Can you change your view?

Real Estate Agent with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 PA License - AB067198

Real estate is often said to be all about location, location, location. I was reading something this morning which was talking about perspective and seeing things from a different perspective or view. It got me to thinking about changing your view or your location. 

I realize also how we talk about things can change how people view things. I remember when I was at the doctor and discussing some test results a few years ago he presented them as "there is 30% or greater chance this is aggressive". That did not sound good. But later, when I thought about it, I thought so there was a 70% or less chance it was not aggressive. How it is presented will affect us.

The same goes for news, politics, opinions etc. If we are able to change our perspective and see things from a different angle of from a different viewpoint we may be able to hear what others are saying. Ron and Alexandra Seigel wrote a couple of days ago about listening from the heart or from the mind.

For many years I listened from the mind. Always waiting to jump in with my wonderful opinion, and wanting to "WIN" the discussion or conversation. It took a while for me to learn to listen fully, to actually try and hear what the other person was saying. To listen from my heart rather than my mind. A change of perspective.

What could you do differently if you changed perspective, looked at a situation differently. 

I always say to people who tell me that something is impossible, if you break that down it becomes I'm possible! a different perspective. The 4 minute mile was always thought impossible, till it was run, then others began breaking the 4  minute mark as well.

Are you limiting yourself because you are seeing something from the same old vantage point. Can you shift and see it from a different perspective? 

Many coaches encourage you to look back from a position of having succeeded and think about how you got there, then set up a plan to complete those stages. A different perspective than looking ahead and thinking how do I get there.

I am writing this for myself as much as for anyone. What do I need to see differently? How can I change my perspective? What would I do differently if I looked at it from a different perspective.

Just some random thoughts and musings for a Tuesday morning. What will you look at differently?

Do you believe you cannot buy a Main Line or Tredyffrin Easttown home? Maybe you need a different perspective or to just know the options. Contact Nick Vandekar, Selling the Main Line at Long & Foster Real Estate Inc., office 610-225-7400, cell or text 610-203-4543, email,

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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Pat Champion I agree totally with you. 

Jan 24, 2019 02:29 PM #21
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224

Nick- how we see and react or respond to things or people depends upon our view. And as you said that 70% chance that it wasn't aggressive sounds a lot better than 30% that is was. The same thing but from a different view. 

Jan 26, 2019 09:41 AM #22
Kathy Streib
Room Service Home Staging - Delray Beach, FL
Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224


Jan 26, 2019 07:21 PM #23
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667 (MT), 914-419-0270 (NY), Broker in NY with Grand Lux Realty and in MT with (coming soon!) - Kalispell, MT
The House Kat

It can be somewhat difficult to stop, step back, and try to look at something from a different perspective. But if that different viewpoint is found, the result can be so helpful and satisfying!

Jan 27, 2019 03:26 AM #24
John Henry
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

A different viewpoint on matters is always good.  You might find an easier solution, a better approach to the problem, an understanding from the other players that illuminates motivations, etc.  Thank you.

Jan 27, 2019 04:17 AM #25
Peter Mohylsky
PrimeSouth Properties - Santa Rosa Beach, FL
Let me help you find your path to the beach.

A different perspective is always nice and thanks for the reminder.

Jan 27, 2019 04:31 AM #26
Barbara Todaro
RE/MAX Executive Realty - Franklin, MA
Marketing Agent for The Todaro Team

Good morning,  Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 it's usually very difficult to change a perspective on an important situation.... but it's possible if the individual has an open mind.....

Jan 27, 2019 04:50 AM #27
Sally K. & David L. Hanson
EXP Realty 414-525-0563 - Brookfield, WI
WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce

Great way to learn from analysis...and grow from the experience !

Jan 27, 2019 05:00 AM #28
Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
ViewHomes of Clark County - Nature As Neighbors - Camas, WA
REALTORS® in Clark County, WA

Some wise person, long ago, told me this: What if,  instead of people always arguing their opinion?, they took the time to really  listen to another person's perspective and find out why he, or she, thinks that way? My father and I were always on opposite sides in politics - what a different it made in our ability to communicate, when I just sat and listened with an open-mind, and an open-heart. I learned  so much more about him and it strengthened our relationship. 

Jan 27, 2019 07:11 AM #29
Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Nick

Thanks for your thoughtful post. It's important to realize we should try to look at, consider, and listen to different perspectives. That can sometimes be a challenge if we let it be or are so committed to our own viewpoint we cannot consider others.


Jan 27, 2019 08:47 AM #30
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, sometimes, we're just stuck in the past that we can not see how it would look if we approached things in a different way. I've learned to listen with my heart as Ron and Alexandra Seigel suggest many years ago and that has served me well. There may be more than one way to get to the finish line if we take a pause and explore. Thank you for this great post.

Jan 27, 2019 11:31 AM #31
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Kathy Streib thank you, and yes a different viewpoint or statistic can change your opinion.

Kat Palmiotti yes, it is hard to do, we are so programmed in our thinking that we react rather than respond. Worth working on to change in my opinion.

Very true, John Henry hearing others opinions can helpyou find a different path. We don't all travel the same path to the destination.

Peter Mohylsky, Bucket List always good to get a reminder now and then.

Barbara Todaro that is very true, one of the things I was most impressed by on my Camino walk was how open minded every one was. 

Jan 28, 2019 06:48 AM #32
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Sally K. & David L. Hanson we should always be open to learning.

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD several years ago I realized, or learnt I did not have to "win" every conversation. That allowed me to listen more and really hear what was being said, often different from what I initially thought. I like your thought very much.

Jeff Dowler, CRS we need to come with an open mind and an open heart, then we can truly listen and understand the person on the other side.

Beth Atalay I totally agree with you. There are many paths, and if we are open we may find a better way and learn what we thought was hard can be easy.

Jan 28, 2019 06:53 AM #33
Joyce Marsh
Regal | Christie's International Real Estate - Orlando, FL
Regional Manager Regal Christie's Int'l Realty

I really like the idea of looking back from a position of success and setting up a plan to complete the stages to get there... Very wise thinking.


Jan 28, 2019 08:38 AM #34
Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods

I have gotten the best results when I said, "STOP! Let's start over - let's take a look at this from another vantage point." It works - delightfully sometimes, Nick!

Jan 28, 2019 09:08 AM #35
Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Great post and a reminder that patience is a virtue when listening to someone whose opinion may differ from our own. Listen fully - great thoughts here!

Jan 28, 2019 11:03 AM #36
Michael Eisenberg
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham Real Estate Guy

Change is usually good for us, and we often need to take a good look or change of perspective to see we may need a little change.

Jan 28, 2019 01:09 PM #37
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Joyce Marsh, Daytona Ormond Beach Florida thank you, have to admit, something I have learned, not always the best at applying it though.

Debe Maxwell, CRS stopping is always a good idea and thinking it through. 

Jan Green thank you, appreciate the compliment.

I think unless pushed Michael Eisenberg not many of us change willingly. Usually it is pain or fear rather than anything else which causes us to change.

Jan 29, 2019 08:15 AM #38
Kimo Jarrett
WikiWiki Realty - Huntington Beach, CA
Pro Lifestyle Solutions

Your perspective could always change with new information. So, it's always about your ideology as to whether you'll be open to apply new information on issues because some beliefs are so difficult if not unacceptable to change. 

Feb 28, 2019 03:06 AM #40
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor, Philly Main Line

Kimo Jarrett Iagree, being open is important, we can learn something every day or reject what we read, hear or talk about.

Feb 28, 2019 06:29 AM #41
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