Hiking Log - Judging..

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Real Estate Agent with Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com 10301213186

This is part 17 of excerpts from the trail log which was located on a New York portion of the Appalachian trail. For the post which explains this series, click here.  Each new edition includes a quote from a hiker, along with this writer's insight into what the person might have meant. Your interpretation may be different!

 

Following is my selection of this week's thoughts of a hiker.

 


 

June 19, 2016

 

"Do not judge the ignorance of others, there was a time when you did not know what you know."

 


 

This was written with quotation marks, so I figured it was a quote I would be able to find online. I did the obligatory google search and the closest thing I could find was something said by Malcolm X. He said, "Don't be in a hurry to condemn because he doesn't do what you do or think as you think or as fast. There was a time when you didn't know what you know today. "

 

The bottom line was that on Saturday, June 19th, 2016, on a gorgeous 80 degree sunny day, someone was hiking in the woods and this is the quote that was on their mind. There's no way to know why, but I speculate that someone in their life was judging them, or judging someone else. Which is frustrating in the best of times.

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It is so easy for all of us to judge others, often in a negative way. Someone asks a question that we know the answer to, and we think "Wow, what a stupid question, the answer is so obvious." And sometimes our response can bring our negative attitude across, making the person feel dumb for asking the question.

 

And other times, someone might say something and we automatically jump to our own conclusions about what they mean. But we are judging their words based on our own experience, and what they said might not be what we heard.

 

The reverse is also true. I remember times in the past where I would say something that I thought was very straight forward. Then the person I was talking to got upset. When we got to the bottom of the situation, they were upset because they judged my words to have a meaning that was nothing like what I meant.

 

Our interactions with others would all be more productive (and nicer) if we remember that we all come to the table with different knowledge sets, and different histories. If someone asks a question of any kind, kudos to them for asking! We should take a breath, smile, and answer the question. And if someone says something that sounds argumentative or contrarian, and our first response is to take offense or get angry, remember that they might not have said what you thought they did. Take a moment, restate what you heard, and say something like, "I heard you say (blah blah blah), is that what you meant?" And then decide whether there is something to take offense to.

 

And now, to get back to our hiker. The motivation for this hiker's choice of quote is unknown, but I hope whatever judging was going on in his or her life was resolved positively.

 

For more thehousekat.com Hiking-related posts, click here. 

 

 

Originally published at thehousekat.com.

 

 

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Kat Palmiotti, The House Kat

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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
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What a wonderful way to clear your head and absorb nature. When I go on my 2-mile hike each day; I have so many thoughts to absorb, my hike seems to fly by. Great post, as always Kat Palmiotti 

Nov 29, 2018 07:12 AM #17
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You know that's why I miss the days of people talking on the phone.  I find in the text world many times more often intent is perceived that is not intended.  I'm bookmarking your link to read next time I'm out waiting on a home inspection to be completed.

Nov 29, 2018 02:26 PM #18
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Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - Being in nature really does allow us to distance ourselves from distraction and focus on ourselves. Which isn't selfish, it's necessary.

Tammy Lankford, I agree - the written word is easier to misread than the spoken word. Especially when the spoken word is done in person!

Nov 30, 2018 02:27 AM #19
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Kat Palmiotti  Very good point about restating what one may think they have heard.  It is fairly amazing to realize how many times people do misunderstand what we meant and we may not even realize it until later.  I think agents learn that fact all the time.  When one is in a stressful situation it can be easy to either misunderstand or misintrepret what is said.   And you are right about the written word. 

Nov 30, 2018 10:13 PM #20
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Faye Y. Taylor - It is very easy to misunderstand or misinterpret others. I have found that out also! Have a great day!

Dec 01, 2018 02:54 AM #21
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Hello Kat Palmiotti,  Once again, I learn something from you here in the rain.  I am still old fashion and like to pick up the phone instead of texting but to each their own ways.

 

Dec 01, 2018 09:15 AM #22
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Oh, you know I love your hiking log posts but, this one is so special, Kat. I totally agree and we do have to stop and think before commenting about others who have not yet walked in our shoes - in business or in our personal lives. Great tie-in - love this post!

This would be a good one for Carol Williams second chance log...or her quote challenge this month!

Dec 01, 2018 03:52 PM #23
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Hi Kat,
This reminds me of the quote by Alan Greenspan:
"I know you think you understand what you thought I said but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant."


I think it is natural to make judgments based on our own experiences. I learned a long time ago, though, that people are the way they are for a reason.  It is not for me to judge them.  On the flip side when people judge me unfairly, I know they don't really know me or the situation.  

That said, what does bother me is people in a class asking questions that were already answered.  They just weren't listening... and it wastes everyone's time going over the same stuff.   That's the only time I can think of that I get annoyed at any questions.

Great post, Kat.  Thanks!

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                           Thank you, Kat. 

Dec 01, 2018 05:12 PM #25
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Will Hamm - Thank you for taking the time to read and comment!

Thank you Debe Maxwell, CRS - I'll have to check out Carol's challenge!

Carol Williams - Yes, that would be annoying (having someone re-ask something that was just answered!). Thank you for your comment!

 

Dec 02, 2018 03:04 AM #26
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Thank you so much for including me in your weekly post Kathy Streib !

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The quote you referenced today REALLY makes us stop to think. We sometimes are "high and mighty", but it would behoove us to remember that once upon a time, we didn't know the answer either! There are times I am annoyed at some of the questions I hear from newbie agents. I mean, they went to real estate school, didn't they? I should pause and remind myself I was once just starting out too, and show a little patience with their questions.

Dec 03, 2018 03:22 PM #28
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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty 

Thank you for taking the time to read and comment! The one thing that does bug me, I admit, is when the same person asks the same question over again. But if it's the first time they've asked, maybe they really don't know! 

Have a wonderful day!

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Hi Kat

I so enjoy these hiker log posts that your share! I love the quote about ignorance. What a powerful inspiration.

Jeff

Dec 04, 2018 09:25 PM #30
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Thank you Jeff Dowler, CRS !

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It is so hard to communicate at times with others - particularly when you feel like we are being driven by social media dn the news and politics to be divisive and disagreeable! When you start from an adversarial basis it is not surprising that we disagree anddo not hear what each other has said

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Good morning Kat Palmiotti,

I'm so glad that Carol Williams featured your post in her Second Chance Saturday series. What an excellent post with a compelling title I missed this week. Your hiker log posts are so insightful and well written..you definitely could put these into a book. I think it is natural to make judgments based on our own experiences. We need to stop and think before commenting about others who have not yet walked in our shoes - in business or in our personal lives. Your quote about ignorance is powerful!

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Hi Kat

I came back to read this (wasn't sure I had before but it sounded so good) again. I really liked the quote that the posts started off with. There's so much to think about in that quote and what it inspired you to share! It's so easy to make judgements when we should not.

Jeff

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Lise Howe - And that makes it more important to come from a non-adversarial basis! Thanks for commenting!

Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR - Thank you for your comment! I caught myself today saying something negative (in my head) about someone. And then I said, "STOP! You are judging them based on your own life - that's not fair to them!" Oops.

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Thank you Jeff Dowler, CRS - The quote did inspire me, and I appreciate your comment!

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