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Motivational Monday - The Things We Convince Ourselves

By
Real Estate Agent with Realty ONE Group Mountain Desert

There are a lot of things we convince ourselves we cannot do. Often times we get comfortable with exactly where we are, sometimes it is the fear of the unknown that holds us back, and sometimes we lack the self-confidence and sheer willpower to do the things we want to do. Our fear of failure, more times than not, is the root to the reasons why we don't start something or start something and never finish it. Fear of failure is buried below all of the things we have convinced ourselves of, as I mentioned above, and most of the time it is buried so deep that we never actually bring it to the surface. All the other ' whys " are our determining factor in the things we do or do not do. If we actually got to that root cause we would see that we convinced ourselves of so many lies.

Most of the time it takes one rejection, one mishap or misstep to convince us we will fail, so we simply stop trying. Many do not realize that those mishaps, missteps and rejection are simply stepping stones to get it to where we want to be. All too often we see these things as immediate failures rather than lesson learned. These lessons learned are what teaches us, helps us to grow and ultimately get us to exactly where we are meant to be. The problem is that rather than picking ourselves up and dusting ourselves off, we start to stare at the door that has been closed on us, focusing on the problem rather than the solution. We revert back to our comfort zone and that is where we stay. We stay there because it is familiar and we have convinced ourselves... nothing can go wrong there. By doing this we don't see all the other doors that did open for us or the doors that are about to; we focus so much on the problem that we never see the resolution. See, on the other side of what we consider failure, is success, if only we would learn and grow from the things that are trying to teach us. 

 

Helen Keller Motivational Quotes

 

Helen Keller was an American author, political activist and lecturer. She was both deaf and blind, and earned a bachelor of arts degree as the first deaf-blind person. Helen Keller had every reason to do nothing and to convince herself of the very things we convince ourselves of every single day. She did not. She did not allow her deficits to define her and limit her. From Helen Keller to athletes whom are missing limbs, if we allow their attitudes and fortitude to permeate our lives, imagine what we could and will do.  

 

More Helen Keller Quotes

 

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
 
Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.
 
Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Kat- we can be our own worst enemy, can't we. Once we convince ourselves of something, it's hard to change it. I love the quote by Helen Keller. 

Jan 07, 2019 06:18 PM
Kat DeLong

I agree, Kathy, that often we are our own enemy.   We all need to keep the words of Helen Keller with us, always.    THANK YOU for featuring my post.

Jan 07, 2019 09:01 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

                                                 

Jan 12, 2019 07:20 PM
Sheila Anderson
Referral Group Incorporated - East Brunswick, NJ
The Real Estate Whisperer Who Listens 732-715-1133

Good morning Kat. I really like the Helen Keller quote. Life isn't always fair but it isn't always good either. Mix it up.

Jan 13, 2019 05:08 AM
Kat DeLong

Hello Sheila;   Life, for sure, isn't always fair (we think), but then it isn't always bad.   Helen Keller, what an insiration to us all.

Jan 13, 2019 07:19 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Kat- - -I am glad to see Kathy feature your well-written and thoughtful post in her weekly "ah ha" post as I originally missed it.  

Jan 13, 2019 06:00 AM
Kat DeLong

Hi Michael;  I apprecaite Kathy sharing my post.  Glad you got to read it.  Have a super week.

Jan 13, 2019 07:20 AM
Debb Janes
Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
Put My Love of Nature At Work for You

Hi there Kat - another good post filled with inspiration. Self-limiting beliefs and thoughts set us up for mediocrity - or worse, keep us stuck in a moment.  Fear and fear of failure robs people of opportunity - and joy. Glad Kathy featured this today. D 

Jan 13, 2019 07:25 AM
Kat DeLong

Debb, I so agree regarding the fear issues robbing us (of so much).  

Jan 13, 2019 02:48 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good afternoon Kat DeLong ,

I'm so glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her "Ah-ha" moments for the week. I missed it and loved reading your inspiring post and the quote from Helen Keller is one to always remember.

Jan 13, 2019 01:52 PM
Kat DeLong

Thank you, Dorie!

