Thankful For My Brother & Other Mother (#5)

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"Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair."

Yesterday, I wrote about how thankful I am for my "Peeps". Those were my friend peeps.  Today I want to express my thankfulness for my two most trusted family peeps... my one and only brother and my "other mother".

My brother, Clair, & I fought like normal siblings when we were young. Mostly, it was my brother being a bully to his much smaller, 1-year younger, sister. I think he probably had anger issues after the death of our mother and didn't have the proper guidance.  I believe even he would admit to that.  A strange thing happened, though, after our Dad died. Since our mother had died 5 years prior, we were now literally orphans.  My dad's brother and his wife (Uncle Orval & Aunt Dorothy) agreed to take us in, serving as our legal guardians.  To say the transition was difficult is an understatement. But that's a whole 'nother story.  Anyway, through it all, my brother apparently decided we needed to be allies and he needed to quit picking on me.  So much so that one of our teachers in high school asked if we ever fight.  Although my brother and I are on totally different planes when it comes to religion, politics, and lifestyle, he is one of the most honest and trustworthy people I have ever known.  He is named as the executor of my estate should the need ever arise.  He and his wife, Beverly, (pictured above) are coming for Thanksgiving.  The headphones my brother is wearing in the picture is not because he was tuning us out and listening to music.  He has a hearing disability which increases almost all noises to an unbearable level. So the headphones are for noise blocking to keep him from going bonkers.   Anyway, my brother is no longer a bully and my most trusted ally.

My "other mother", Kathy, is my second most trusted ally but not because I trust my brother more than her.  Kathy was married to my legal guardian's son.  She was the one who helped me through some difficult times as a teenager.  She is the one who arranged for me to move to Wenatchee when I left college.  She is the one who can get me to talk about things even if I don't want to talk about them.  She is always more interested in what's going on in my life rather than talking about herself.  Although she has 4 biological children, she totally treats me like one of her kids. Kathy and my cousin (my Aunt and Uncle's son) divorced many years ago and she is now happily remarried to Jim who is an awesome guy.  She is my other most trusted ally.

I love and trust all my friends but when it comes to appointing someone to make financial and medical decisions for me, I feel totally comfortable with my brother and Kathy. 

I am most thankful for both of them being in my life. 

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Kat Palmiotti
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What a wonderful tribute to both your brother and "other" mother. Having people in our lives that we trust and love is a wonderful thing!

Nov 14, 2018 02:53 AM #1
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Myrl Jeffcoat
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I am glad your brother experienced an epiphany and decided you two needed to be allies.  Death of a parent (especially at a young age) can affect us very differently.  I'm glad you have your brother, and your other mother. 

Nov 14, 2018 05:35 AM #2
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Sheila Anderson
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Good morning Carol. This story is moving and so interesting as well. Glad you have them still.

Nov 14, 2018 06:36 AM #3
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Debbie Reynolds
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Having good people to trust with those really important matters is a must. Your brother and Kathy are special people and much to be thankful for.

Nov 14, 2018 05:24 PM #4
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Kathy Streib
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Hi Carol- Kathy sounds like a very warm and caring person!!! I'm glad that you have these two wonderful people in your life. 

Nov 14, 2018 05:56 PM #5
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Gloria Todor
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Carol you had a rough beginning losing both of your parents at a young age.  Wonderful that your brother realized you were a buddy.  Good to have such people/family members who value you!

Nov 19, 2018 11:40 AM #6
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
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Carol, I did not know about your childhood - I can't imagine but, it's through life's experiences that we become stronger and more resilient than we ever thought possible and you've certainly achieved that...and more.

It's so nice to have trusted allies and regardless of their political affiliation, it's the heart, the honesty, the integrity, the love and compassion that matters. I love that your 'other mother' prefers to hear about YOU! They're both great allies to have, for sure!

Nov 20, 2018 11:21 AM #7
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Carol Williams
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Hi Kat Palmiotti ,
I don't know what I would do if I didn't have them.  As a single person, you think about those things if the unthinkable happens and I need someone else to make my decisions.

Nov 20, 2018 11:26 AM #8
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Carol Williams
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Hi Myrl Jeffcoat ,
I'm glad he did too.  I was tired of getting beat up on.  LOL  He never actually hurt me just did mean stuff.  It's all good now, though.

Nov 20, 2018 11:27 AM #9
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Carol Williams
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Hi Sheila Anderson ,
We all have interesting lives, don't we?  There just all different.  I love learning about where people came from and how they got to where they are.  Have a wonderful day and evening.

Nov 20, 2018 11:28 AM #10
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Carol Williams
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Hi Debbie Reynolds ,
You are so right!  As a single person, it gives me comfort knowing I have people in my life that I trust to make important decisions for me if ever I can't.

Nov 20, 2018 11:29 AM #11
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Carol Williams
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Hi Kathy Streib ,
It is good to have them in my life every day and also comforting knowing I have them to make important decisions for me if I can't do it for myself. 

Nov 20, 2018 11:32 AM #12
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Carol Williams
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Hi Gloria Todor ,
We all get dealt a different hand of cards to play, don't we? I'm making the best of it and feel very blessed.  It's all lead me in a positive direction.

Nov 20, 2018 01:03 PM #13
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Carol Williams
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Hi Debe Maxwell, CRS ,
I am constantly amazed at how life works.  It is through the tragedies and challenges that we are lead in the direction we are intended for. If I could only change one thing it would be to have my husband, the love of my life, back.  In spite of that, though, I feel so blessed.

Nov 20, 2018 01:06 PM #14
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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
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Welllll, I can relate to having a bully for a brother. In fact, I had THREE of them! Thankfully, I survived those early years and we are all grown and civilized now. LOL

Seriously, thank you for sharing a very touching story with us, and I'm glad you and Kathy became close and remained close despite the divorce. It reminds me of my "other" mother that passed away last month. She was my mother-in-law and we remained close despite the fact that her son and I divorced years prior. And I'm glad your brother cut you some slack after your parents passed away, and that you are now close.

Nov 20, 2018 04:52 PM #15
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