I cut the strings!

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Real Estate Agent with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 PA License - AB067198

About 10 days ago I was listening to a podcast about digital minimalism. It got me thinking and asking questions about my use of social media and my "smart phone".

Does social media make me more social? Does it help me in business? Am I present when I have my phone with me?

I did not find the answers easy and pondered them and thought about them. I am a people person, so I dived into social media. I post everywhere, I enjoy it, I like reading about others and what they do. I caught up with some old friends through Facebook.

But, did I really have a relationship, or was I just looking in from the outside?

Were they really friends?

The last few days I made a decision, to delete Twitter from my phone and delete my account.

Yesterday, I did the same with Facebook, deleting my business pages and my personal account. 

For now I am keeping Instagram, LinkedIn and Pinterest. Why these? I am still assessing them for now. Will I ever return to Facebook or Twitter - maybe, maybe not, just deactivating my accounts I saw how hard they make it and encourage you that you are free to return in 14 days and resume. Made me think about addicition, if they believe you will want to return within 14 days.

When I am honest with myself I have not seen any business come directly from either Twitter or Facebook. Sure people can find me, and see what my life is like but is that what I really want?

The answer was no, with a capital N. So I cut myself off. I am sure I will reach for my phone and wonder what people are up to, but I can call them and talk with them. Those who live close, I can meet for coffee or a meal. And I know when I am there I WILL BE THERE.

One of ther important things said in the podcast was that just having a smart phone on the table leads to less understanding and much more distraction. We have forgotten how to focus and reach for our phones for distraction all the time.

Since my return from my camino last year, I have been shedding things. I realized I need much less than "the world and the advertisers" have been telling me. Likewise, I don't need social media. I can live without it. 

I am free to choose what I listen to or not. I can sit in the quiet, listening to nature and just think and ponder. I can call friends any time I wish.

I am free, I have cut the strings!

So if you want a Tredyffrin Easttown Realtor who is focused and pays attention to your needs whether you are buying or selling a home call me, Nick Vandekar, Selling the Main Line with Long & Foster Real Estate Inc., office 610-225-7400, cell or text 610-203-4543, email Nick@VandekarTeam.com, website www.SellingTheMainLine.com

 

 

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Rainmaker
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Richie Alan Naggar
people first...then business Ran Right Realty - Riverside, CA
agent & author

What people don't realize is that all these outside sources/applications require a piece of the person to make them work. My energy/focus is reserved by me to hit target, maintain commitment and ensure results. The rest is on stand-by...

Mar 28, 2019 07:30 AM #19
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Marie Story
Coldwell Banker - Pinecrest (Miami) - Pinecrest, FL
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To answer your first 3 questions Nick, No, No and No!

So I guess now I'm no longer the only one here without a Facebook page!  

 

Mar 28, 2019 07:42 AM #20
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Elizabeth Weintraub Sacramento Realtor Top 1%
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My husband closed his Facebook account after the first disaster of lies and failure to protect personal information. It was a hard procedure, too, like you say.

I don't really do social media. If people want to tell me something, they know my phone number and email. However, I do maintain business pages (because it is expected). But social media I pretty much ignore -- too much white noise.

And don't get me started about the racists on Next Door. TMI about my neighbors.

Mar 28, 2019 07:56 AM #21
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Beth Paterson
Reverse Mortgages SIDAC, LLC, NMLS #1790592 - Saint Paul, MN
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We each have to do what we feel for ourselves. I have found Facebook valuable in keeping in touch with friends from childhood. In fact, this week I just reconnected with 2 childhood friends this week that mean the world to me but I had lost touch with. Ones health is fragile so I'm glad to have reconnected so we can share what we have meant to each other before it's too late. (Being 2 years older than me, she taught me to walk.)

I have also found that through social media my associates have been able to see me and my life outside of business. I also get to see them and get to know more about them and their families and life.

I respect you, and others, who choose to decide if, and when, to cut their ties with the various social media platforms.

Mar 28, 2019 08:08 AM #22
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Ben DeHaven
Haven Realty & Investments - Winter Haven, FL
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I'm doing the opposite, Getting back on Facebook and posting what we do all the time. I do have "newsfeed eradicator" that keeps me from getting lost on my feed while at work. 

