What Is in Your Half Empty or Half Full Glass: Nectar or Poison?

Reblogger Roy Kelley
Education & Training with Realty Group Referrals 16766

Wishing someone harm, bitching and moaning, dwelling on negative aspects of the real estate profession, the government, the leadership, your city, your family, your clients, and so on and so forth reduces your problem-solving capacity and inspiration.


Original content by Ron and Alexandra Seigel

We have always answered this age-old question: Is the glass half full or half empty, and we say: it depends on what is in the glass. Is it Nectar or is it Poison? We love maintaining a positive mindset--drinking nectar.


The most successful luxury real estate and other real estate niche marketing professionals have developed a genuine positive mindset. As a result, they attract more clients (sellers and buyers). One of the ladies we worked with a young 78- year-old was thriving during the worst of the recession unlike some of the other agents in her market. She knew without a doubt that there is always an abundance of business regardless of the economy and its fluctuations. Another one of our clients had one of her highest all-time years during the same time period. Neither one focused on short sales, they just repeated their well-honed formula consistently.


We both grin with great delight and take it as a compliment, when someone critiques us as being “too” positive or unrealistic when it comes to our approach to life and people in general. Some will tell us that we are ignoring the world’s tragedies and proceed to enumerate them.


On the contrary, we are aware of them, we just do not choose to dwell on them, and we take comfort in the fact that there are many wonderful people working on these issues, which are outside of our sphere of influence.


We steadfastly have maintained an optimistic approach going in the worst of times. We even give ourselves permission to moan and groan for all of 5 minutes. We know that we can choose, how we decide to approach or feel about any problematic or disastrous situation.


We can dwell and rue about it and engender sympathy, or we can find the positive aspect and find a way to make it work. This mindset has given us strength and inspiration in the best of times and in the worst of times.


Two weeks ago, in our Qigong *(defined below) class our teacher demonstrated the power of the positive mindset. Using a simple muscle strength test, he used to measure one of the participant’s strength. Now, he had us (50 students) say aloud, to this man that he has many problems.


Afterwards, our teacher went over to him and checked his muscle strength. It had markedly diminished. Then he had the audience say, he is a wonderful problem solver! The muscle strength test improved beyond the initial measurement.  


The second part of this demonstration was to ask several members of the group to stand next to the man. They too had their muscle strength assessed. We all repeated the negative mantra. What was revealing is that the onlookers also lost muscle strength in the process.


The action of sympathizing with the fellow's dilemma created a weakening of their strength as well as weakening the strength of the audience. We all repeated the positive mantra and everyone’s strength was improved.


Wishing someone harm, bitching and moaning, dwelling on negative aspects of the real estate profession, the government, the leadership, your city, your family, your clients, and so on and so forth reduces your problem-solving capacity and inspiration. It impacts your health, your relationships, and your effectiveness in business. It is a bona-fide form of self-destruction. This quote illustrates this pefectly, “resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.”

Ultimately, it is your choice! What is in your glass Nectar Or Poison!


*"Qigong (pronounced "chee-gung," also spelled chi kung) is translated from the Chinese to mean "energy cultivation" or "working with the life energy." Qigong is an ancient Chinese system of postures, exercises, breathing techniques, and meditations. Its techniques are designed to improve and enhance the body's qi or chi.

“In China, qigong is used in conjunction with other medical therapies  for many chronic conditions, including allergies, AIDS, cancer, headaches,depression, mental illness, strokes, heart disease, hypertension, asthma and obesity.”


Written by Ron & Alexandra Seigel-




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Gita Bantwal
RE/MAX Centre Realtors - Warwick, PA
REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel

Thank you for reblogging the post. I missed reading the original post 

Feb 07, 2019 02:20 AM #1
Gabe Sanders
Real Estate of Florida specializing in Martin County Residential Homes, Condos and Land Sales - Stuart, FL
Stuart Florida Real Estate

Thanks for the re-blog, Roy.  There are some very wise words of wisdom in this post.

Feb 07, 2019 05:34 AM #2
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Please be sure to leave comments at the original blog by Ron and Alexandra Seigel

Feb 07, 2019 05:43 AM #3
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy

Thank you Roy for re-blogging our post.  We always are appreciative of your kindness and the rainbows you spread on Active Rain.  A

Feb 07, 2019 07:54 AM #5
Debe Maxwell, CRS
www.iCharlotteHomes.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Too often people watch positive & successful people hoping that they will fail because they've been drinking the poison. I'm constantly drinking the nectar & if there are those that have a problem with it its theirs not mine. Nice reblog Roy.

Feb 07, 2019 02:48 PM #7
Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Your feedback and your continued support are very much appreciated.

Feb 11, 2019 05:17 AM #9
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