Confidence is Charismatic!

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Real Estate Agent with John L Scott Market Center 700512026

Pacific City Landscape Photo by: Gayle Rich-Boxman

Do you ever notice that when you're feeling on top of the world others seem to be drawn to you? People pick up on good energy, confidence and because you're emanating that almost through your pores, it finds its way into the essence of others, whether they are  consciously aware of it or not. 

You don't have to be physically beautiful to attract a second look; a need for that person next to you to want to exchange a glance, a conversation, a friendship. Maya Angelou was iconic and she never felt that she was a beauty. Her magic, her groundedness, her spirit for joy and kindness caused all around her to take notice and pay attention to what she had to say. And we all found her to be beautiful. Being supremely confident, she even drew the need for another iconic woman, Oprah Winfrey to call her when she had down moments. One of my favorite stories is when Oprah called her crying about something she thought someone had done to her and Maya wisely told her: Stop your crying right now and be thankful. Because, you know God put a rainbow in every cloud. The rainbow is coming. Say thank you even though you can't see the rainbow. It's already there". 

 

Surround yourself with people who bolster you, who truly think you are beautiful inside! Who tell you you are. The ones that mean it. 

My sister sent me a card last year. On the front it said:

Ignore the Rain

Look for the Rainbow 

On the inside it said:

If anyone can find it, you can

(never forget how amazing you are). 

 

And she wrote such a beautiful message to me: 

My Dear, dear, dear sister, I saw this card and thought of you instantly. You are a rainbow. Thank you for loving me like you do....

 

I keep this card where I can see it regularly as it is a reminder that I AM a rainbow and I love rainbows! And I not only love my sister dearly, but respect her highly. My sister is one of the most confident people I will ever know. She was terribly shy growing up, and would hide behind my mom's legs when someone came around. She is also one of the smartest people I'll ever know to boot. She has a killer sense of humor and is an amazing  storyteller. She is an incredibly dynamic and successful businesswoman, mom and dear friend to many, including me. And people love her!

 

 

Confidence can be a "muscle" that you stretch and grow if you focus on it moment-to-moment. Looking at yourself with love and no judgement is an exercise we ought to do every single day. And optimism has to be one of the ingredients for creating that recipe of confidence as well. Kindness to yourself will most definitely generate the feeling of sending out kindness to others. All of these attributes create charisma and no matter who you are and your station in life, you can work on it and grow it and it will change your world. And those around you will be touched as well. 

 

 

 

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Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate
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Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP always like seeing you! I do try to find the rainbow in every day...i.e., blessings! Hoping you do, too. 

Mar 04, 2019 07:31 PM #33
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Gayle- I am so happy that your post was featured because it is absolutely wonderful. You exude such a warm and loving personality, how could anyone not be drawn to you!?   If we can give one thing to our children it would be to have confidence in themselves. 

Mar 04, 2019 07:40 PM #34
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Kathy Streib you are so very right about placing confidence into our children. Really, placing confidence in all whom we encounter in some small way can make a WORLD of difference. We are connected, after all. What we give is what we shall receive in return. And it just FEELS good, frankly, to make someone else feel better about themselves! 

Thank you for passing those words of positivity onto me. I am basking in them! 

Mar 04, 2019 07:50 PM #35
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We all radiate energy - whether it is positive or negative is entirely up to us. You give off positive energy in every word you write. I love it!

I also love what you have to say about your sister, and know that the two of you of you are blessed to have each other.

Mar 04, 2019 08:01 PM #36
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OH my gosh, you KNOW I love this post, my friend! 

I am so fortunate to know you and can say that you ARE that rainbow, indeed. Your sister knows you well! There are very few peoople that you meet that you can truly say are beautiful inside and out - and you are one of those people! Of course, not that you have to be physically beautiful - but, you've got that too!

I've met so many people that I thought were attractive when I first met them, later realizing that I no longer thought they were attractive, simply because they were NOT beautiful on the inside. Does that make sense?

I love this post and it's SO you! I agree, there's no reason to surround yourself with those who do not bolster you - life is just too short.