Mar 28, 2019 08:52 AM #23
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Corinne Guest
Corinne Guest, REALTOR® | Barrington Realty Company - Barrington, IL
Barrington Lifestyles

I cut mine a few years back but came across a big time hitch. It severed my ties with family overseas and as we dont do the phone thing much I rejoined. I would love to kill it all, but I have to be careful, it has it's uses especially when you have an aging parent 4000 miles away and my family can hit me in seconds if need be.

Mar 28, 2019 08:54 AM #24
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Wayne L. Brown
Franklin Advantage Inc. - Alpine, CA

Endre Barath, Jr. 

I agree with Endre.

One never knows.

Always good to keep.......and let go dormant if you wish.......but it's your choice.

Best of luck.

Mar 28, 2019 09:36 AM #25
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Mike Frazier
Carousel Realty of Dyer County - Dyersburg, TN
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My twitter feed doesn't make me any money but my facebook account does.

Mar 28, 2019 10:08 AM #26
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Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Prado Real Estate South - St. George, UT
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Good for you to make the commitment with what works for you. The best to you Nick!

Mar 28, 2019 10:09 AM #27
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Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hi Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543, if it works for you, then, you must do it. Access of anything can be harmful. Many of my clients found me through social media so I will continue to use the sites that are effective and one of them is Facebook.

Mar 28, 2019 11:21 AM #28
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Maureen Bray Portland OR Home Stager ~ Room Solutions Staging
Room Solutions Staging, Portland OR - Portland, OR
"Staging that Sells Portland Homes"

Congratulations! It makes sense to do what works best for you and your business.  FB and Twitter are such time-wasters!  There's a whole world out there to enjoy in person ....  

Mar 28, 2019 12:42 PM #29
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Amanda S. Davidson
Amanda Davidson Real Estate Group Brokered By eXp Realty - Ashburn, VA
Alexandria Virginia Homes For Sale

Nick, I've gotten a lot of business from Facebook but, Twitter isn't one that has been a winner for me. I think we all have to do what works for us and admire your ability to cut the strings. It had to feel really freeing!

Mar 28, 2019 12:46 PM #30
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Dorie Dillard CRS GRI ABR
Coldwell Banker United Realtors® ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
Serving Buyers & Sellers in NW Austin Real Estate

Good evening Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 ,

Good for you! I say everyone needs to ponder some on what is working for them and what they enjoy and spend the time accordingly! Congrats on the featured post...well deserved!

Mar 28, 2019 04:47 PM #31
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Jill Sackler
Charles Rutenberg Realty Inc. 516-575-7500 - Long Beach, NY
LI South Shore Real Estate - Broker Associate

In the beginning, I dove right into the social sites but after a while, I found I was losing interest also. I wonder at times where ActiveRain will take us.

Mar 28, 2019 05:16 PM #32
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Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
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Good for you.  All that stuff is so overhyped.  I think that the younger generations would be wise to step back and look at the big picture too.  I still don't get LinkedIn even though I have thousands of connections. 

Mar 28, 2019 08:51 PM #33
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Kat Palmiotti
Grand Lux Realty, Monroe NY, 914-419-0270, kat@thehousekat.com - Monroe, NY
The House Kat

Good for you for making a decision to change something that isn't working for you. I also love that the camino gave you insight about ways to improve your life. So cool.

Mar 29, 2019 03:53 AM #34
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Jeff Dowler, CRS
Solutions Real Estate - Carlsbad, CA
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Hi Nick:

Well I am not ready to do what you did, but good for you for making a decision that is right for you, your philosophy, and your personal and business life.

Have a great weekend!

Jeff

Mar 29, 2019 12:19 PM #35
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Michael Eisenberg
eXp Realty - Bellingham, WA
Bellingham Real Estate Guy

Good luck with that, you'll probably end up with better real friends.

 

Mar 29, 2019 12:45 PM #36
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Jan Green
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

You must feel refreshed not having to spend time on social media  in that way.  I agree it takes a lot of time and attention to be proactive, responsive and to what end?  Unless you spend an inordinate amount of time on it, it doesn't offer many benefits for business.  I do, however, love seeing all of my out of state friends, family and many others so I'm keeping it for the time being.  

Apr 03, 2019 05:39 PM #37
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Kathy Streib
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Hi Nick- I bet it's opened up a whole new world for you!!! I spend about 5-10 minutes a day on Facebook primarily checking in on family and friends and those cute animal videos but that's about it. I do agree that we're missing the art of the phone conversation or meeting for a cup of coffee or lunch to keep in touch with our friends. 

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