Jan 13, 2019 02:48 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kat, I am here because of Kathy Streib  Featuring your post, and indeed what a valuable message. Yes often if we did not focus on the past we would be ahead of the game...Endre

Jan 13, 2019 07:19 PM
Kat DeLong

Hi Endre;   The pest can keep us in the past, so we should always be looking forward.

Jan 14, 2019 07:31 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

When one door closes then we move onto the next chapter and hopefully we can do it with a sense of who we are and happiness

Jan 13, 2019 11:45 PM
Kat DeLong

Laura;  Yes, that newly opened door can open so many new adventures & happiness.

Jan 14, 2019 07:33 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Endre Barath, Jr. You can’t go wrong with Kathy featuring you. That’s a great privilege for anyone these days! Shout out to Kathy Streib

Jan 13, 2019 11:48 PM
Kat DeLong

I agree, Laura. It is an honor to be featured by Kathy.  I really appreaicate the fact that she did.

Jan 14, 2019 07:34 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Oh, the things we convince ourselves! It’s absolutely incredible all the things we worry about that never come to pass!

Jan 13, 2019 11:51 PM
Kat DeLong

Wasting preious time on "things that haven't happened" is just that, a waste.  So sad.  

Jan 14, 2019 07:35 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I totally agree. We have to take failures as opportunities to learn and grow, and then try again, a little differently. If we aren't failing, we aren't trying anything new, and our lives can become stagnant. Yuck.

Jan 14, 2019 03:07 AM
Kat DeLong

I agree 100% with you, Kat.    Fall down, get up and try it a different way.  And if that doesn't work, try another way....

Jan 14, 2019 07:35 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Hey there, Kat! So good to see you here and your post featured on Kathy Streib's fabulous finds list!

You know, Helen Keller's words still ring true today and I'm so with you on handling those closed doors in our business. I truly believe that we have to fail in order to succeed and actually looking into what we could have done differently in a situation helps us go through that open door with confidence.

Happy Monday!

Jan 14, 2019 06:31 AM
Kat DeLong

Hi Debe;  I beleive you can't succeed with failure along the way.  

Jan 14, 2019 07:37 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

So glad Kathy shared this. Excellent post!

These lessons learned are what teaches us, helps us to grow and ultimately get us to exactly where we are meant to be.

Jan 14, 2019 07:13 AM
Kat DeLong

Sharon;  so, so  true.  

Jan 14, 2019 07:38 AM
Margaret Goss
@Properties - Winnetka, IL
Chicago's North Shore & Winnetka Real Estate

Thanks for the Monday motivation - a post like this should be featured every Monday morning!

Jan 14, 2019 07:40 AM
Kat DeLong

Thank you so much, Margaret.

Jan 14, 2019 09:12 PM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Kat DeLong, failure is part of success, we just have to accept it and keep moving. Love the Helen Keller quote. 

Jan 15, 2019 06:24 AM
Kat DeLong

I totally agree with you, Beth.   We actually learn so much from failures, I beleive.  

Jan 15, 2019 09:15 AM
Gwen Fowler SC Lakes & Mountains 864-710-4518
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc - Walhalla, SC
Gwen Fowler Real Estate, Inc.

I love this quote so much. One of my favorite biographies is Helen Keller. Such a great way to start the week with a quote from her. 

Jan 15, 2019 07:59 AM
Kat DeLong
Realty ONE Group Mountain Desert - Prescott, AZ
REALTOR

Gwen,  Helen Keller was (and still is) such an inpiration to us all.

Jan 15, 2019 09:16 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Kat

I really liked what you had to say...been there done that a few times. Thanks for the inspiration. And that quote of Helen Keller’s is an excellent one!

Jeff

Jan 15, 2019 04:11 PM
Kat DeLong

Thank you, Jeff.  I think we can all say we've been there done that,  a few times.   And Helen Keller; such an inspiration to all.

Jan 15, 2019 04:20 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Love your post!  That is a powerful way to move forward when you feel stymied.  Conicidentally, my Granddaughter is attending Norther Alabama Universarity in Florence, Alabama, which was Helen Keller's hometown. I've visited her childhood home when living in Huntsville.  She has a powerful presence at NAU.  Great quote!

Jan 17, 2019 10:12 AM