And, the I AM - I'm definitely going to try that, Gayle! Thank you for that tip.

Hugs!

Mar 04, 2019 09:24 PM #37
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Hi Gayle:

This post is just filled with wonderful messages and inspiration from start to finish, and some powerful quotes. Thank you for such a thoughtful read!!

Jeff

Mar 04, 2019 10:15 PM #38
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Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD
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Congrats on the feature. Don't see you much in the Rain of late. I guess you're spending  more time appreciating  the rainbows in life. Worthy pursuit too. Lovely post and what a wonderful gift from your sister. 

Mar 05, 2019 08:16 AM #39
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Marte Cliff you have a special place in my heart. And the energy you exude is so giving and empathetic! Really happy to know you.

Debe Maxwell, CRS I could repeat all of those words right back to YOU. We definitely are connected and I am thrilled that we have found each other here in the Rain to "bolster" one another!

Jeff Dowler, CRS Aren't those quotes great????!!!!! Simple but deep. Happy to oblige. 

Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD it's been very busy around here with real estate, even with mounds of snow blocking driveways of my listings. But, I have stepped it up here in the Rain, writing more often than I did last year at this time. Rainbows, yes, doing art, in all spare moments (not many of those) and we now have Golden #3, our pup, Rogue! Hoping you are finding those rainbows as well. (And of course you know what it's like to have a terrific sister).

 

 

Mar 05, 2019 08:39 AM #40
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A well deserved feature.  A smile can always lead to a positive result, and you have a warm, happy smile

Mar 05, 2019 09:01 AM #41
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Thank you so much Ed Silva! I don't think I'm going to be able to find a postcard for your grandson in time! (We now have a new pup and my-oh-my, he takes up a lot of time). Real estate is hopping up here, too! Just put another one of my listings into sale pending!!! Hope you are successful as well. So good to see you back in the Rain.

 

Mar 05, 2019 10:05 AM #42
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Gayle people are drawn to positive people, and tend to run away from negative ones.  If we take the time to truly look we will find a silver lining even in the most bleak moments.

Mar 05, 2019 03:57 PM #43
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George Souto, you are spot one!  No matter WHAT I go look for that rainbow, that moment of optimism and sunlight and color! It helps you get through any situation. 

Scarlett O'Hara had it right: Tomorrow is another day! 

Mar 05, 2019 05:50 PM #44
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Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate  You van help with positive thoughts. Besides Debb Janes EcoBroker and Bernie Stea JD  was going to send one from Washington and Oregon

Mar 06, 2019 05:03 AM #45
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Good morning Gayle Rich-Boxman Fishhawk Lake Real Estate - outstanding thought for the day.  I call this the attitude of gratitude.  Every day there are clouds but it matters what we make of them.  There is a rainbow in each and a silver lining.

Mar 06, 2019 05:56 AM #46
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This is so true! Even when presenting bad news to a client..try to soften the blow a bit with a confident  attitude that the situation will work out.  When meeting someone who is confident, makes a big difference .

Mar 06, 2019 10:46 AM #47
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Mary Hutchison, SRES, ABR there are certainly ways to deal with any situation by being empathetic while showing confidence that there will always be a resolution of sorts. 

Mar 07, 2019 07:09 AM #48
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Gayle what an awesome post, love,  love & love it, it is spot on, Endre

Mar 07, 2019 09:57 PM #49
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Endre Barath, Jr. I always value your opinion, and am honored that you love this post! Have a wonderful weekend, my friend! 

Mar 08, 2019 07:34 AM #50
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God didn't give me a sister, but life and fate gave me two great ones in my inlaws.  I love that your sister reconizes the rainbow you are and that you love yourself enough to keep the reminder in site.  

Mar 13, 2019 01:31 PM #51
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Tammy Lankford, I feel so totally blessed that I landed in a great immediate family of four! My parents are/were (we lost Dad waaaaaaaay too early) absolutely terrific, each in their own ways. And my sister is INCREDIBLE! I couldn't pick a better soul if I'd been given the opportunity. 

Thank you for your sweet thoughts. And I'm so happy that you have great in-laws! Can't pick those, either!!! 

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