How is Carmen? This has been the question in the most recent past...

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Sometimes it is hard to write a post, not because there is no inspiration, rather it is the subject matter that is hard to write about. We as Realtors are trained and programed, and it is in our DNA to write wonderful, positive and inspirational posts.

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There are times this is not possible, and we opt not to write anything. Other times we reach in to our inner self and say it is OK to write and hope no one will be sad or depressed. As a Pet Friendly Realtor in the Greater Los Angeles area, not every day is a “happy or positive day”!

Many of you have been asking me : “how is Carmen??” Diane and I appreciated your caring and concerned private emails, phone calls as well as your public comments on my posts. Words are difficult to convey how much we were touched by your care and concerns.

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Sadly, at this point there is no easy way to say this: I wish I had better news!!! Have you heard of the word: Hemangiosarcoma??? I have not heard of it until about four hours ago.

Hemangiosarcoma is cancer of the vascular endothelium, or the blood vessel walls. It accounts for 0.2 to 3 percent of all canine tumors with a mean age at diagnosis of 9 to12 years.(1)Hemangiosarcoma most commonly affects the spleen and heart of golden retrievers, Labrador retrievers and German shepherds.

Hemangiosarcoma (HSA) also called malignant hemangioendothelioma or angiosarcoma is a deadly cancer that originates in the endothelium and invades the blood vessels. Hemangiosarcoma is more common in dogs than any other species.

The patient survives between 19-86 days. Surgery combined with chemotherapy increases the median survival days from 141 to 179 days. 

 

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The question is what is best for Carmen? Is it better to continue treatment? Or are we doing it for us, who love Carmen? Is it fair to either of us? Diane and I have had to face this question many times in the past 24 years, painfully we always made the right decision what was best for our pets. Not necessarily what was the best for us “as the parents”. Here in Carmen’s case we wanted to give her the best life for her. The idea was to give her a wonderful few years for the remainder of her life by taking her from the Lange Foundation.

We are all in pain hearing the sad news, the worst part is, this time it is not our decision. We only had her for a few days. Some people might say. That is the good news! Sadly,  I beg to differ,  that it is not our decision, for me it makes it even harder.

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There are so many Lange Volunteers who loved her,  and when they heard the news, that Carmen got adopted, they were thrilled. Sadly, they were on an emotional Roller Coaster Ride when she was returned. Then when Diane and I decided to bring her home, they were thrilled again. Now they are finding out the bad news again. It is truly sad.

As Marcus Aurelius said: …both the longest-lived and the earliest to die suffer the same loss. It is  only the present moment of which either stand to be deprived: and if indeed this is all he has, he cannot lose what he does not have….

Now if you are looking for a Pet Friendly Realtor in the Greater Los Angeles area who will look out for your interest, i.e.: what is best for you. Please reach out to me directly!

 

If you are looking for a knowledgeable, focused and goal-oriented Realtor in the Beverly Hills area who will help you achieve your Real Estate goals, please reach out to me directly!

If you are looking for a pet friendly Beverly Hills Realtor who can handle and sell the most difficult properties that no one else could, please reach out to me directly!! If you are considering buying or selling a home, a luxury home, luxury investment real estate, luxury vacation homes, or luxury beach properties in Southern California, Los Angeles, Century City, Westwood, West Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Marina Del Rey, Venice or Malibu, feel free to contact me at 310.486.1002 (m) or homes@endrebarath.com or visit one of my websites at https://www.endrebarath.com  I contribute a portion of my commission to local animal rescue organizations.

 

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Silvia Dukes PA, Broker Associate, CRS, CIPS, SRES
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Endre, I'm so sorry to hear this news. It never is easy to make these decisions, I'm sure you will do what is right for little Carmen.

Jan 30, 2019 06:20 PM #19
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Endre, I hated reading this post. I, too, feel the pain your and Diane are going through. We had a Tibettan Terrier that had prostrate cancer. The Vet gave us medicine for Geo, and he was good for a while. Then not moving at all we had to put him down. It was just terrible. So hard to lose our fur babies. I had an artist draw a picture of Geo for my husband's birthday a year before he got sick. We still have it and talk about Geo often. I didn't want another dog, but so glad Zeke is in our lives.

