To Tell The Truth.....Or Not...

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Real Estate Agent with EXP Realty 414-525-0563 57026-90 Broker

There is a quote somewhere that says..."The Truth is what you Believe it fingers crossedto be."  Google will tell you that there are variations of this phrase. The "truth" may be because if a lie is repeated often enough...to the "story teller," it becomes the truth. 

     We can see this "not so glowing" phrase in action every day....often without knowing it. In "Cyberspace" it is easy to take on a different personna...to claim to be licensed, experienced, a team leader, landlord...have imaginary listings and expertise...most often these things will go unverified and even more "stories" are built on the foundation of these lies.He Said She Said

    Working with both divorce and estates..versions of  "the truth" can vary.  There will always be "he said/she said"...or the "Mom always liked me best...she would want..." kind of perspective. Those are typical examples of the truth being exactly as one believes it to be. Exaggerating credentials and expertise online or off is an out right lie and some of the people will be fooled some of the time....until the expertise is put to the test or other people are asked to verify it. Then it disappears and the severe consequence to be paid is more and more people not wishing  to believe anything the "story teller" has to say.

 Pinocchio  When there have been "fabricated truths" in all things legal...the consequences are more severe....and expensive.  The jewelry of Mom's that was sworn "to be missing"....the family heirloom that must have been "misplaced"...when these stories are told to the lawyer who represents the Storyteller....and later found to be "stories" and not the truth...the Lawyer must ethically resign the case and the Storyteller must hire other representation. This of course results in more legal fees...for both parties as the new legal representative becomes familiar with the case.reputation

    The consequence of being less than honest online may not be as "legally severe". You can't however...we believe, put a price on reputation....the lies will create one you won't want to own.

  We are cautious in our real estate practice...we are wary on line of what we choose to accept as "truth"..third party verification is sometimes the "truth barometer" that is required to learn the realities of a situation. 

      This has been a professional experience post brought to you by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, Broker Associates with EXP Realty honored to be of service for all things real estate in Southeastern Wisconsin.
    

 

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Rainmaker
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Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
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You see this happen every day on TV on those Judge shows Sally. Someone is not telling the truth, and many times no one is...

Dec 28, 2018 04:25 AM #2
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Wayne Martin
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Good morning Sally. Easy to keep the facts straight if you tell the truth! not so good when puffing becomes pure fiction. Enjoy your day!

Dec 28, 2018 04:31 AM #3
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Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
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"He said she said" in divorce and the toxicity atmosphere when a couple is splitting. You have to collect both sides of the conversation.

Dec 28, 2018 04:51 AM #4
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Brian England
Arizona Focus Realty - Gilbert, AZ
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When I find out that a person is more than willing to tell lies, I rarely believe what they say from that point forward.

Dec 28, 2018 05:16 AM #5
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Roy Kelley
Realty Group Referrals - Gaithersburg, MD

Consumers need to be alert and safety can be assured when they are advised by an experienced real estate professional.

Dec 28, 2018 05:19 AM #6
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Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Sedona, AZ
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HI Sally, 

The old saying goes..."Perception is reality".  So be cautious what you want others to perceive about you. 

Dec 28, 2018 05:36 AM #7
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Nina Hollander
Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage - Charlotte, NC
Your Charlotte/Ballantyne/Waxhaw/Fort Mill Realtor

There is an expression, Sally and David, that the truth will always out. And in my experience in life it's true. You can't keep the truth from outing forever.

Dec 28, 2018 05:41 AM #8
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Gabe Sanders
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Stuart Florida Real Estate

Good morning Sally and David.  Unfortunately, it seems like the truth is becoming a rare commodity these days with too many people.

Dec 28, 2018 05:42 AM #9
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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
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Good morning, Sally and David - Ahh, "Trust but verify" came to mind as I read your post.

Dec 28, 2018 06:14 AM #10
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Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
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Good morning Sally. I couldn't help but think of the president who lies numerous times a day and probably believes it.

Dec 28, 2018 07:02 AM #11
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Joan Cox
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Sally, I like Michael version - Trust but verify.    That is how I send out referrals, to be sure my clients are in good hands.

Dec 28, 2018 07:37 AM #12
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Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

In divorce Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573 ,the truth often lies in the middle...with Agents who brag about sales,listings,teams that do not exist...there would seem to be a bigger problem of character...or lack thereof.

Dec 28, 2018 07:41 AM #13
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel
Napa Consultants - Carpinteria, CA
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Sally and David,

The truth is easily remembered, lies are not.  In French, there is an expression where someone tells almost the truth, it is known as "embroidering" the truth.  Lots of that goes one...A

Dec 28, 2018 08:04 AM #14
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Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi
NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656 - New Lenox, IL
708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience

Exceptional message here, Sally K. & David L. Hanson ... and especially timely going into a new year ...

The problems that ensue from deceitful actions or out-and-out lying go way beyond just those directly involved in any transaction.  When it's real estate/lending involved it hurts the industry as a whole, sours public perception, and makes others ability to earn a living much harder.   In short, it stinks ... 

Applause for this post and its message!

Gene

Dec 28, 2018 10:15 AM #15
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George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
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Sally and David some people are very convincing, but in the end the truth comes out.  Unfortunately it is often to late to minimize the damage caused by the deceit.

Dec 28, 2018 01:28 PM #16
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Debe Maxwell, CRS
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I even have issues with those who embelish - it's STILL a lie and I see it every single day online too, Sally. It's such a shame because I also see 'believers' in those 'liars' and take the high-road, keeping my mouth shut. Close friends know but, others - as I said, I zip it and prefer to say nothing! 

Dec 28, 2018 01:29 PM #17
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
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Hi Sally and David

This is certainly a powerful message. One certainly does not want a reputation built on lies, simple or not!

Jeff

Dec 28, 2018 04:49 PM #18
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Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

It's so important in this business to always be truthful.  If you don't know something, say you will find out.  Our reputations are too important to not speak the truth!   Great post and points to ponder!

Dec 30, 2018 08:30 AM #19
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John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
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Hi Sally and David, I think there is more prevarication online than in real life.  I remember "white lies" and a great topic about thirty years ago: "situation ethics".

Boy.  You are either telling the truth or not.  Period.

Thanks very much.

Dec 31, 2018 12:11 PM #20
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John Dotson
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IN our business, not telling the truth can cost you your livelihood.  Not worth the risk or the headache!

Jan 06, 2019 06:23 PM #21
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