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Inspirational thoughts for 12/19/18

by Patricia Feager



Our minds influence the key activity of the brain, which then influences 

everything; perception, cognition, thoughts and feelings,

personal relationships; they're all a projection of you. 

--- Deepak Chopra




Feedback and/or comments on Social Media is a way to improve business relationships with others on ActiveRain. How others see you is a perception. Perception, they say is a reality. A public blog post is designed for more than just members on ActiveRain. A Member's Only Blog could be viewed by Brokers, the Board, State Association, and State Real Estate Commission, including other agents from your community. Following are suggestions for providing positive and social feedback:


  • Respect colleagues
  • Tap into discussions if asked with positive remarks
  • Be enthusiastic


Remarks left on blog posts serve as a feedback source. It may lead to friendship, a business relationship, or referrals. If you can't say something nice, please don't say anything at all. A good idea is golden! Praises when deserved are GREAT!




  • Interject with unsolicited opinions from your different point-of-view
  • One upmanship
  • Being forceful when you disagree
  • Being overly critical




  • Learn more about new members to ActiveRain
  • Notice what people like and other social interests
  • Points of interest are intriguing
  • Learn to discern between your strengths and weakness
  • Be you!
  • Give credit where credit is due
  • Foster openness and trust 
  • Notice whose missing - reach out to others
  • Limiting followers may eliminate business opportunities/referrals   


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Peter Mohylsky
PrimeSouth Properties - Santa Rosa Beach, FL
Let me help you find your path to the beach.

Great blog and comments from all here, thanks for posting this information.

Dec 20, 2018 05:23 AM #18
Scott Godzyk
Godzyk Real Estate Services - Manchester, NH
One of the Manchester NH's area Leading Agents

Your blog should be what every new member and existing member should read and understand before sitting at their keyboards. It would be nice for other social media such as FB too 

Dec 20, 2018 05:28 AM #19
Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I was always taught that if I didn't have something nice to say, it was best to say nothing at all.

Dec 20, 2018 05:52 AM #20
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

John Henry and all. I heard from Bill Spear. He was kind enough to provide enlightenment and wisdom on social feedback. Please see below:


"I'm in the mountains of West Virginia visiting family, so on delayed response time :)

Here's the dividing point for me:  if a post is clearly intended to the consumer to attract business, unless something is clearly an ethical/legal issue, the post doesn't need contrary comments that undermine the writer.

If the audience is other professionals and not the consumers, IMO anything is fair game for criticism as long as it's done civilly (and you're willing to risk the consequences of potentially burning a referral bridge)."

Dec 20, 2018 06:39 AM #21
Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

First rule of life? Stand and be counted....being practiced here

Dec 20, 2018 06:58 AM #22
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

I can see why this one is featured. It's a good reminder. I rarely engage in any post that has a questionable agenda. When in doubt, move along.  Hope you're enjoying this wonderful season, Patricia. D 

Dec 20, 2018 06:59 AM #23
Shirley Coomer
Keller Williams Realty Sonoran Living - Phoenix, AZ
Realtor, Keller Williams Realty, Phoenix Az

Great featured post with great recommendations!

Dec 20, 2018 08:17 AM #24
Mike Bjork
Pinnacle Home Loan - Redondo Beach, CA

Kind of like, living by the "Golden Rule".  Thanks for the post.

Dec 20, 2018 09:29 AM #25
Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
Luxury Real Estate Branding, Marketing & Strategy


Congratulations on your feature.  And I love your photos.  Wishing  you a great weekend.. A 

Dec 20, 2018 01:11 PM #26
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia once one is perceived in a negative way it is very hard to change that perception later.

Dec 20, 2018 04:37 PM #27
Hannah Williams
Re/Max Eastern inc. - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-953-8818

So glad this was Featured Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP both in AR and I fond it Featured in Bananatude  . This post is perfectly eloquent .Bravo 

Dec 20, 2018 04:54 PM #28
Peter Spain
Cancasa - Punta Cana, DR

Some really good points listed in this article as I see the many mistakes made by business owners on social media on a daily basis.

Some have pretty much ruined their reputations without even trying hard.

Thanks for sharing this.

Dec 21, 2018 03:01 AM #29
Amanda S. Davidson
Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By eXp Realty - Alexandria, VA
Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale

Patricia, a thoughtful and genuine post as always. I'm happy to see it featured! I've never been interested in engaging in anything questionable. Have always felt it doesn't accomplish anything but, negative and hurt. Be kind or just move on. There are plenty of posts to leave a positive comment on. 

Dec 21, 2018 05:01 AM #30
Kevin Mackessy
Blue Olive Properties, LLC - Highlands Ranch, CO
Dedicated. Qualified. Local.

It is truly astonishing what some people will post on public forums.  There seems to be nothing off limits for certain people.  

Dec 21, 2018 12:28 PM #31
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

Thank you ma'am! When it's public, there's absolutely no excuse for not being charming.

Dec 21, 2018 06:02 PM #32
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Wonderful advice and gorgeous photo too, Patricia! Bill and I have had this conversation before about public-facing posts and those that are meant for members-only. Discussion/debate/negativity (whatever you want to call it) should really not happen on public-facing posts. 

Sadly, no matter where the posts are seen and the debates occur, it seems that people have more trouble being kind than ever before. Negativity (really 'nastiness') almost seems rampant on some of the social media sites. AR is almost like a safe-haven, isn't it? 

Dec 21, 2018 09:19 PM #33
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

Patricia, found this on Michael Jacobs' blogpost about being kind. Last year, I saw the movie, Wonder. It is a very powerful story, to say the least. One of my takeaways that had a profound effect on me (and I've shared it over and over again) is a rather small moment in the movie. A teacher has his young students read a precept every day in class. This particular day, a young girl reads: When choosing to be right or being kind, choose kind. 

I loved that, it made me cry. Even wrote a blogpost about it. So often it's much easier to push the ego to the top, and say "I told you so", or "See? I was right!"  at the expense of someone's feelings. Criticism, ego, prejudice, being judgemental can cause monumental damage. 

Choosing to be kind is the ONLY choice in my book. 

Jan 02, 2019 07:34 AM #34
Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
John L Scott Market Center - Birkenfeld, OR
"Your Local Expert!" 503-755-2905

P.S. I absolutely LOVE your Monet photo. That's where it was taken, right?

Jan 02, 2019 07:37 AM #35
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

Yes, sadly, there are 'double-crossing' people everywhere. We just have to trust but, verify. And, yes, Bill is one of those who are good-to-the-core - one who can talk me off of the ledge sometimes! 

On another note, watching the Rose Parade yesterday, I saw the Flower Mound HS Band performing and thought of you! I wondered if you had heard them in person - they were quite good.

Happy New Year!

Jan 02, 2019 08:26 AM #36
Anthony Kirlew
Group 46:10 Network @ eXp Realty - Gilbert, AZ
Helping You Make Fiscally Sound Choices

I kept this in my browser to come back and respond to and I am glad I did. You really nailed the spirit of social media ettiquette! Great post!

Jan 12, 2019 10:31 PM #37
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