Jan 30, 2019 07:26 PM #20
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This is not the answer I thought you were going to get this afternoon, Endre. I know your hearts are broken in a million pieces and as you said, your time together has no bearing on the heartbreak - you've been in love since you met her. 

I also think your decision is the right one - putting a family member through the stress of treatments for US to have them for a few weeks longer is not the humane thing to do - ever - humans or fur babies.

Oh, I am so very sorry - I know words don't help heal your hearts. Know that we're sending you and Diane hugs from Charlotte. 

Jan 30, 2019 07:47 PM #21
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Endre Barath, Jr.
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James Dray  I do understand indeed, thank you, Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:06 PM #22
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Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400  thank you for stopping in and did not mean to make you sad, Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:07 PM #23
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Michael Jacobs  we all have our own dramas and at times like this we forget that others have issues and problems that dwarf ours, thank you for your friendship, Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:09 PM #24
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Nina Hollander  it is never easy. Out of all of our pets Mr Bond was the only one who did not ask for us to make that decision.... that is another story I might share one day...Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:10 PM #25
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Beth Atalay  you are one of the kindest people I have ever had the pleasure to get to know, thank you for your friendship, Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:11 PM #26
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Gabe Sanders  you make some good points, thank you for your kind support,Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:23 PM #27
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Sheila Anderson  thank you for your kind concern and caring when you have your own troubles to deal with. Carmen is at Lange and Diane and I wen to see her this afternoon. She would not walk with anyone...but when she saw Diane she got up and we took her for a small walk, Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:25 PM #28
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Grant Schneider  thank you for your support, Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:26 PM #29
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Ron and Alexandra Seigel Diane and I have the same philosophy and Carmen was going to take Schmoie's job of being my assistant...Endre

Jan 30, 2019 11:28 PM #30
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I am so sorry to hear about Carmen. I was hoping you would have better news. It doesn't matter whether someone was loved for a long time or a short time; it hurts just as much when we lose them. (Marcus Aurelius has some great quotes).

 

Jan 31, 2019 04:07 AM #31
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Endre, my heart breaks for all of you. I am so sorry. Animals make such a positive impact on our lives and give so much love that losing them is beyond painful. I admire your strength to make the kind decision for Carmen.

Jan 31, 2019 05:35 AM #32
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Endre,

I thought of you yesterday, when we stopped in the cat shelter, to donate all the towels we had used when we moved to wrap fragile things in.  We had a huge bag.  We checked out the shelter, and they were done to very few cats (15).  Many were bonded pairs.  They have built a large enclosed outdoor section for the cats complete with trees and jungle gyms.  At 10:30 the cages open, and the cats go out to pay.  Santa Barbara luxury...

And the dog shelter has the same arrangement...So many animal lovers in our coounty.  A

Jan 31, 2019 07:28 AM #33
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Endre I know that you and Diane had formed a close bond with Carmen very quickly, so I am sure this new must have both your stomachs tied up in knots.  All you can do is make her remaining days as comfortable and loving as possible.

Jan 31, 2019 03:24 PM #34
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Oh Endre Barath, Jr. this breaks my heart, Carmen is such a beautiful girl and I can only say that she knows the love that you and Diane have for her.  My friend, you are all in my prayers

Feb 02, 2019 04:15 AM #35
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD  there has been little improvements since I wrote this post, hope to give a good update today or tomorrow, Endre

Feb 02, 2019 02:16 PM #36
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!  wow 20 year old kitties, we have done the giving fluids daily to one of ours that was Douggy, funny Diane knows how to read blood work results real well:)Endre

Feb 02, 2019 02:18 PM #37
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Mike Cooper, GRI  I appreciate your kind words and never heard that quote from Napoleon, oh boy how true and appropriate, thank you, Endre

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