Grieving loss and preparing a loved one's home for sale. By: Maria Sapio, Realtor®

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Real Estate Agent with Berkshire Hathaway Homesale Realty RS334568

In the aftermath of a loved ones passing, deciding to sell their home is often a decision that holds a multitude of emotions.

 

Perhaps this is the home where you grew up.

Maybe your parents have lived in this home for most of their married life and the thought of sorting through it can feel overwhelming.

 

I understand. I too have walked this pathway when my mom passed away in 2016, so my words are deep with empathy.

 

I have also had the privilege of being invited into this season with several clients that are walking through this chapter and it is my heartfelt intention to help guide the way with the utmost compassion and dignity.

 

 

Depending upon the circumstances, I might recommend having a gathering at the home so extended family and close friends can have the opportunity to join with you as you sift through furniture, clothing, and other household items. This helps to transform a challenging task into a celebratory event of reminiscing and sharing about special times and memories.

 

 

Family and friends are often reluctant to impose upon you during this time of grieving but if you open the doors and invite them into this process with you, it might open conversations of sharing stories and moments that can extend encouragement and strength to you in the present.

 

 

I recently had a client tell me that she had walked passed the photos on the walls so many times that she had never really taken the time to truly look at them. As she began to take the photos down and box them up, she felt like she really saw them. She expressed the impact of immersing herself into those sacred memories and a feeling of thankfulness overwhelmed her knowing that the photos could live on and offer many more years of enjoyment upon new walls.

 

Embracing these tender days with care, surrounded by the loving support of others can often truly help one find the spark of hope as you prepare the home for the next chapter to be enjoyed by its next homeowner with honor and reflection.

 

I welcome your thoughts. Please feel free to visit my website mariasapio.com

 

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Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty - I was so humbled by Mike's willingness to share his experience.  Thank you for reading my post and extending your thoughts...

Dec 03, 2018 02:52 PM #52
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Lottie Kendall
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Maria, I'm sure you offer just the right combination of knowledge and care to your special clients who need extra TLC. Gentleness and offering suggestions in their best interest is greatly appreciated, and so very much needed in times of stress.

Dec 03, 2018 07:42 PM #53
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Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
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Having had the experience several times with clients and family, I've learned that after the funeral, the settling of the estate could be challenging or amicable, however, the personalities and characters of the family could only be managed by an existing will or trust and its trustee. 

The lesson for all is to have a will, trust or both in place with a trustee to administer the estate and execute the terms of the decedent. Without exception, selling off the estate assets was always a challenge when the perceived market price did not meet the reality of the market and that's the time emotions from the beneficiaries began to escalate.                                            

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Dec 04, 2018 02:49 AM #55
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Lottie Kendall - It is always an honor to be invited to walk with a client through the season of selling a home.  Thank you for your response.

Dec 04, 2018 04:24 AM #56
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Kimo Jarrett - I so appreciate you taking the time to read my post and to offer your input.

Dec 04, 2018 04:25 AM #57
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Tillu Ash, I appreciate you reading my posts and I'm so thankful to hear that you enjoy reading what I share.

Dec 04, 2018 04:27 AM #58
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Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
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Beautifully written Beth. It's so important to remember the human side of every transaction. It's so much more than just business.

Dec 04, 2018 05:10 AM #59
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Sharon Tara - Thank you for stopping by this morning and for sharing your comment.

Dec 04, 2018 05:21 AM #60
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Theresa Akin
CORPUS CHRISTI REALTY GROUP - Corpus Christi, TX

My father was one of the smartest men, I knew. i was living in Indiana at the time my mother passed away back in 92. At the time we helped him with her funeral as far as choice in color etc. He spoke with the funeral director and at the time of  making choices, he also chose his own pre-need set-up.  A few years after her death he remarried. He had sold the home we grew up in located in a rural small town and moved into town closer to family and other sources.  Just 6 months prior to his death, he sold his house much to the disdain of the stepchildren/siblings.  He leased an apartment with our stepmother. In the lease clause she could either continue the full length of the lease or give 30 days notice and still get the deposit back. The steps were upset about this, they were hoping to prosper on part of the sale of the home she would've been living in. My father knew because of her onset of dementia, she would not be able to handle such a stressful situation and he didn't want the steps having one say in it. They also weren't too happy about their mother having to pay for her bouquet placed on my father's casket, her only cost due to the Pre-need paid 16 years prior. His last check up at the doctor's office just 8 months prior to his death, because of an abdominal aneurysm is what prompted his final actions to sell his home then lease. I won't go into how we had to knock down the other vultures (family) who liked to pounce. It wasn't pretty as the acts of vultures isn't a pretty sight to see.   We learn through our own experiences how to empathize and sympathize with others. Great post, Maria and hopefully becomes a feature!! 

Dec 04, 2018 07:50 AM #61
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John Wiley
Right Move Real Estate Group- EXP Realty - Fort Myers, FL
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Maria, your attitude is a great reflection on the Realtor community.

Your tenderness and compassion shine brightly.

Helping people is one of the grandest parts of this business.

Being sensitive to needs and being prepared to offer guidance in all kinds of situations as a much needed resource to clients, family and friends.

Thanks for sharing.

Dec 04, 2018 07:51 AM #62
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Berkshire Hathaway Homesale Realty - Carlisle, PA
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Theresa Akin - What a heartbreaking chapter you've shared.  I am most grateful that you would write your words from your heart with us in the AR community.  I hope that in the aftermath, you have found peace and healing.  

Dec 04, 2018 07:57 AM #63
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John Wiley I am so humbled by your most gracious words.  Thank you - it is an honor to walk among professionals with a heart like you.

Dec 04, 2018 08:01 AM #64
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR
Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate-Kansas City Homes - Kansas City, MO
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The photos on the wall...that is so true. Once they go up, you admire them, carefully placed for viewing. Then it is just another bit of decor you walk by every day.  Take the time to look and remember!

Dec 04, 2018 09:37 AM #65
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Berkshire Hathaway Homesale Realty - Carlisle, PA
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR - I am forever grateful for the bits of wisdom that my clients share with me as they walk through various stages of this process.

Dec 04, 2018 09:51 AM #66
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Elisa Uribe Realtor #01427070
Golden Gate Sotheby's International - Oakland, CA
California Homes for Sale in the East Bay

Thanks for sharing this. It is truly best to concentrate on efforts on listening carefully and with compassion. 

Dec 04, 2018 02:23 PM #67
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Elisa Uribe Realtor #01427070 What beautiful words you've shared... Thank you.

Dec 04, 2018 02:38 PM #68
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Hi Maria

I think these are wonderful suggestions that could work wonders and be a sort of celebration of life and memories, depending on the people involved. I love the compassion and caring that was so apparent. Unfortunately from time to time, including here, you hear some stories that make you sad as not everyone reacts or responds in a respectful manner. Perhaps they do not know how to respond or be helpful, but some seem to be too self-focused.

Jeff

Dec 05, 2018 08:24 PM #69
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Jeff Dowler, CRS - What a lovely comment you've taken the time to write,,,and I so appreciate your heartfelt perspective.  With my utmost thanks.

Dec 06, 2018 04:58 AM #70
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Such a heartfelt, compassionate post.  Good for you for being there for your clients during their time of need with empathy and compasion for them.  

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