Surprise Encounters With Rude People in Waikiki

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Real Estate Agent with RE/MAX Gold DRE #00697006

With the exception of a two-word, 7-letter expression that is pretty much a one-size-fits-all comeback, most of us are not instantly ready to emit a snappy return insult when a complete stranger suddenly lobs a verbal attack in our direction. I'd like to think it's because we are civilized and were not raised in a barn. But it's probably because we are too wrapped up in our activities to notice some weirdo lurking in the corner, fuming, panting and preparing to attack an innocent bystander.

It's an assault to our daily lives and interactions, these unexpected bursts from strangers. It temporarily freezes us. Because that kind of unacceptable behavior can't be explained. The wheels in your head spin. Is the rude person demented? A homeless person? On drugs? We run through the gamet of types of people who would behave in this manner. By the time we realize the guy is just an asshole, the opportunity to respond in a timely manner has elasped.

At least that seems to be my process. How about you? You can read more about this disturbing topic in my personal blog today at this link: A Creepy English Toad at Halekulani's Orchids.

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Elizabeth Weintraub is co-partner of Weintraub & Wallace Team of Top Producing Realtors, an author, home buying expert at The Balance, a Land Park resident, and a veteran real estate agent who specializes in older, classic homes in Land Park, Curtis Park, Midtown, Carmichael and East Sacramento, as well as tract homes in Elk Grove, Natomas, Roseville and Lincoln. Call Elizabeth Weintraub at 916.233.6759. Put our combined 80 years of real estate experience to work for you. Broker-Associate at RE/MAX Gold. DRE License # 00697006.

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William Feela
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I often wonder what is so wrong in their lives that make them that way

Jan 05, 2019 09:51 AM #1
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William Feela I agree. It's like a wire got crossed or something else pressured them to explode. Hella thinks it may have been because he was bored with berating his dining partner.

Jan 05, 2019 10:00 AM #2
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Michael Jacobs
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Hello Elizabeth- - -odd is the only way to describe this situation.  Forget about it which the champagne may have helped a bit---okay, time for another glass perhaps.

Jan 05, 2019 10:26 AM #3
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Michael Jacobs I know, odd, right? I fully expected him to say, "you know, I had a similar experience with Lowes." Right after this strange encounter, we went to the Buddhist Temple for our New Year's Eve blessing. I have the cutest little golden frog, which is supposed to bring me good luck all year long now.

Jan 05, 2019 11:02 AM #4
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You have to wonder what is going on in the life of someone like the Creepy English Toad to make them verbally attack a stranger.  You can't help but feel sorry for him but his companion even more so!  I'm sure you and Hella will have fun just thinking of comebacks for the next time you are too stunned to think.

Jan 05, 2019 01:48 PM #6
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Elizabeth- I've decided that sadly there are people out there who have no life, so they feel the need to interrupt the lives of others. You handled it well!!!!  I had a similar incident in a local market here and I did look the man in the eyes and told him to "get a life."  I think I was in a bad mood that day. 

Jan 05, 2019 05:03 PM #7
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Endre Barath, Jr.
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Elizabeth sorry to hear this part of your night out, maybe it was ....well never mind....  it goes back to what I said to you the other day.... not a good day to go out, Endre

Jan 05, 2019 07:32 PM #8
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Kathy Streib I am shocked. I can not imagine you telling a stranger to "get a life" unless he did something to you.

Jan 05, 2019 07:36 PM #9
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Endre Barath, Jr. Well, for starters, this was NOT New Year's Eve. It was December 30th. LOL. Don't be such a downer on NYE, dude, we had a blast on NYE, and it didn't involve drinking or brawls. We went to see the Bill Maher Show and visited a Shinto Shrine.

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We meet all kinds of people in real estate so it takes a lot for us to even comment on beheavior.  But this was definitely odd. I can see someone saying, "hey we are trying to have a nice dinner here, keep it down." But to comment on our choice of topic (I presume he had experience with remodels) and advise us to get professional help working out our (well, YOUR) Lowe's remodel problem, well, that was just over the top. Well, creepy, especially when I saw that poor wife clutching her purse on her lap and grabbing for her water in what I presume embarrasment for her husband's (I presume) beheavior. With all the interesting things we experienced over our annual New Year's meetup, we will shake our heads over that one for awhile.

Jan 06, 2019 02:52 AM #11
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Elizabeth, it is strange when this happens, and can only imagine that wife was very embarrassed! 

Jan 06, 2019 07:21 AM #12
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That guy actually sounds a bit scary, Elizabeth. I used to be 'accosted' all the time when I lived in Abu Dhabi... I learned how to handle it and it became a game with me. 

Jan 06, 2019 07:55 AM #13
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Hella M. Rothwell, Broker/Realtor® Yes, you're right, if he thought we were disturbing his peace, he could have said so instead of mumbling gibberish.

Once, some guy followed me into a gas station convenience store and started yelling at me when I was sitting on the floor, picking through the Tootsie Roll Pops to find the cherries. It was startling and unexpected, but at least I know why he was so rude and angry. He thought I did not give him enough leeway to pass by on his bicycle when I pulled into the gas station.

Jan 06, 2019 10:26 AM #14
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Joan Cox Can't say I've ever had this particular experience happen before. And we don't know for certain that the poor woman was this pathetic person's wife. Only that she resembled a domestic abuse victim.

Jan 06, 2019 10:27 AM #15
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Nina Hollander Rude men yelled at you all the time in Abu Dhabi? What did you do?

Jan 06, 2019 10:28 AM #16
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I got so upset over this that I hit the wrong key and lost your blog, them I found you and hit unfollow, then gasped and hit follow. Wow, thank goodness, here I am again. Toad is right. What the F is his problem, I wonder?  Head of Lowes somewhere? Regardless, his behavior was out of line.  I would have hightailed it out of there too. Good for you for letting this bullfrog bully know he didn't get in the last word. 

Jan 06, 2019 10:41 AM #17
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Now, Elizabeth, that encounter couldn't have been any worse than the time you and I had lunch at the China Buffet, and when we came out, I thought some biker had parked his motorcycle so close to your car that you couldn't move it.  Do you remember that I stepped inside the little bar next door to the buffet to read the riot act to them?  You quietly escaped to the otherside of the street, while the patrons inside the bar in a friendly way invited me in.  I declined of course, when it was pointed out that it wasn't your car parked in the space, but that of the bartender!  I'm beginning to believe troublesome adventures follow you where ever you go, Elizabeth. . .Even if it isn't you that is causing them!

 

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