither did he encourage us much when it came to sports or music because he knew how slight the odds were in these activities and how dark many aspects were.
And although one of my sons started college ball, he realized that he was not 'built' for a starring role and bowed out. It was a sad, but sobering moment that we all go through at one time or another. As parents, you have to keep encouraging your kids to realize that life has more to offer and many other routes to success. That son is now a preacher.
The younger one was under so much pressure to perform (not by me) that he actually quit the game and eloped in his senior year! He has a scattered motivation and moves from one thing to the next and unfortunately finds himself in trouble too often. Many kids have a 'Superman' mentality: they think they can do anything at all and nothing will affect them. He bounces back when down and is energized to start again.
Our own reticence and negativity should NEVER be imposed on our children, yet I can see that it happens. It shouldn't be imposed on our co-workers and employees and definitely should not be detected by potential or existing clients. If your mindset tends towards the negative you should recognize that debilitating effect on your health, progress/productivity and move out of that into positive territory.
But I also see a lot of snake charmers out there pedaling instant fixes and wins, knowing full well that the chances of their systems working are slim and that they are in it totally to snooker us.
Not every 'get rich' scheme will work for you. Not all business advice is suitable even. You have to integrate what is possible and doable and do the best you can. Try what sounds best for you. Yes, strive forward nonetheless and mark high goals, etc.
But you have to detect false or overhyped encouragement and be real with your resources and capabilities. As my Dad said: 'look out for number one'... (when I heard him tell me this, I thought it was a selfish attitude. Mom was altruistic, and I picked up on that more!)