Is Your Cell Phone Ruining Relationships with Those in Front of You?
Oh my goodness, what a timely find! I was meeting with potential sellers the other day and while waiting for a response from a vendor FOR those same sellers, I felt quite odd having my phone lying beside me. Before I pulled it out of my handbag, I explained to the potential sellers that, if they didn’t mind, I thought I could get them an answer within a couple of minutes, “…and I’ll put my phone right away.”
They both looked puzzled at one another and she said, “Of course, we don’t mind if you need to make or take calls!”
Well, now I looked puzzled and responded that I never have my phone out when I am with others, explaining that I was there to focus on their needs. Both responded with a, “Wow, that’s rare!”
She went further to say, “I wish I had that discipline - I am admittedly, hopelessly addicted to my phone.”
I texted the vendor, got them an answer and as I gave them that answer, the phone found its way immediately back into my bag.
I received a call yesterday that I ‘got the job’ from those sellers. This morning, we had a quick meeting to review their timeline and preparation strategies. As the meeting was over, she said, “You know, we had dinner last night without our phones. We both realized that we hadn’t laughed so much at dinner alone in a long time. We attributed it to all of the negativity we see online as we read our alerts while eating. I thank you for starting a new trend in our home - I’m actually looking forward to dinner tonight already!”
Now, I will admit to having my phone by my side during dinner when I’m negotiating a Contract - otherwise, it stays in my office until dinner is over. Thinking about her words, I will say that I can tell a difference in my own ‘mindset’ when my phone has me 'on alert' while in front of others - you’re simply not totally present with those in front of you; you may think you are but, the message that you're sending to those who are in front of you is that you're not.
Please take 3 minutes to watch this video to the end - it spoke volumes to me and again, how timely to find this video after just having two conversations about this very subject in the past few days!
Disagree if you wish but, I challenge you to be attentive of those around you and how YOU feel when they are talking to YOU, while holding their phones - do this for a few days. It truly does send a message that you are not as important as you should be to them.
© Debe Maxwell | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | CharlotteBroker@icloud.com | Is Your Cell Phone Ruining Relationships with Those in Front of You?